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embarrassing toddler tantrums - a young lad said "please don't hurt him" as I hoiked screaming ds out of a shop today

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deaconblue · 27/08/2008 21:47

He yelled "help" at the top of his voice, arched his back and went purple just because he wouldn't leave the shop voluntarily and I carted him out over my shoulder. Poor lad of about 10 really thought ds was being hurt and looked so upset. I stopped and explained why ds was yelling but was soooooooo emabarrassed.
Anyone else own a little wotsit like mine?

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SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore · 27/08/2008 21:51

when having to be dragged down the street kicking and screaming dd1 often shouts "you are not mummy some one help i dont want to go with this lady" [angry}

thisisyesterday · 27/08/2008 21:52

oh bless at the other little boy, that's really sweet.

Mamazon · 27/08/2008 21:53

Ds has a habbit of screaming "don't hit me" and "help" at the top of his lungs whilst throwing himself around teh floor.

if you didn't know better you would be convinced he was a battered child.

Quite often i lok at him and think he will be if he doesnt shut up!

Lazarou · 27/08/2008 21:55

Whenever I get the scissors out ds1 says 'don't cut me', usually loud enough for the neighbours to hear.

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deaconblue · 27/08/2008 22:00

Poor lad looked so concerned I had to stop. Wasn't he a brave lad to speak out when he thought the little monkey was being hurt? I just said "I'm not hurting him, he's just really cross because he doesn't want to leave this shop". Lad's mother looked on in sympathy as I wrestled ds into the buggy. Was pleased to bump into them a few minutes later when ds was all normal and calm so they could see I genuinely wasn't some evil mother.

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Madlentileater · 27/08/2008 22:01

yes, well done, it was very nice of him to be concerned, if you had snarled at him he might have been scared to say something when it was needed.

MingMingtheWonderPet · 27/08/2008 22:07

DD shouted 'Don't poke me in the eye, Mummy' one day last week. I was very embarassed!
Not even any reason for saying it, no tantrum or anything. i hope she doesn't say it at pre-school.

HonoriaGlossop · 27/08/2008 22:33

oh my god shesells, that's SO awful of her! How does she think that stuff UP?

SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore · 27/08/2008 22:36

i told her that is what she should do if some one she didnt know tried to take her after she caught a bit of the madeleine case on tv. she has used it against me ever since the worrying thing is no one bats an eyelid!! though i suppose they would remember her if she came on the news later and who she was with.

hester · 27/08/2008 22:37

dd accused me of hitting her 'all the time'.

I have never, ever hit her.

Love Seashell's dd - what a little minx.

HonoriaGlossop · 27/08/2008 22:40

SheSells, that girl will go FAR

Janni · 27/08/2008 22:47

My mother used to take me to mass with her every Sunday and glare at me for fidgeting etc. In a loud voice I would say 'Don't beat me mummy' !!

WilfSell · 27/08/2008 22:47

Our DS, having a tantrum yesterday was told to go and sit on the step. DH, losing his rag when he refused to budge said 'Do I have to drag you?'

DS looked him square in the eye, stopped screaming, and said 'Yes please daddy, drag me'

Little bleeder.

mamadoc · 28/08/2008 08:58

DD had a particularly big bruise on her forehead which was self inflicted after banging it on her bedside table when bouncing on the bed. When our childminder asked her about it she said "mummy hit me!" Fortunately CM did not believe her but I was gobsmacked that she would say it. Of course I have never hit her.

merryberry · 28/08/2008 09:14

Wilf, when ds1 is having a spat with his dad, it nearly always goes:

dh: 'don't do that'
ds1 (3): 'i'm going straight to bed no pudding no TV'

cutting his ground out from under him and continuing to tantrum for england anyway

sigh

mistlethrush · 28/08/2008 09:15

Been there. Holiday in Scotland earlier this year. We thought that ds (then 3.2) would like to go and see a castle. Ds decided that he wouldn't when we got there - but we had driven there by then and I wanted to see it. It was not great weather so we put ds into his waterproof suit - which he objected to and took half the top off - so I ended up starting down the road to the castle holding ds's hand in the drizzle with ds only partly in his waterproof, dragging behind me screaming. I got a really hard stare from a woman going back to the car park. She either has no children or has forgotten what its like. Of course, once we got to the castle, ds was fascinated and had a great time....

dilbertina · 28/08/2008 09:19

My brother was jumping on bed when he was little, my mum told him to stop, but he didn't, she made a grab for him but he bounced out of way,, then tripped and banged his head on wall. My 5yo db then proceeded to tell everyone that the bruise on his head was from where mummy threw him against wall...

Pinkjenny · 28/08/2008 09:29

Sitting here LOL. However, am fully aware that I will be laughing on the other side of my face in about six months' time...

MingMingtheWonderPet · 28/08/2008 09:34

'Threw him against the wall' -
i really don't know where they get these things from!

RustyBear · 28/08/2008 09:34

When my DB2 was about 3, my Dad was clearing out the loft, dropping stuff out of the hatch. He & DB1 had been told to keep out of the way, but DB2 came to watch & got hit by a bit of wood.

When anyone asked him about the resulting black eye, he would say "Daddy hit me with a piece of wood!"

ajm200 · 28/08/2008 09:43

They can all have their moments. In Hamleys last Xmas, my DS was so overexcited and overtired that he threw a major tantrum as we were about to leave and were trying to put him in his pushchair.

He fought so hard that the pushchair kept falling over. Unhelpful DH decided to walk off and leave me to it so after about 5 mins a Hamleys employee came over and asked if my son was alright. I nearly bit his head off but he did kindly agree to hold the buggy for me while I finally go DS strapped in.

I was so embarrassed that I couldn't get out of there fast enough

ImnotMamaGbutsheLovesMe · 28/08/2008 09:44

I think the older boy was lovely. What a caring boy.

mother2two · 28/08/2008 10:02

Too many people are too quick to judge.

My husband had a similar experience. Our ds was causing havoc so dh decided to forcably place him in the trolley seat.

"You'll break his legs" said the cashier. My dh was at his wits end at this point. So he turned round and told the cashier, "Here you are" handing ds to her "you try".

Another member of staff had been watching this drama, came over and helped dh. She got dh to pay and then told him to go back to his car with ds. Another member of staff packed the items and followed with the trolley to the car.

My husband told me that he had never been so embarrassed in his life. Since this incident, my dh has refused point blank to bring ds along at any shopping trips.

colnelcustard · 28/08/2008 10:05

my son says when i 'give him the look' in public 'stop it mummy you are really scaring me!'

I have also had 'please don't hurt me again'

Bloody cheek!

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