can i have a checklist of reasons babymonster is crying please?

[BlueDragonfly]

because i can't figure it out and its starting to stress me out

he is fed
changed
not too hot
not too cold
no stomach pain (its not hard anyway)
not obvioulsy teething although i have put bonjela on just in case
he doesn't want his dummy
doesn't want to sat up
doesn't want to be lay down

what else??!!

oh yes, bluedragonfly. Offering the breast, which you did, does not mean that your ds will take it. And it is fine for him to say no. He just wants something else.

You could try distracting him with water. If you cannot do a paddling pool, just a tub of water and you scooping water up and pouring it in. The tinkles, waves and splashes might make him forget to fuss.

Is ds better today? Tomorrow the weather is supposed to be cooler. Maybe his spirits will improve then.

he is all smiles today. And its jab day too poor little man! so far so good, at least if he cries again later i canblame jabs.

Felt like the worlds crappest mother yesterday by not being able to calm my own baby, especially seeing as he is my 3rd and i should know how to do it by now!

its not to hot here, temp is hotter but its windy so quite nice.

I think the answer to that is that however many children you have had, each one is different so the same thing might not work, or apply to that child - so you can't cite past experience as either here or there, it's just a different child. My second was very different to my first. I was rendered clueless once more

My DS2 (17 weeks) gets like that sometimes -- gripe water works v well, as does strapping him into his car-seat and swinging him for a few minutes.

Another support for swinging - found that ds loved a little seat swing which was sometimes the only thing that saved our sanity. Also found the 'forearm' hold (or 'sleeping jaguar position' as we called it) ie head towards elbow, with arms and legs hanging downward either side of your arm, which meant that they could have a different swing sensation was also quite effective. Hope you get through today with no recurring crying.

do you know, after the nightmare of a day yesterday, he has been beautiful today. only cried once and that was because a child frightened him at a toddler group. just shouted at me to feed him.

I realise that now i have posted it will al change but am feeling more positive today.

That hold is one we call tiger in a tree because it looks like...erm..a tiger lay in a tree!

When ds used to get into a grump cycle last resorts would be a bath. Can't get more distracting than that! It also breaks the mood, moves you all to a different place and gives them something new to think about.

hurrah for bluedragon and baby dragon. Long may this last

Glad to hear today is better. My 13`wk old is has been very grumpy the last few days and needing lots of comfort-feeding, especially in the afternoon/evening. This also seems to give him more painful wind which doesn't help. I'm cooking/clearing-up a lot one-handed!

No solutions to offer really - just wanted to say you're not alone.

Mine too! He is all out of routine, crying for a feed just 2 hours after the last one. I thought it might be the heat?