do you have favourites out of your children?

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do you find you favour one child more than another? or treat them any different?

DD is my fave

but I only have one!

I love them both the same and always treat them equally, but at different stages, I prefer one over the other. Not very often though.
I think it is allowed and totally normal.

I have three and I honestly can't decide which is my favourite, so I think that means I don't favour one of them more than the others.

I would say I treated them differently though in that I try to treat each one in the most appropriate way for that child, iyswim. But I try hard to make sure they get a balance of parental attention as well as material things.

I have 3, love them all equally, treat them very differently.

I didn't fall in love with DS1 - breastfeeding was a nightmare for the first 10 days and although I would have done anything for him it wasn't how I thought it would be.
However - DS2 I fell in love- a teenage crush - I go gooey just at the thought of him it is pathetic!
now DS1 is nearly 4 and DS2 is 12 months and I don't show the difference as I now Love ds1 so deeply but it has had to grow. I still have a crush on DS2 - I guess that will wear off as he gets older and I will just love him the same as DS1

Waffle over!

Don't have a favourite, but like LOTF says they go through stages where one is more difficult and the other is more likeable IYSWIM.

OMG reading everyone elses response... does that make me a bad mummy?

I don't favour one more than the other but like others I guess I treat them differently as they have different personalities.

I had a similar experience like JenT. I fell totally in love with DS (pfb) as soon as he was born. With DD it was different, assumed it would be the same as first time. I didn't bond with her at all, problems with breastfeeding etc .... now I love her soooooo much I could just squeeze her all day. With DS, I could just sit for hours watching him especially when he is asleep, he is so beautiful.

No you're not a bad mummy JenT, I used to think that as I wished I had never had children in the early days when DD was newborn, I think I had a bit of PND because those first few months of her being here were very dark indeed.

Thank god for that MBB!

Better go and be a good mummy and sort out some tea

Errm (whispers) I love all my three, but the one I fell for at birth and still catch my breath over in that heart-lurching way is my troubled, fiery-tempered, over-emotional scruff of a middle child.

He thinks we are all horrible unfair people who favour his sister and older brother.

No I don't.

And I really find the whole idea that some popel might prefer one over others a hard one to deal with.

I am finding this thread really interesting as its something that worries me a lot...I would like another child but I am absolutely terrified I will not love he/she as much as i love my son. He is my life and like pussinwellies i actually catch my breath thinking of him. He is wonderful and i am scared that all my love is for him and that there will not be "enough to go round" with another one.

Did you all have the same thoughts when expecting another child?

yes, my favourite is the one that let me sleep the night before

Yep- dairylea- did worry about that- couldn't imagine loving another as much as I loved ds1. Fortunately I found as soon as ds2 was born that that wasn't an issue at all. I didn't worry about ds3 as I knew it would come naturally.

yes, my favourite is the one that let me sleep the night before

I don't have a favourite they all have different aspects of their personalities that melt my heart.

Pussinwellies, I am the same as you! And I don't like feeling this way. but he is the one who comes up for a cuddle, says 'mummy, you look lovely today' before I've even got my make up on, and is generally so much easier and more eager to please than dd (older) and ds(younger). Of course I love all my three, but he tugs at my heart.

I find my eldest hard to relate to. My baby I can stare at for hours and it takes my breath away how much I love him. I think it's complex, Mum took over with ds1 a bit, and I was a younger child and so find myself thinking I am standing up for the underdog if you like.

I feel horribly guilty for not being equally 'in love' with both though of course I love them both...

Isn't it natural to prefer one person over another? I love all my friends, yet I prefer spending time with some over others because I can relate to them more, or they make me laugh etc.

I think its the same with our children. There are reasons we love each one, but reasons why we may have a (blush) favourite.

I love them both equally and would lay my life on the line for either of them but sometimes I like one more than the other. Sometimes I don't really like either of them but then when they are asleep my heart does a flip.

This thread makes me realise just how much I love them

Saying this, my 'favourite' has just thrown one of my boots at the french doors, so if you'll excuse me........

I love my boys equally.

DS1 because he is my first-born, DS3 because he's my baby iykwim, and DS2, well just because he's ours and I just do and he's just lovable.

They all make my heart skip a beat for various reasons, they all drive me to distraction at times, but they're all loved equally.

They are however sometimes treated differently due to their age, stage and personality, although they always seem to think they're the one who's hard-done to, lol.

I have 3 and they are all my favourites. All in different ways.