For the first time ever I am ashamed of my kids.

[NAB3]

In hairdressers, kids not doing as their told. Other parents commenting on how their kids are better behaved than mine.

On my own with 3 little ones and no one offered to help but all qite happy to glare and pass judgement. Even one of the hair dressers had a go. I nearly cried.

Finally found someone who can cut my eldests' hair properly and we'll never be able to go again.

My dd lifted her hand to slap the HV when she give her the last jab.. it wasn't very long ago, dd was 4 at the time! she yelped "You hurt me! You never said it would hurt!"

Nab... quite honestly, fuck it! Fuck the people who were rude to you. How bloody dare they pass judgement on your children! and I bet you any amount of money, that the people who were saying their children were better behaved, aren't!! I bet you they were relieved to see your children being normal... & secretly pleased that it's not just their children who don't sit still.

FGS children aren't made out of stone! They aren't statues. And the days of children being seen & not heard, are long gone!

Be proud of your children. And of yourself, for being brave enough to take all three of them to the hairdressers! I have 2 & wouldn't take them! I last took dd over a year ago & dh has now started cutting ds's hair as he won't sit for any hairdressers!!

you shouldn't be ashamed of your children.
im sure they have been taught enough manners onot to pass judgment on people so openly and in such a rude manner.

The last time I took my 3 to the hairdresser's (about 2 years ago!) I had to sit in the chair with DS2 on my lap, with my legs wrapped round him to stop him kicking and my arms round his head to keep it still.

By the end I was covered in hair, sweat and tears. The barber hugged me (after I'd paid him double) and told me that next time my DH MUST take him as it wasn't fair on me.

I know mamazon. I feel guilty for feeling it but it was so bloody hard. We were in there for 1 1/4 hours and the kids were just crazy. Didn't take the buggy as it was a problem last time and there just isn't room.

Very well said FFF2.

Remember NAB all these scornful adults will be glad of our kids one day (when they're old and need the next generation to keep the wheels turning).

Have yourself a glass of wine and forget all about it.

At the risk of being shot down in flames, could they possibly have had a bit of a point? I'm glad the days of kids being "seen and not heard" are over but we seem to have gone to the other extreme where children rampaging through doctors surgeries & hairdressers is seen as absolutely fine and not something to worry about. I'm afraid I disagree. Take sweets, comics, toys, whatever it takes, even make more than one trip if you've got more than one child, but I don't think it's unreasonable to want a bit of P & Q when you're having a haircut, sorry.

Saying all that, you have my utmost sympathy as it's horrible when your kids let you down and you want the nearest hole to swallow you up

Thanks.

Ooh lots of sympathy from me too - I have had some truly horrific trips! But to be honest, if I were having my own hair cut in that hour and a quarter I wouldn't have been impressed. Much sympathy, but I couldn't criticise those that were annoyed.

Words failed me.

Believe me, I was trying my best to keep them quiet, still and behaving but it didn't work.

The woman said her kids behave better than mine. That was what was said. Her kids were 9 and over. Mine are 2, 4 and 6.

Okay but I was trying. what more do you want me to have done?

Fuck her.

She sounds like a cunt.

farking hell
talk about kicking someone when they are down

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2,4 and 6!

Grow their hair long!

I think you deserve a medal for trying to do stuff with 3 - I often find 2 a struggle I hate it when you get judgemental looks - their kids might have been behaving today but I bet they've had days when they've been monsters too.

I have just found a fab home visiting hair dresser and I meet up with a friend and her kids - we all get it done together/keep an eye on each others monsters.

NAB, hairdresser sounds as if she's in training to be one of those nightmare MILs we hear so much about on here. You know, the ones who are convinced that their children never misbehaved. If her kids are 9 and over, she's just forgotten how uncooperative they can be at 2, 4 and 6.

And she was bloody rude, I'd write and complain if I were you.

NAB,

You have my sympathy in this situation. I waited 2 months and in the end had to take my 1 ds with me to get my haircut as quite simply don't have anyone outside childminder to look after him. (I was starting to look like Ozzy Osbourne) He stayed in his pram and was fine for my 20 minute cut but I was nervous as hell that he might 'playup'.

So to all those who judged your kids for what sounds like being kids (ie: a bit bored in the hairdressers) then I'd say 'walk a mile in my shoes then judge me'. And for the woman who told you her children were better behaved than yours I would've responded 'Good for you'. A statement that I have adopted since beoming a parent which I use as a polite replacement for '@* you' - And nobody seems to notice the ironic tone.

Don't be ashamed - they're kids being kids.

I can't write and complain as this hairdressers is where they all rent a chair and I don't know who is in charge.

I did tell the woman that I didn't mean her kids when I said Oh yes all other kids are angels. I hadn't really noticed hers and it was more a comment to all those glaring at me. I was bloody trying!!!

You have my sympathy - mine are also 2, 4 and 6 and I have to take them all to get their hair cut on my own too. It's a nightmare. Sometimes I just think to hell with it and get mine done too! Sometimes they're perfect, sometimes they're horrendous no matter how many books, toys, snacks and bribes of lollipops afterwards I use. You just never know and people are horrible to make comments when they don't even know you. This did happen to me once and I told the nasty lady that my children had special needs! (they don't, they were just very naughty that day!) I know it was kind of a low card to play but it did shut the silly woman up.

NAB
You have my sympathies, taking 3 DCs to the hairdresser alone, what a nightmare.

And to the smug parents of perfect childen: bog off!

My brother took DS to his barbers last time we visited, they have a racing car seat and DS was so chuffed to be sitting in a racing car that he forgot to act up. I now send DS to the barbers with DH, no racing car but he likes going to the "men's hairdressers"

There are some hairdressers specially for children, do not know if there is one in your area. At least there, the staff would be more friendly I imagine. And they will have seen and heard worse than your DCs.

Oh NAB don't feel ashamed of them for this hairdressers are horrid places for kids, boring, confined, quiet horrible places i'm sure your kids were't being that bad and it was only the other people make comments which forced you to feel embarassed

We've luckily found a great hairdressers (after many many years of trying!!) that are great with the kids they have toys, books and drinks for them - kids need their haircut too which they often forget and i really think that they should do something to help amuse the LO's, or at least be tolerant, as we are still farking paying for it!!!!

NAB think of something else they have done to make you smile - fuck the hairdresser and the rude people - your kids are fab - tell us something good/funny they have done instead

Poor you. Hairdressers have become the new dentists on the hate scale (we used to dread the dentist, my DCs dread the hairdresser).

Had to bribe DS2 (£5 into his bank account) to get his hair cut yesterday as MIL is coming and I can't be bothered with the comments. He is 10.

Don't feel ashamed, they must have been bored stiff, and they are CHILDREN for gods sake... do none of the moaning bitches in the hairdressers remember what that stage is like? I think if I had been another client in there, and you had been blithely letting them run riot while you had a scalp massage, I'd have been annoyed but not when you were obviously trying your damnedest to keep three small energetic children under control.

DS (18m) came in with me yesterday for a 10 minute consultation - he was in the buggy - and he shouted and tried to grab the hairdryer and threw cheese on the floor - it was a nightmare. My hairdresser said they had had one small child in there on Saturday who was running up and down taking all the scissors! (she was laughing about it!)

I definitely agree with the others - look for a home hairdresser. Yellow Pages? or ask the lady who does your hair - lots of them do home visits.

Keep your chin up sweetie, you're doing a fab job, and don't let those miserable old farts get you down!