Is my child strange??

[VictorianSqualor]

I was going to post this last ngiht after watching CoOT but couldn't be bothered, but the programme got me thinking about DD(7).

She never tantrums, I couldn't imagine a time she would say 'No' to me, or back chat, or argue, or even strop. The most I get off her is a miserable face and I have to ask her about ten times what's wrong before she'll tell me.

Anything I ask her to do, she does, straight away (maybe not to the standard I'd like, but she does it).

I thought this was just what normal children did and when I've seen people post on here saying their child (over the age of about 3/4) is misbehaving have been quite shocked, but nearly every child on that programme last night behaved this way.

So much so I'm almost worried about DD's 'good' behaviour. DP thinks it's just because she is so wishy-washy that nothing really bothers her therefore she has no need/want to put her foot down so to speak but I'm worrying now it might be more.

DS told me earlier I wasn't allowed in his room 'Don't you dare go in there, I said it's tidy, so it's tidy'
It wasn't tidy

vs, none of my kids have had tantrums past the age of three. The under threes have never really had tantrums either.
Mine do what I say because they know it is the right thing to do, it sounds like yours does do

my girls are 3 and 2 and have had about 3 tantrums in their lives. But then i am a militant bitch i am sure. probably ruined them forever.

(they rebel in EVERY other way possible from not listening to a word i say to destroying my home and my soul they are also highly accomplished sulkers and dirty lookers)

I wouldn't worry about a child who doesn't tantrum. In fact I'd revel in it.

PinkChampagne, my ds (also 8) would have exactly the same tantrum.

so jealous of all of you who have these angel children!
Both of my boys have been prone to the odd tantrum when things aren't going their way. DS2 has a very stroppy temper, and it doesn't take much to get him in a strop. (just like his father!!)

clumsymum - glad my DS isn't the only one!
We are friends again now though, and I am shortly going to be handing them over to their grandmother, while I go round a friends for a much needed drink!!

how is she with her friends? does she passively comply with them or does she speak up for herself?

of course no one likes a tantrum, but i also wouldn't want a child to never question authority. does she assert her own authority or does she feel she has none? with you and with anyone else?

VS your DD sounds just like me when I was young. My parents say I was an angel, always listened to them ,never did anything naughty, never tantrumed or answered back, and sometimes I think it makes me sound rather dull, but all my childhood memories ar ehappy fun ones. I was painfully shy though and do remember that pleasing my parents was very important to me.

ONe of my sister, on the other hand, would hold her breath until she turned blue if she didn't get her way

DS has never had a tantrum, he is silently defiant, and bloody hell sometimes I wish he'd just scream and shout rather than giving me the silent treatment and scowling!

VS, you are lucky your dd does not tantrum. Both my dcs would be on the other side of the spectrum.

I think it is a personality thing, particularly a function of how emotional or persistent a child. There could be many personality types that don't tantrum, as evidenced by other posters of non-tantrumming children on this thread.

But I too would be concerned if the reason were the ruddynorah scenario.

ruddynorah, with her friends she is a bossy madam by all accounts, she is with her brother and on playdates too(home ones anyway, she'd think it rude to be bossy in someone elses house), but will only make a stand if it really bothers her, if she suggests something and someone suggests something else she often says 'Ok', quite happily, unless she really doesn't want to do it.

OMDB, she is GREAT at dirty looks

VS, your dd sounds very mature - an old head on young shoulders. Which is good. My dcs will take a long time to get there.

I was a placid, easy-going child. Tis a shame I'm a ranting, hormonal old bag these days!

LOL,AD

My ds was like that, the odd tantrum, but very easy going.

Never answered back or argued, very placid. At 14 (Yes a teenager) he is still like it. He has lots of spirit and life, but is just a very easy going lad. He doesn't really ever answer back. He just sighs and rolls his eyes, but is always in a good mood straight away after. He never really sulks either....he is also quite lazy...I think he likes a quiet and easy life

Dd is a different matter.............