Sorry in advance for this post but I don't know where else to rant. I have a ds of 3.2 and a dd of 1.3 and I really can't do this anymore I know that we have all been through a really rough time since August when my dh suddenly passed away, but in the last few weeks things have just got too much for me. Dd is at the age where she still can't express what she needs or wants so she whines all the time and ds is so whiney all the time, he doesn't stop from the minute he wakes up until the minute he goes to bed - I can't even go to the loo without them both coming in with me! I know, I know that they are bound to be clingy and I know that they have had such an upheaval but so have I and I have been doing my best to get through this and I don't think I can do it anymore Everyday is a struggle, it's a fight to get them both dressed, ds has to argue and disagree with everything I say. Am sitting here sobbing now because for the last hour ds has been screaming at me that he wants a nappy on (has been clean since 2yr5mths) and I mean screaming - no let up, I tried talking to him calmly, tried putting him in another room, even tried screaming back but nothing worked. I was determined not to give in to him because he when does get his own way he seems to be whiney and more demanding because of it. I suspect because I am a bit down they are playing up but I try so hard not to let them see that I am upset, they don't see me cry for example and I have tried to keep their routine the same as before. Please tell me that this is just a normal stage at thier ages because I am sooo worn out with this, I need a break from both of them, even for an evening but it is not going to happen, so I need wise mnetters coping stratergies(sp?) please. I want my happy children and happy family back. Both dc's are in bed now, so am off to open the wine, will check back later