He's been struggling at school and they've started diagnostic tests for ADD (definitely not hyperactive... opposite in fact). He daydreams to the point of doing absolutely nothing all day at school.
I'm completely stressed out since my split with H nearly 2 years ago. I shout ALL the time.... I'm a real monster mum sometimes. To the point that ds is scared of me.
I try not to, but I get home at 6 every night and dd (3.5) and ds argue and are narky. I lose the rag too quickly!!!! I feel like a complete horror.
But for some reason ds is starting to have proper anxiety episodes. he keeps asking me if I'm going to disappear. His father assaulted me shortly before his 5th birthday and disappeared for 5 months. No contact at all despite my efforts. He now sees them once a week although not regular days.... just when he feckin feels like it.
Anyway ds was crying after I gave him a row for leaving his dvds out. His reaction worried me to tears. He said he didn't think he was the boy I dreamed of having and he was scared I was going to make him live somewhere else. I have NEVER said that too him! I always tell him I love him, but realise that it's usually said in the context "I love you so much sweetie,but you've got to stop teasing your sister" etc etc etc.
Anyway, he's not sleeping, gets up during the night asking me things like who will look after him if all his family die. And last night he climbed into bed at 1am shaking saying he was scared he would have to rake the bins to get food if I disappeared. WHERE IS THIS COMING FROM?
How can I help him? is there anything else I can do whilst we wait the 2 months for his appointment???? I'm telling him all the time how much I love him and that I'm going nowhere.
Has anyone else been through this?