Right. That's it. I have had it with my children. I can do nothing for them anymore. I am exhaustred. DP returns from work at 6 15. I am going to walk out and not come back,.

[SheikYerbouti]

I cannot copw itrh the constant bickering, the destructiveness, the fact that neither of them will sit still for more thn a second, the getting up in the night constantly, the shouting, the hitting, the snatching, the insolenbce

I've had a about enpoygfh of this shitty existence. I have no time to myself, because if I am no6 with the children, I am at work (a situation that can't be changed either)

I am constantly shouting at them, I feel so much anger inside me, and it scares me. I am scared I will go too far one day and do something awful.

DS1 has pissed on the floor for the nt5h time today. I have justy blown my top and SCREAMED at them. It's constant drip-drip of irritation, like Chinese water tiorure. I can't cope with thewm anymore.

Sheik, sorry you are feeling so low. You really sound like you need a break, can you get away for a few days on your own at all?

Sheik, are the children somewhere where they are safe for 10 mins, I am thinking of parked in front of the telly/playing on their Nintendos/scoffing bread and jam

Make yourself a cup of tea, dry your tears and then we'll all try to sort out strategies for you

OH Sheik I really feel for you. I've had days like this and days when I just think all I've done all day is shout and scream. I don't know your situation but you have my sympathies

Sorry you're having hard time. Count to 10, make cup of tea, put kids all in separate room to sit calm for 5 mins. Its a start ..........

Go out when DH gets home do something nice, for yourself, then come home again... tommorow is another day.

How old are your DC's?

Didn't realise you were the Walrus . By the way, you are gorgeous (just looked at your pics)!

Every fucking day is like this

Parking the in front of the TV is no good - DS2 chbges ttyhe channel and then we have a full scale fight

Mine are stytill tiny. I shoudn't feel this much anger towards them

am really sorry you are having a hard time.

can you go to a friend's for a glass of wine and a sob tonight?

They are tiny and therefore frustrated/frustrating. When DH gets home, go for a long walk on your own or go to the cinema/out to dinner. Have some time to yourself.

I do at times towards mine. In my house its usually when i've no organisation. It is much better when i plan tea, activities, homework, etc

agree with lynette

it is the relentlessness that is so bloody wearing

oh, poor you, so sorry - have been up most of night too so empathy here

cup of tea/Sauv Blanc
electronic nanny
7 mins till DH gets home

could you walk round the block five times when he gets back?

hang in there

Sheik, sometimes when they are toddlers/young children it is harder not to go ballistic. They are at an age where they are old enough to understand the basics of good and bad behaviour but too young and emtionally immature to either a) stop themselves being naughty or b) be reasoned with.

At least you can talk to an older child/teenager and make your feelings clear (even if they blank you and walk off half way through).

Sorry you are going through a riugh patch, walrus

I don;pt think I have a maternal bone in my body. That doesn;t help. I donlt think I was ever meant to have children.

DS1 has just pushed a bookcase over. This is the sort of thing I contend with on a daily basis

oh shakey (is nappiesgalore/boysontoast here)

shall i send you this and this?

can pop them in the post to you today if you like, send em back when youre done?

Sheik - I really feel for you My DCs are the same age and are also infuriating. I'm not the mother I want to be.

Have to go as DS is currently trying to pull my tit off.

You need sleep

And TLC

Can you get DH to do the night wakings for just one night? (not fair for you to get up to them if you are both working)
Go to bed tonight when they do tonight?

I am so sorry you are having a hard time

parenting sucks sometimes

I'll try anything nappies!

I'll send you my address on FB if that's ok?

deal!

Put the TV on a vaguely-acceptable-to-everyone channel and then walk off with the hand control.

As soon as your DP gets back, get in the bath with a book and a cup of tea/glass of wine and stay there for at least half an hour. I have every faith in the restorative powers of baths - the thought of my bath is what gets me through the day sometimes.

And tomorrow, come up with coping strategies - rewards, bribes, pocket money so you then have some power to wield (by deducting amounts for bad behaviour) etc.

DP is home now, sitting room is covered in bloody books, will have to sort. Humph

Oh mate.

You poor thing - I'm so sorry you're having a shitty day.

Bollocks to what you 'should' be feeling - it's how you are feeling that matters. Children can be utterly maddening. You are doing nothing wrong.

I think your 2 are at the peak ages for not getting on with each other, which can't help. How to talk is a great book, btw - twas my bible for years. Can you instigate a pasta jar, or some sort of reward chart? Do you think the children need to spend less time together? How can we help?! Please vent!

You sound like a woman in need of a break. I think going out for an hour's walk/drive/run asap is a great idea. You are a very lovely but very tired mum.

Just read your last post - fuck the books! Do that after they've gone to bed - you know he'll sneak back in there and fling 'em around again for a big ole larf (children have a rubbish sense of humour at times, imo)

Snatching and hitting - I make a big fuss of the injured party. Lots of cuddles, half a biscuit, extra book at bedtime, whatever sends a big message to the other that mucho sympathy goes to the one going WAAAAA and much ignoring goes to he who is swinging his fists. THis is probably wildly wrong, according to Siblings without Rivalry, but if often works, ime.

Tuck in. It will help.

I tried to google some calming thoughts for you and it gave me this and wtf?