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Can you tell me whether your 10 yr old child (year 6) has the following...

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emsiewill · 21/11/2007 11:41

  • a mobile phone
  • pierced ear(s)
  • TV in their room

As dd1 tells me that all her friends have all of them, or will be getting them for Christmas, and she feels "left out" and "stupid" because she has none of them.

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Wotzupnow · 21/11/2007 16:08

Year 6
No
No
No (we put on in for sleepovers with DVD player)

Year 7
Yes
No
No (we put on in for sleepovers with DVD player)

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emsiewill · 21/11/2007 16:09

dd does go to the park with dd2, and said that she would feel happier if she had a phone with her in case of problems. I actually think (and said to her) that if she has a phone, it is making her an easy target for someone - and therefore more likely to have a problem than with no phone.

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Tinker · 21/11/2007 16:09

But mn isn't the real world...

Wotzupnow · 21/11/2007 16:11

Tinker go and wash your mouth out

CarGirl · 21/11/2007 16:13

dd1 is 11 in January and she has had a mobile phone for about a month, bought by her Dad (with my permission) £20 pay as you go he buys her £5 credit per month, for u s it is useful as obviously her time is split between us. We have ultra amicable contact arrangements but it is nice for her to be able to contact him privately also off to secondary school next year when it will be useful.

never asked to have ears pierced

we have a tv in our bedroom that are allowed to watch with permission, if/when she ever has one in her own room (if she ever has her own room) then it won't be connected to the ariel just a dvd player.

Madlentileater · 21/11/2007 16:14

I aggree about picking your battles- a mobile is useful for you as a parent, we just got one for £10 from sainsburys for DS2, 12th birthday- TV in room definitely no!
pierced ears....can wait till 16- isn't that the age for informed consent?

Joash · 21/11/2007 16:19

Both DD's didnt get mobile phones until they were 16 - they didnt need one before that age.
Both 16 before piercings.
no tv in their bedroom (they did have their own living room at that time though)
DS phone at 15 (we'd just moved to cornwall and we're in temp accomodation initially with no access to landline and lived miles away from his school)
TV in his room & no piercings.

mintydixcharrington · 21/11/2007 16:25

no no no for my 9.5 year old
she won't have a mobile phone until she has a reason to need one, probably going to boarding school aged 13
she won't have her ears pierced until 15 at the earliest (we have discussed and agreed this)
she won't have a tv in her bedroom ever. I don't have one in mine - why should she?

wheresthehamster · 21/11/2007 16:28

Why is dvd/video only TV better than normal TV in a bedroom? It's still an antisocial, brain numbing, eye-glazing activity.

Also ear-piercing on girls - yuk. Mine have asked over the years but it's just more bits of jewellery to lose and they half-heartedly agree (for now) but I just don't think it looks nice.

Mobile phones definitely for secondary school and they can use someone else's for those occasional times that they may need them before that.

santaoftheopera · 21/11/2007 16:29

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Blandmum · 21/11/2007 16:29
  • a mobile phone no
  • pierced ear(s) no
  • TV in their room no
MyChemicalToilet · 21/11/2007 16:30

My DD's are 12 and 10.

Small TV in shared bedroom. It's not tuned into anything, just something to play DVD's on. I actually feel very puritanical and stern about TV's in bedrooms and don't know why I indulged this whim.

Both DDs had ears pierced for 8th birthday.

DD2 will get PAYG cheap mobile (although she has hinted subtly for an i-phone fgs) for 11th birthday (in a few weeks time), as her sister did when she was 11. I want her to start to walk home from school, be able to go round town with friends etc.

brimfull · 21/11/2007 16:31

wait till you get the " muuuuuuuuum absolutely everyone has their belly button pierced"

oh how I laughed!

Ecmo · 21/11/2007 16:37

I have a 10 year old dd. She has none of these. However her sister had her ears pierced when she was 11 so she will probably have them done next Birthday (May)
shes not likely to need a phone till shes at least 13 as this is when she goes to upper school and I dont think she will ever have a telly in her room.

ElenyaTuesday · 21/11/2007 16:55

I only have boys but ds1 is 10 (year 6). He has none of these but will get a phone for secondary school. He can have a TV in his room when he can afford to buy one for himself .

SueW · 21/11/2007 17:10

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lisalisa · 21/11/2007 17:14

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RosaLuxMundi · 21/11/2007 17:21

My eldest is 10 and in Year 6. She will get a mobile for her eleventh birthday which falls in the summer holidays after leaving primary. She is already allowed walk to school, go to the leisure centre swimming pool and so on without an adult and will get a gradually increasing amount of freedom as the year goes on. I don't think having a mobile phone makes any of these activities safer. TBH she doesn't want one all that much and it is unlikely to be an expensive one when she does get it.
Ear piercing. I would allow it from 11 if she insisted, but she is not interested.
TV in bedroom. No, never.

cat64 · 21/11/2007 17:22

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smartiejake · 22/11/2007 07:21

dd1 had a phone when she was 10 and a half and ears pierced when she was 9 but not tv in her room.

roisin · 22/11/2007 07:58

DS1 is 10.5, the answers are:
no
no
no

christywhisty · 22/11/2007 08:15

no to the tv in room,

Year 5 daughter had ears pierced this year, but ended up in a&e and will have to have them done again.

Both had mobile in year 5 but that was because I have to get train to work, and worried if the train was late. Both very very cheap mobiles.

FluffyMummy123 · 22/11/2007 08:16

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ggglimpopo · 22/11/2007 08:18

No to all three. She is 11.

scrummymummy1965 · 22/11/2007 08:23

DS1 - 10 and yr 6.

Pierced ears - no!

TV in Bedroom - yes and has had one for a long time. Both DS's do not have them on when they go to bed - never have. Its more when when they have friends over and they can go put a DVD on.

Mobile Phone - This Christmas (only because in the summer he was allowed out of our road where we live to go call on his friends - we do live in a village tho). I want to be able to ring him. He is sensible and will ring from a friends house if he goes in to play to let me know where he is and ask what time he has to be back. Incidently he did ask for a Sony Erikson something or other on his christmas list but he has got one that is fairly cheap and pay as you go.