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Hello bad mothers everywhere...

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phlossie · 26/02/2008 14:46

Last week I:

  • gauged a chunk out of ds's shoulder with my fingernail when I grabbed his hood (was stopping him from being runover, to be fair)
  • let a door swing shut and trap dd's leg
  • was told that I shouldn't have eaten peanut butter while pregnant and breastfeeding, and definitely shouldn't have been giving it to my ds since he was one...

The worst thing I have done to date was lock my children and keys in the car. It took over an hour to rescue them!

Tell me in what ways you've been a bad mother to make me feel better!

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TillyScoutsmum · 26/02/2008 14:48

Lost my grip on dd in the bath and she slid under the water (for about 2 milliseconds).. Scared the sh*t out of me - but she seemed fine

Also turned my back and she rolled of our bed (and cried lots - felt really bad for that one)

Oh - and I had no idea about the peanut butter thing... I ate loads of it when pg and bf'ing.. One more to add to my list

dizzydixies · 26/02/2008 14:50

let dd2 eat half a tube of toothpaste before I dragged myself out of bed to see what she was doing and banged/bumped her head on car door whilst putting her in her car seat

theheadgirl · 26/02/2008 14:53

I have a friend who always tops me in the bad mother stakes, and makes me feel I'm not so bad. Her top ones are;
Putting DD in buggy, not strapping her in cos they were rushing - then accidentally tipping her forward into a puddle!!
When DD was a week old, putting her own EAR drops in DD's instead of baby eye drops. Eeek. No harm done thankfully.

TillyScoutsmum · 26/02/2008 14:55

My SIL took her 3 week old baby to a coffee shop. Sat down, had a coffee, read the paper and left the coffee shop and FORGOT to take her dd with her .

onebatmother · 26/02/2008 14:56

but

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phlossie · 26/02/2008 14:57

Ooh - I also put ds in pushchair with no straps then accidentally rammed the pushchair into the curb and sent him flying face down onto the pavement. That was bad.

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pookie81 · 26/02/2008 14:59
  • Forgetting to close stair gate which led to DD falling down the stairs as I was changing the bed covers when she was 10 months old. I have never been so scared!
-Leaving my make-up foundation near the edge of the table and DD getting hold of it and swallowing a large quantity as I was in the other room..she was fine but I felt so bad.
mellymell · 26/02/2008 14:59

I gave my DS 15 mls of gripe water rather than one 5ml portion. Thank goodness made no difference apart from a lot of farting

squinny101 · 26/02/2008 15:36

giving my children medised to make them go to sleep and telling my partner I was convinced they were going down with something.

swearing in front of them (they no longer bat an eyelid but miraculously have never repeated it).

accidentally hitting one in the face with a sledge when I slipped over in the snow.

report me to social services now.

liv01 · 26/02/2008 17:38

don't worry re peanut butter- evidence is now showing that exposure to peanuts in pregnancy and as a young child may actually reduce rather than increase the risk of peanut allergy. so advice may soon change...

bubblagirl · 26/02/2008 17:46

when i was pregnant i had peanut butter and gave it to mmy ds at young age also i got worried but cant remember if gp or hv told me

but they said problem is children asrent exposed to certain things young enough due to worry which can increase allergies and to not worry

lardylumps · 26/02/2008 18:04

I fell down the stairs with dd in my arms when she was 3 days old. Paramedics were called and got annoyed wiht me as I couldn't remember if i had let her go at any point (I still have nightmares even now).

Put DD to sleep on my mums bed the day she decided to roll over (never done it before) and yes you guest it she rolled off the bed. Bed is a high one as parents are disabled.

And to top it off last week I shouted at her...... God I am a useless mum

ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands · 26/02/2008 18:07

I seem to have given my sons a genetic disease each (different ones!) without being affected by any myself!

ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands · 26/02/2008 18:08

Ok Squinny, done

TheRedQueen · 26/02/2008 19:04

I've twice almost poisoned DD:

The first time (when she was six weeks old!) I de-furred the kettle using citric acid, forgot I had done it, and then used the acid solution to make her some fennel tea ...

The second time (when she was about 14 months old), she got to drink nail polish remover because I hadn't realised she could already undo screw top bottles and I accidentally left one within her reach.

She's now 2.5 and I'm amazed she's made it!

thefortbuilder · 26/02/2008 19:14

medised here too, although the excuse was teething pain (which ds could probably have coped with )

ate peanuts while pg, bfing and gave him peanut butter at about 14 months. he doesn't really like it now.

eating nuts in this pregnancy then.

ds slid under the water in the bath too

let dh buy him a kids cricket bat which he regularly bats himself over the head with (ds not dh)

go out wearing reins - am pg so just not fast enough to catch the whirlwind, but you should see the looks i get bad bad bad mother

thefortbuilder · 26/02/2008 19:14

that was ds wearing reins not me

TrinityRhino · 26/02/2008 19:17

well all three of my children have fallen out of bed MORE than once

I have hit dd1 in the head with the car door

I have accidently tripped dd2 over so she fell flat on her face and bit her lip

AND I locked Gecko in the car with the keys when she was 5 months old and had to get my dad to smash the window open

God I feel awful but I hope I make you lot feel better

TrinityRhino · 26/02/2008 19:19

I also fell down the stairs holding dd1 when she was about 13 months

she was totally unharmed but I broke a bone in my foot trying to back pedal so I wouldn't smash her into the wall at the bottom of the stairs and/or land on her

CrushWithEyeliner · 26/02/2008 19:22

I left steaming water on DD high chair then put her in it. My excuse - I hadn't slept for 6 months.

By some miracle of God she was completely unharmed (her clothes were layered up) just shocked bless her. I felt like the worst Mum ever for months after.

thefortbuilder · 26/02/2008 19:23

forgot about barging through ds the other day - he didn't cut anything but had a rather large bruise on his cheek. but i am pg and have no balance or awareness of just how huge i am

sfxmum · 26/02/2008 19:26

I bumped dd's head in the door frame while carrying her in my arms when she was a couple of weeks old I cried for over an hour called my husband and my sister but as far as I remember she cried for a second or so then fell asleep

PSCMUM · 26/02/2008 19:34

kicked a little car my son was sitting on and screeching at me whilst I had a hot pan of pasta in my hand. I kicked it so he wouldn't be under the pasta anymore. I kicked it so hard that the car overturned, he fell off it, and got a nose bleed.
thats my worst i think. by a long way.
in fact it is 6 years since that happened and i still feel completely ashamed

Meandmyjoe · 26/02/2008 20:45

I was holding ds in the cradle position with his head in the crook of my arm. I went to switch the light off with my elbow as I walked past. Unfortunately ds must have grown since I had last done it and ended up clouting his head into the light switch. He was only about 7 weeks old but he didn't seem to notice. This is a baby who is traumatised by being dressed or having his face wiped, bang his head into the wall and he doesn't even notice

Also, a few weeks ago me and dh forgot to strap ds into high chair, (he wasn't all that mobile at the time). Thank God we didn't turn our backs as I caught him just as he wriggled himself down and was rapidly sliding towards the floor Needless to say ds is always firmly strapped in now regardless of how much he protests to being restricted!

I'm sure most people do stuff like this right??????????

edam · 26/02/2008 20:55

Nothing wrong with reins, very sensible way to stop children running into traffic. Anyone who gives you a disapproving look is an idiot.

And nothing wrong with eating peanut butter, either - advice was only to avoid it if you had first-degree relatives with food allergies IIRC. Even then, it was only ever precautionary - there was no evidence to say it made any difference and latest research suggests it might be the other way round, anyway (i.e. avoiding nuts means allergic response first time child encounters them). Advice hasn't changed yet, though, as there's still not enough evidence to rule definitively.