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dd nearly 3 said F'ing Hell today

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forevermore · 26/05/2008 13:57

well the title says it all. I try not to sware in front of her, but thinking did i get annoyed and use that language and she latched on to it. i told her off but wondering now if i should have ignored it? anyone else been through this? Or is this a very uncommon?

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forevermore · 26/05/2008 13:57

sorry i mean't swear!

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chocolatespiders · 26/05/2008 13:59

we have been through it

i would ignore, she wasnt meant to know it is a swear word and that it was a word she couldnt use

FluffyMummy123 · 26/05/2008 14:00

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bran · 26/05/2008 14:02

If you say it then they will say it. They don't even know it's bad at this stage, just that it's the thing to say when you're annoyed or frustrated. Don't react to it and try not to swear in her hearing and she should forget about it.

My ds sometimes says "Where are my f*ing keys" when he's looking for a lost toy. He just thinks that the phrase to use when looking for something in a hurry. It learned it from DH btw, I know he didn't hear it from me because I always put my keys in the same place and never lose them. It probably won't be too long before he yells "Bollocks" when he hurts himself though as I just can't stop myself from saying it whenever I stand on a particularly painful toy.

FluffyMummy123 · 26/05/2008 14:03

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snowleopard · 26/05/2008 14:06

It's bound to happen sooner or later, whether it was you or someone else - and pretty soon she'll hear all sorts from her peers anyway. My DS is the same age and picks up any swear word I use immediately (though I try to keep them relatively clean, I don't always - and we have several childless friends who are hopeless at reining it in!).

My view is, DS understands that some types of drinks/medicines/objects are just for grownups and not for him - so I tell him the same about words - Oh DS that is a rude word, don't say it please, it is for grown-ups not for little boys. Then I give him an alternative (eg something he'll enjoy saying like oh flippety flop) and he seems happy with that.

There is no way we can make sure out children don't hear some pretty ripe swearing, even if we don't do it ourselves. So you've got to have a strategy.

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forevermore · 26/05/2008 15:11

thanks for suppport guys, trying to just ignore now since noticed she looks at me for a reaction when she says it. i will ignore or distract and see how it goes!

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thisisthelast · 26/05/2008 20:01

Jesus icod, forever more came on here looking for advice not to be insulted. She has already said she tries not to swear in front of her so already knows that she shouldn't make it a habbit. Clearly you are above us all though

By the way forevermore, some of the best parents in the world will at sometime or another swear. I would ignore it, she's far too young to realise it's a bad word and will hopefully forget all about it if she doesn't hear it for a bit. If she continues to use it I would perhaps just say it's not a very nice word for little girls to say and aske her no to say it again. Like snowleopard said, she's bound to hear it sometime!

CrackerOfNuts · 26/05/2008 20:04

Have to say Cod, that imo, a 7.5 yr old saying wanker is alot worse than toddler swearing. A toddler doesn't know any better, but a 7.5 yr old does.

Do agree though, that the op can't expect her dd to stop swearing, if she still is.

hatrick · 26/05/2008 20:07

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ladytophamhatt · 26/05/2008 20:12

ds3 (4.8yrs) added Fuck to all the words beginning with F he could think of the other day.

Not sure if that makes him clever or not

sweetkitty · 26/05/2008 20:21

DD1 said "fucking hell it's raining" when she was just turned 2 she also started calling sudocreme "arse cream" it was a toddler group we went to where some of the mums were a bit colourful of language in front of the children. We left the toddler group and if she said it again never reacted or anything, she hasn't said it since.

Has no one ever said fuck or shit if they drop something on their toes for example? I know I have many a time.

ChirpyGirl · 26/05/2008 20:22

I tripped over one of DD1;s toys the other day and took in a sharp breath, and DD muttered
'oh for crying out loud'

Am grateful that is the phrase she has chosen to repeat....

Meandmyjoe · 26/05/2008 20:22

Agree with cracker, a 7.5 year old is able to know what he is saying and not just innocently repeating as a toddler does. I'd do as most others say and ignore it. They'll all hear swearing at some point and I must admit I swear in fromt of my ds but do understand I will have to stop as he gets older or else expect him to do the same

It's hard not to swear if it's something that you have always done. I wouldn't make a big deal out of it though. She was just repeating, didn't mean any harm and certainly wouldn't have known it's not an appropriate word.

Ladytophamhat, of course it makes him clever although of course it's probably best you don't tell him how clever he is for knowing it! lol

BEAUTlFUL · 26/05/2008 22:26

DS1 used to sit in the back of the car saying, "Fuzzcake".

Pannacotta · 26/05/2008 22:31

Best to ignore it and she will soon stop saying it.
Have to admit I speak from experience, we had a stressful holiday last year with 2 year old DS1 and 4 month old DS2.
DH found it all bit too much and often lost his rag, then DS1 started to say "F* it!" all the time having heard his father say it, was v embarassing but he soon stopped afer I made sure DH stopped swearing infront of him!

MsPontipine · 26/05/2008 22:56

Ds (5) said "Oh Gordon Bennett!!" the other day!!

Think he got it from my sister.

Best to ignore it - I have on the odd occasion when ds has and he's never said it again but when me and my mum made a big thing of him saying sh@t he just kept on and on and on saying it.

tiredlady · 26/05/2008 23:02

When ds was 3 he dropped his peice of toast on the floor and just muttered " oh for f*cks sake" really quietly.

Just ignore.

tiredlady · 26/05/2008 23:03

piece I mean

Collision · 26/05/2008 23:07

DH once said 'bollocks' in front of ds1 (DH didnt know Ds was there and DH NEVER swears) and ds solemnly asked, 'what is bollocks, daddy?'

this taught us a very valuable lesson and there is no more bad language at home!!

I was helping at school the other day and a 5 year old was being taken to the Head after hitting a little girl. As he was walking to the office, he turned to the teacher and said, 'I am FU**ing angry, you know!'

I was soooo as ds1 is the same age and never even heard the word so this poor kid must have heard it at home.

puppydavies · 26/05/2008 23:10

dd1 (just 5) sat next to me on the sofa the other day said "fuck it". i was thinking i must have misheard" "what did you say?" "fuck it. look, it says fuck it, there", pointing to my lappy, on mumsnet, where it did indeed say fuck it.

so i'll thank you all to watch your potty mouths now that dd's reading is apparently coming on in leaps and bounds

hunkermunker · 26/05/2008 23:11

Cod, are you sure he didn't say wnaker?

misdee · 26/05/2008 23:14

dd3 has a mouth like a loo.

she hears me muttering under my breath when i dont think she is there and reports back to dh 'daddy, mummy say oh bollocks'

bloody grasser!

onefunkymama · 26/05/2008 23:15

lol, all kids do this at some point. Try to ignore it or have words that only 'Mummy' is allowed to use. Someone I know lets their children swear until the air is blue but only in the car. My ds calls the bus a 'bloody bus' and dd says her brother is a 'bugger.' hey ho!

BEAUTlFUL · 26/05/2008 23:16

lololol at puppydavies and son!