Oh dear just had a paddy and chucked ds's dinner in the bin [blush]

[FrannyandZooey]

Feel free to remind me of this next time I talk about punishments being counter productive and letting them regulate their own food intake

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Apologising okay I think, if you don't use it as an opportunity to explain why you behaved like a nutter. I think just 'sorry I lost my temper' might be okay? That's what I do - a little more often than I'd like too.

You'll probably be have days of 'oh this looks yummy Mummy' and that'll grate too.

Now Cod. No make-up? That sounds worrying.

What's the matter with everyone?

I'm going to hold a part for you all. There will games, and masks and dancing girls.

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Darling heart. It sounds bad. Are you sickening? Is it the dizzy thing again?

Get an early night. Paracetamol. Hot drink. Good book.

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That's why you lost the plot yesterday too.

Run down. Doing too much. Running out of juice.

Bed by 9.00 please. Best pyjamas, hot toddy.

I've turned in Mumsnet Matron.

[bustles]

I've turned into Mumsnet Matron fgs.

[irritated bustling]

You have raging hormones.

Children ARE infuriating.

You are making the rest of us mere mortals feel better, at any rate.

Yes.

Honestly Franny, when we do these things which are far from ideal, they have to just be absorbed into the fabric of our mothering.

Short temper offset by great game-playing skills, or patient at puzzles or good listener.

We all have to tell ourselves this.

Also as you know, I very much subsribe to the Good Enough school of mothering.

Now. Nice bath for you too I think, early night, and I'll be in to check your hospital corners and that you've brushed your hair and said your prayers.

[looks at watch pinned to breast, smooths down starchy skirt]

I don't know how you all function at mealtimes with more than one child. It's hard enough getting DS to start laughing mid-paddy (a matronly, wide eyed mad stare tends to work) and eat his veggie and lentil soup instead of just the bread. He tends to love it and I have an unwritten rule that if I can get something healthy into him for dinner it doesn't realy matter that he has gypsy toast or a cheese toastie for lunch!

Somertimes that is all he will have apart from marmite on ricecakes though.

None of us are saints. And I suspect a saintly mother would be very, very hard to live with anyway.

Also, good lesson for ds that people are sometimes cross and not perfectly rational - he has to learn to cope with people being less than perfect!

a panini stylee cheese toastie - but cheese toastie non the less

How sad is that that I needed to explain it was GF rather thab Breville?

Someone's going to get upset now. I can feel it in my water.

Monkeytrousers - what's gypsy toast?

nothing constructive to add Franny, am a bit intimidated by 100x's matronly bustling....

I read this thread backwards and thought 100 was calling me darling heart

Cod I hope it sorts itself out

we had shouting and screaming and crying at the top of the stairs in pyjamas (always such pathos) when I refused to come back up after lights out and sent dp instead

am now racked with guilt

Oh darling heart.

Give yourself a break. Let dp fix it. Have a bath, early night, start again tomorrow.

F&Z, I was thinking of you earlier (not in a weird stalkerish way, honestly)...whilst disciplining 2.5yr old DS1.

I lost my temper (about him not wearing slippers FGS), muttered something along the lines of "get cold feet, see if I care", then hid in the kitchen to calm down and thought to myself "I wonder how F&Z would deal with this constant challenging behaviour - I bet her approach would be so much more effective"

In my defence, over the past 2 days he has broken almost every tree decoration and other xmas ornaments, poured milk over the new sofa, and every request is met with the response "no mummy, go away!"....then "I'm a good boy"

I know, I know, he is a 2 yr old boy...

Gypsy toast is eggy bread! Hope that's not insulting to gypsies (or roamies, I mean, Romanies/Roma).

On my matronly stare can crack you up at 20 paces!

Ds used to *love^ mushroom rissoto! Won't even look at rice these days if not squashed into a brand named crispy pattie and smothered with butter and marmite (dont try it - your waistline will expand exponentially!)

roamies was a genuite typo that I left in BTW. never came across that before!