DS cried through class assembly, very sad :(

[SeaShells]

I am so upset, just got back from my 6yo DS's class assembly which the parents and the rest of the school are invited to watch. All the children had 1 line each to say, my DS was very nervous and spent ages practising his line with his toy microphone last night, he seemed fine this morning though. I dropped him at the classroom and went round and took a seat in the hall. When he came in he had a tissue and was really sobbing his little heart out, I could see the teachers trying to quiet him, he carried on crying right through the performance, then as it got to his line, the teacher gave it to another child which upset him even more. I was very upset and to be honest a little angry with him, all the mums were looking at him then at me and wondering what on earth was wrong with him! All the other children seemed so confident and fine with it, why does my son act like this? He came over to me at the end and asked me when half term is, could it be a problem with the school? He has only been at the school since october and hasn't made friends really, he moved from a school where the teacher was wonderful and he had great friends, we had to change his school as we have moved due to my DP's new job. I feel guilty that this could be why he is acting this way, he used to be really happy, now he just seems down all the time, he has so much potential as he is such an intelligent little boy, but he is sooooooo sensitive. What should I do, is it normal, should I take him out of the school, should I take him to the doctors or something? I don't know what to do!

Sorry - not had time to read the whole thread, so forgive me if I say something out of turn or repeat advice already given.

My DS did this at his nativity play (admitedly he is only 3), but I was so upset for him, I wanted to take him out of the situation and cuddle him. No other parents seemed to mind - actually when he came into the room sobbing, there was an audible 'ahh' of sympathy. He also had a line that was given to someone else - bless.

Please don't be angry with him. As others have said, it is really daunting standing in front of a LOT of people, having to 'perform'. I was also a little surprised at my DS as he is a very confident child, but he has only been at that nursery for 2 months and was maybe a bit unsure. Maybe your DS is not quite used to school yet? It takes some kids a little longer. Give him a hug and tell him how proud you were of him that he was able to walk out onto the stage in the first place .

Hope you and he feel better and can laugh about it one day.

Glad you've got a meeting with the teacher organised SeaShells - good luck with it .

Puff, I wish you were my ds's teacher.

aww, thanks flashingnose .

I'm not teaching at the mo, but am currently chewing over when to go back and on what basis. Teaching is a very tough job and I don't think I could do full time with my two still so small. Hats off to anyone that does!

The poor wee dude.
Seashells if you are right about the poor wee guy scared, incase he got the words wrong, IMO the school is wrong, kids won't learn if they are scared.

It personally pisses me off that kids are so pushed these days, no wonder they suffer stress, depression etc from such young ages.

I truly believe if we don't agree with things we have the duty to ourselves and our kids to say something to our schools. I donot think our kids need to feel this kind of pressure.

I doubt that I'd be able to stand up in front a whole school myself, I used to have enough problems talking infront of just my class!!

Mean while I would suggest you just try to give your wee guy loads of validation which in turn will make him feel more confident, and yes our kids do pick up on our feelings.

I would also imagine there is a problem if he has little appetite, is he being bullied??Time to talk to the pricipal I think, blow the teacher, and let the principal know about the teachers apparent lack of concern too.