Getting out of the house in the mornings - how?!!!

[Jessie3]

Just had a horrendous morning with my 2.3 ds who physically fought me on everything this morning - cleaning teeth, getting dressed, walking to the car, etc. I have tried getting up earlier to give him more time but he is getting worse. I think it is particularly bad this week because we are back to normal after a lovely Easter break (I am a teacher). I can only try to reasoon with him/give him choices like 'do you want mummy or daddy to put your trousers on?' for so long before I run out of time completely and have to just stuff him into his trousers/coat/car seat, which is awful and had us both arriving at the childminder's in tears this morning.
She has texted me to say he is fine, but I don't know what to do tomorrow morning. I have tried being firm, giving him more time, giving him choices - he just says a stroppy 'no' to each choice. How can I make mornings easier? Help!

Ds has to get dressed before his day can begin. The only choice he has is whether he or his brother goes first. Then he can paint, get out his toys, go out, bake whatever. Over breakfast we always talk about what the day has got in store for him and will generally demand his clothes as soon as he's finished eating. On the odd occasion I'll crowbar him in to them after I've done his brother. If any of them come off I "don't notice" and carry on as usual until he asks for me to help him put whatever it is back on (generally because it's made him cold). If we're going out that means go on bare feet, coats over vests etc. His pjs go away as soon as he's dressed.

a simple wall chart if he is dressed by a certain time then he gets to put a sticker on the chart. ignore all the bad stuff and only give him praise and enouragement. worked a treat for my son, we then went on to use charts for every thing still use them occasionally now and ds is now 4.

Sorry have read whole thread now and my 2p worth doesn't add much! Maybe the problem is that getting dressed equates to time to go your separate ways. Could you promise 5 minutes reading of a favourite story / drawing / playing together if they get dressed quickly?

It is frustrating isn't it ... I have a 20 mth DS and he has started to want to choose clothes which is great but slightly unnerving for a control freak like me...

"OOh yes darling you can wear the red top with the orange bottoms and the green socks" (bloody hell, hope we don't see anyone we know)...or else we do have a strop.
Sometimes I offer him a yogurt and he'll say yes, then no as I take the lid off, then yes again when I put it back in the fridge with cling film on the top, then start screaming uncontrollably as by this time Mummy has had ENOUGH ALREADY ! I have an 8 month old too, and luckily she is fairly mellow (at the moment!!!) I do feel like I have done ten rounds with Mike Tyson each morning I must admit...But mostly they are very lovely and cute.

right
in our house I get up first (about 6.20) to shower, get dressed and make myself look human (takes a while)
dh gets dd up a bit before 7
he gets her dressed straight away, no choices offered
meanwhile I get breakfast going
all breakfasting by about 7.10 at latest
me done by 7.20
dh gets dd into coat, buggy etc, out of house by 7.30
shouting by dd at various points is ruthlessly ignored and/or distracted away by various means eg discussion of breakfast/lovely cup of milk if dd is shouting about getting dressed
definitely think clothes then breakfast is the way to go

when dh was away for a couple of weeks recently obv was doing it on my own
got up a bit earlier, left house at 7.45 as was using car, but otherwise same

Jessie, one thing that works for me and I have a 3 year old (just) and a 22 month old is we get their clothes out with them the night before and then it is dtraight into them first thing. They halp chopose them adn pop them in their specikal basket and then put their PJs in their place or in the wash. They get a sticker for their chart once they get downstairs

Thank you for all your replies. Tbh, even just being reminded that all toddlers do this to some extent, and that it will pass, has helped! Have lots of different strategies to work through until the novelty of one wears off and I try a different one!
Thanks again

This sounds completely poncey and far fetched but it has really worked for me and a few friends:

Never say "If" or "OK?" if it's not really a choice. i.e. it's not "if you get dressed you can..." it's "when you have got dressed, then you can..."

Agree with Yomella, it's probably partly an attempt to keep you with him as long as he can.

I have read this thread with a smile on my face. Its not just toddlers who are a nightmare in the morning!

Dh - grumpy sod until he's had coffee and cigarette(though he keeps himself to himself).
DS1(10) Aspergers, will absolutely never ever eat his breakfast unless he has the kitchen to himself. He is very independant but it means that we have to do everything in shifts and it takes for ever!

DS2(7) A noisy whirlwind who chatters from the minute he gets up to the time he finally falls asleep exhausted and winds his brother up no end.

The solution DS1 and ds2 are never on the same floor at the same time and they get in the car separately. If i am really lucky DS1 doesn't have a meltdown on his way to school and he has a good day at school.

DD(2.5) bless her. I get her dressed when she wakes up which hopefully is not before I'm dressed and have had a cup of tea. Sometimes she has a good breakfast cereal, egg or porridge. Otherwise she has toast and fruit in the car and eats on the hoof ( I clean her teeth with her when I am dropping her at nusery.

We just about manage to get to school just before the start of school at 8.45 though really need to be there by 8.35 to hang up coats etc.

In september DS1 goes to high school- they start at 8.30 - I have recently noticed a lot more grey hairs

I like Yomella's way of looking at it, but I know that in DS's case he just doesn't like getting dressed because he did not want to get dressed when I was a SAHM and he still does not want to get dressed on non-work/school days. (He is 5) There are just so many more interesting things to do that get dressed!