Reachged the end of my tether with DS1. He is driving me NUTS. I have just really bawled him out. I am evil

[SheikYerbouti]

He is being so nasty to DS2. Always pulling on his hand (DS2 has loose fingers on one hand, so this is worrying - In fact there's no bone in one of his fingers, so it is very prone to injury)

He keep jumping on top of him, and won;t let him play with anything. There is also a lot to biting. I also gave them both a biscuit this afternoon - DS1 stole DS2's out of his hand

It's go to the point this fatrenoon where I have just screamed in his face I feel so shit. I am crying. I can't cope with DS1 at the best of times. He is on the go from 4am-8pm. I am shattered. He is not sleeping at night either - I have had hardly any sleep since Satriurday. DP is no help because "he works" even though I do FT hours as well

I feel ike I am at greaking point. I am on the verge of walking out of here tonoght because everyday is so fucking unpleasant

Should read 'bedroom' not badroom!

Sheikh, my 2 are about the same as yours - ds1 3.4, ds2 20 mths (dc3 due in May ) plus I work 2 days per week (mat leave from this week and also because it's the only respite I get....

ds1 is a little bugger to ds2, alot of the time I seem to spend with my head in my hands moaning "for God's sake, why are you always making him cry?" (to ds1). I'm guilty of the shouting thing too, that usually ends with me crying too, for being such a shite mother. Ds1 can be a lovely, loving, helpful boy, but he's like Jekyll & Hyde. I don't quite reach the end of my tether every day but seem to get quite close. Am actually glad to read that it's "normal" for 3yr olds to be difficult.

Sorry no advice, just tons of sympathy. All I do is reiterate over and over again to ds1 that it is not nice to hit/snatch blah blah blah and praise him when he does share/behave nicely. It is like he can't control himself, which he can't I suppose.

We will get through this!

OK. With risk of alienating Zenia etc. Do you need to work? With Childminder costs how much better off are you? Is it REALLY worth it?

Bless you SheikYerbouti. I can't believe your dp had a go at you for shouting. That's the last thing you need after a shit day! It always bugs me how the blokes come home and make out they would have handled it better. (I have to say that dh isn't to bad for it but my mates bloke isn't exactly supportive of her!) They have no idea what it's like to be left alone with no adult company. I only have one baby so I can't imagine how hard it must be for you. Don't beat your self up. You did what you did and that's that. x

Bless you SheikYerbouti. I can't believe your dp had a go at you for shouting. That's the last thing you need after a shit day! It always bugs me how the blokes come home and make out they would have handled it better. (I have to say that dh isn't to bad for it but my mates bloke isn't exactly supportive of her!) They have no idea what it's like to be left alone with no adult company. I only have one baby so I can't imagine how hard it must be for you. Don't beat your self up. You did what you did and that's that. x

Good suggestions have already been given, so I'll just add sympathy. I too found the age of 3 very hard going.

I think it's an age that is quite confusing to the children themselves, a bit like a mini-rehearsal for the teenage years. They suddenly start being able to do more and being expected to be more mature, so they veer between wanting to have control beyond what they are capable of (tantrums and aggression) and wanting to go back to being safe little babies (that ghastly whining).
Hard on everybody.

But it will pass.

DS1 isd at pre school now, and DSS21 happy playing so I am able to get on with a bit of work

DP still beiung a knob jockey. He moaned this morning because I asked him to brush the boys' teeth.

I still didn;t sleep very well last night, as DS1 was awake a lot as well (bad dreams - he's probably dreaming about evil mummy screaming in his little face)

I still feel like a completely inadequate mother, largely thanks to DP, who can obviusly do so much better then me.

DS2, obv. I don;t have 21 step stons