I can not go on with dd, i am ashamed to say i just can't control her.

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DD is testing me to limits i don't even have, everyday is a MAJOR battle, my whole life is all down to how dd behaves.

She can undo her carset strap & pushchair strap now & refuses to walk holding my hand, throws herself on the floor, runs away, scream at the top of her voice & clenches her hands whilst doing it, i can't go to the shop (or i can but it is just a major stress from her screaming) i dread taken & picking ds up from school because of her, i can't do ANYTHING.

She wakes up miserable & goes all through the day being on & off misery.

I am struggling, i want to give up, i have just burst into tears to dp because i can't go on with her, she is 2.5 going on 15, she has MAJOR melt downs, she pinches, pulls my hair & kicks me, i have lost control of her.

Like dp said she should not be controlling us we should be controlling her but i have absolutly no energy i am exhausted from life.

Please help me i can't do this anymore.

Just skimmed the thread - has anybody mentioned the dog gates - which are higher and cannot be climbed over - there was a thread about them recently - just a practical solution to the climbing over stairgates.

Otherwise - she sounds like a typical 2 yr old - things made worse for you because you are exhausted.

Diet, sleep and exercise are the key things here. It sounds as if she needs more exercise and more sleep, and a regular routine so she knows where the boundaries are and won't push them so hard. It sounds like you have got into a vicious circle - she is in control and it frightens her. She needs you to take control so she can feel secure. It is really really hard. Is your dp supportive? Is there anyone who could help you out so you could have a break?

DD gets quite alot of exercise she also goes to a private nursery & spends a day with Nanny!

Monday - Food shopping day, then off to the park.

Tuesday - Nursery 9-1pm, pick her up & she normally has a sleep, take ds to swimming lessons & dd plays with her friend in the park there.

Wednesday - Nursery 9-1pm.

Thursday day with Nanny - 8.30-3pm - normally does soemthing, like walk round the lake then over to park or indoor play centre, comes home if it's hot goes in garden plays, swimming pool etc.

Friday - Normally visit friends & do something with them & the kids.

Saturday/sunday - Depends what we have planned & where we decide to go.

January i am going to start her in swimming lessons & dance class also next year she will be going to nursery 4 mornings 9-1pm.

She is really good at nursery & loves it really loves it if i could afford it i would put her in for another morning now but i can't afford it right now!