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M y dd age 12 has a little mustache and is worried about it

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LovesTents · 03/05/2008 14:34

She pointed it out to me the other day, I had noticed it before but had never said anything obviously.
She has tried to shave it off as there is a bit of stubble there,so she is concerned and self-concious about it.
What should I advice her to do?
Is 12 too young to be even doing anything about it at all?
I had hoped she wouldn't be worried about this type of thing till she was older but she is growing up so fast

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LovesTents · 03/05/2008 14:35

Oops, am I in the baby section?

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pootleflump · 03/05/2008 14:36

I'm sure everyone will tell you to leave alone, but if she is conscious of it I would personally let her have it waxed.

hercules1 · 03/05/2008 14:36

I would do something about it. Much better than her shaving it.

AitchTwoCiao · 03/05/2008 14:37

i would also let her do something about it. perhaps try bleaching first?

IdrisTheDragon · 03/05/2008 14:38

I would do something about it. Can't remember when I first did something about mine, but probably not long after a boy asked me why I had a moustache . I think I was about 13.

hercules1 · 03/05/2008 14:38

According to my ds's science teacher girls don't get facial hair

expatinscotland · 03/05/2008 14:42

i would definitely do something about it!

i'd probably take her to a good waxer.

brimfull · 03/05/2008 14:44

my dd has been using hair removal cream for hers since someone at school pointed it out in yr 7.
SHe's 16 now and still lucking up the courage to get it waxed.

brimfull · 03/05/2008 14:45

plucking

Mercy · 03/05/2008 14:45

Same as expat.

You'll have to explain that she shouldn't shave, it will make it worse (I know a young woman who does this and it's so obvious now, poor thing)

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LovesTents · 03/05/2008 14:47

Yes, my instinct is to let her do something about it,just wasn't sure if bringing her to the beauty salon would be a bad mommy moment.

Just thinking of young beauty queens etc all fake tanned-up , yuck.

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expatinscotland · 03/05/2008 14:47

seriously, there are ways to get rid of it.

i don't see the point in making children suffer needlessly.

if she wants to stop removing it later on, her decision, but if it's bothering her so much right now she's shaving it, i'd help her out.

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LovesTents · 03/05/2008 14:49

Hi Mercy, I did tell her to not shave but then she denied doing it, think she is embarassed, poor pet.
Personally I've never had this problem so what's the best way to tackle it?
Bleaching or waxing?

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luckylady74 · 03/05/2008 14:49

I used Jolene bleach when I was 12 - it didn't impact on my general innocence or anything!

Mercy · 03/05/2008 14:50

I can understand why you felt like that, but she's not going to be a child for much longer. Not sure if that's a good thing or not

brimfull · 03/05/2008 14:52

I would start with hair removal cream first

stickybean · 03/05/2008 14:53

Before you get rid of it i would try bleaching first. This may be enough on its own. If the hair is fine but dark this will sort her out.
If it doesnt then i would let her get rid of it. But if she has a choice, beaching is easier and you dont get the regrowth. Only good if the hair is fine.
Good luck.

Crunchie · 03/05/2008 14:54

bleach it!! Seriously my beautician suggested trying that first when I pointed out that I was starting to get concerned about mine (I am 38) I asked about waxing as I was doing my legs at the time, and she said bleach first - see how that works, as once you start waxing/plucking/hairremoval you will have to continue. And this is to a 'proper grown up'

So try bleach first, then if still really noticable perhaps hair removal creame for facial hair.

I would talk to her about it as if you say all the 'oh don't worry no-one notices stuff, or you are too young to worry' she will do worse things

Meandmyjoe · 03/05/2008 14:54

What ever you do, please don't let her use hair removal cream on it! I did this when I was about 13 and had small chemical burns all over my top lip cos it wasn't meant for the face

Thankfully it healed and didn't scar but it was bloody painful and looked unsightly for a week or so! Oddly, the hair never grew back so maybe it was worth it after all. Although I wouldn't reccommend it!

I'd let her remove it with waxin or if she's brave, try an epilator. If she's self concious about it I'd deffinitely support her although do tell her that it doesn't make her any less beautiful and try and reassure her that it's not a big deal to have a bit of hair. She's still very young but old enough to be bothered about her appearence. Also this is the age when other girls start noticing eachother's appearence so I'd ask her if she brings it up again whether someone has said something to her to make her self concious.

Meandmyjoe · 03/05/2008 14:58

By the way I think there are hair removal creams specifically for facial hair now but there weren't when I was younger, I just used the normal immac and it was painful! My sister had to bathe my face in vinegar for me to neutralise the alkaline burns!

FrannyandZooey · 03/05/2008 15:00

definitely try bleach first
if you want to wax or whatever don't yoou have to let it grow a bit before you can do it again? you can't wax stubble, can you

Mercy · 03/05/2008 15:06

I don't think so - but the same would apply to bleaching though surely?

(this is the dilemma the person I know has fallen into)

FrannyandZooey · 03/05/2008 15:09

can you not just put a bit more bleach on the hair to cover regrowth, though, Mercy? I mean it is not like it would matter if it damaged the condition of the hair, as it would if you kept redying hair on your head

brimfull · 03/05/2008 15:11

my dd does a mixture of both bleaching and cream removal
She would love to have laser removal but it's so ££££.

Mercy · 03/05/2008 15:14

I haven't got a clue tbh! WOuld be very fiddly though I think.

LT, it might be and idea to make an appt at a salon and get some advice.

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