Those with two or more boys two years apart please help!!!

[momofha]

I have two DSs, aged 2,5 and 4,5 and they are slowly driving me insane!!! My question is, is it just my boys that are desperately in need of reining in or is it just the way two, close in age, boys are. I say boys as my friends with two girls close in age dont seem to have the same issues as me.

My boys are constantly bickering, punching, hitting, fighting with each other. They are way too energetic and when I go out the two of them scream around the place spuring each other on and not listening to a word I say as they are too busy shouting and laughing with each other. They just seem to have sooo much energy and bounce in them!! They get into it over toys that they dont want the other to have etc and then there are just fists etc flying!! I have to break them up. If this is what it is like now how am I going to get through the next 15 or so years!!!

Do you have the same experiences as me and if so HOW do you deal with it as I am about to book myself into the funny farm!!!

DS1 10.7 and DS2 8.2 are still like that.

LTH can come compete with me for the nisiest house- and my 4th isn't due for 10 weeks yet!

Yes they drive me amd. DS3 is OK and has a good relationship with both of them (perhaps a result of his SN- ds1 has SN but differently), goodness knows n0 4 will be like as well!

Mine are 8, almost 7, 4.5

mine are the same, tripping each other up, fighting to get up the stairs, fighting to get down the stairs, trying to spit on each others arms in teeth cleaning, pushing, shoving, usually laughing ie equivalent of puppymauling but it is SO KNACKERING when they are still doing it at 8pm on sunday after an entire weekend of sport and running around

god love the little sods

Two boys - 8 and 5 - oh lawd - yes COMPLETELY liek this all the time......

at Enid's girls. The daughters of my friends know to come to me to have hair plaited.... I positively PURR with excitement at the opportunity...

My two, 6 and 8 are a handful, often scrap and can be so mean to eachother. Our neighbour must be sick to death of hearing me shoutscream 'just leave him alone'. However if I or DH ever loses it with one of them, the other is outraged and is so supportive to his brother. I know they love eachother truly, madly and deeply.

Try and get a photo of them being lovely to eachother and frame it. I have one of the DSs grinning with their arms wrapped around eachother. When I am in despair about how vile they are being, one look at that gorgeous photo fills me with hope for the relationship they will always have.

Read this thread with mixture of interest and dread... my 2 boys are 2.7 and 9 months and the door of sibling squabbles has been opened a crack once DS2 started crawling . For the monet though S1 is v. protective and DS2 hero-worships his big bro

I have a friend with 3 boys (3.9, 2.5 and 5 months) and the older 2 fight, bicker etc alot. My friend finds it really hard and I am worried about how to referee fairly .

Mine are nearly 6 and nearly 4 and most of the time they get on pretty well. Physical fights are very rare but they do sometimes wind each other up. They also do a lot of bargaining over each other's toys. I find that the best thing is to discuss problems and how the other one might be feeling when conflicts arise.

The best thing though is when they chat to each other.

lol at the ingenious ways of inserting 'poo', 'bum' etc into conversations. My two (5 and 3) do this all the time. They are very physical towards each other and very affectionate with me and DH. They do bicker alot which I find exhausting but they also hug and kiss each other. It's so cute. They really are mates.

LOL at the 'poo', ds3 is verbal at a very minimal level (13 - 15 momnths level at 4.5 years old), but when I asked him what the baby we are expecting is called did he reply Sebastian or use the nickname Bazzy? nope- it was BabyPoo.

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Mine are 8 & nearly 5, and they can play together well, but will also fight. It is normally because DS2 irritates DS1.
They also think it is hilarious to use words like "poo", and the latest one is "minnie!"
DS2 is very physical, and will jump from the edge of the sofa or be seen sliding down the bannister, but DS1 is much less energetc, and more likely to be found slumped in front of the TV!

My boys can also be unbearably loud! I wish they had a volume switch, especially at 6am!

Pinkchampagne your boys sound so like mine!

They both try to talk to me at the same time and then have to get louder and louder in a bid to make themselves heard over the other one! I spend my whole life telling them to quieten down!

Sounds familiar!
My two are forever making loud silly noises too, which drives me insane!

GREAT thread. Too true about exercising them and treating them like dogs. My boys need regular watering and feeding and need good amount of physical excercise. ROLL on the summer when you can chuck them into the garden!! I am glad I am not the only one who things there is such a difference having boys. It has got to the point now when I am afraid to go to my friends house that have girls as my boys seem to run riot and their girls sit quietly.

LOL at this thread. I have DS 7 and 6, and they are just like this, they love each other madly, and get on really well, with long bickering periods on a regular basis. Noise level drives us mad. As I write I can DH pleading to calm down, stop singing at top volume at the table etc etc. They have sooo much energy, its exhausting.
But that's boys isn't it, that's how they're made? I was one of three girls so it was quite a shock!

Mine are 1.13 apart - they don't bicker much and are relatively quiet. The "boys will be boys" thing drives me mad, tbh, they are all individuals and can be steered in the right direction

ive got 2 boys 2yrs 10 months apart, they are now aged 11 and 8. they fight like mad and always have done,although saying that they are lost without eachother should they be seperated! goes with the territory i say..