Hi-
I was at a friends home with my 3 1/2 year old on a play date. My son gets along great with my friends 4 year old girl, but the last time we had her over she would not let my son play with his own toys and also would not clean up when I asked her to, she threw some toys around. Couple of times I have caught my son pushing /trying to shove her and have corrected him. This time I saw him coming bounding into a room and this girl pushed him and he fell hitting his head on the coffee table and we immediately went over to take charge of the situiation. My friend did not act too concerned, she showed some and then proceeded to discipline her daughter who also started crying and apologized, but I am a doctor and I saw visions of him falling over and breaking his neck and was very upset so I went home. I was expecting my friend to call later that day but she did not. The next day when she did not call by noon, I completely lost it and called her up and started venting, I told her about how I have seen her daughter behave badly more than once and how she had hurt my son without any provocation and how she ( my friend ) dismissed the whole incident and did not seem to care too much about what happened to my son and how I thought their atmosphere at home was causing this type of behaviour and all that. My friend first was calm and she told me that she had seen my son push her daughter down before this happened and I had not seen it. I called her a liar and she also started yelling and then hung up. She then wrote me an email apologizing about not showing the requisite amount of concern and also apologized on behalf of her daughter but put a line in there telling me how she would not stand by and have me talk down her kid and her family and terminated the friendship. Her husband called me the next day to ask if our son was doing alright and again I told him how I thought his daughter was was on a downward slide and called his wife a liar again, he did not respond to that ( he's a nice guy ) telling me that he did not want to get into all that just wanting to know if my son was ok.
Did I over-react ? I need some validation here from people who may have been in similar situitations.