DS has wrote something really bad ......

[twoforone]

I have two ds's. One is 7, the youngest is 3.

A few days ago ds's were playing upstairs. When they came down, ds2 said that ds1 had 'licked his willy.' Obviously i was totaly shocked to say the least. I questioned them both, after a while ds2 said that it hadn't really happened. Ds1 didn't seem phased and said he didn't know why ds2 had said it. But i couldn't get it out of my mind, as it isn't something a 3 year old just says.

Now today, i found something that ds1 had wrote. It was wrote to ds2, who obviously hasn't read it, as he can't read at 3. It said 'to * (ds1) I love you. Can i bite your willy, will you suck my willy?'

I really need help with how to deal with this.

I need some help too. My friend Willow2 told me to post and to say I'm not a troll! She's away on hols so she couldn't post for me.

I've just found out that my 8 year old has tried to stick his willy up his cousins bum. I've asked him where he heard about doing such things and if anyone has ever done it to him. He told me it's come from sex education at school (which I know they have been doing).

First of all he said he hadn't done it with anyone else, but when I told him it was ok to tell me, he then admitted that he had also done it with two other boys from school. I asked whose idea it was, and he said that it was his idea. I asked if any adults had ever done this, or if he had seen a book or a film with it in but he said he hadn't. He has asked me not to tell the other parents. I feel torn because I don't want him not to trust me with 'secrets' and feel afraid to tell me stuff, but I also feel that as a parent I'd rather know if something like this has been going on. I also want to tell the school that perhaps their sex education is mis-firing and giving wrong ideas, but I don't want my son to be flagged up at school and talked about.

My instinct is that it's not an abusive type thing going on but more of boys experimenting - but I don't know what to do next.

HELP!

Dont know what to say birdsings, hope youve been able to talk to someone about this. I wouldnt go to the to other parents about this just yet.

Dont want to worry you but I wouldnt imagine them teaching 8yr olds about this kind of sex?

sorry i cant help hun, will bump up incase anyone else can help

my gut reaction is that it is a thing they go through, how did you find out?

Maybe you could call the NSPCC (anonymously if you wish) and ask for some advice on handling this. Or Childline.