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My daughter hates me...please help.

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DaisyDoo1919 · 02/07/2020 10:12

First time using Mumsnet. I'm so desperate.
For the last 2 weeks my 2.5 year old toddler absolutely hates being around me. She screams hysterically at everything I try to do. I cant even manage to change her nappy in the morning. She becomes in such a hysterical state that she has made herself sick. It's only been happening for the last couple of weeks, prior to that absolutely no problems. If somebody else (ie my partner or mum) does something she seems fairly happy but the second I walked into her room this morning she screamed. In my desperation I got my husband to come back from work...she was back to being happy. The second he went back she started kicking me and screaming this wailing hysterical scream.

I feel so down and at my wits end. I've got doctors to ring me later to rule out anything underlying like an infection of some sort but its honestly just when I am on my own with her.

What have I done wrong? The only thing different is my husband went back to work after being furloughed but that was about a month ago.

Any advice, tips, anything please please, anything could help.

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DaisyDoo1919 · 03/07/2020 18:30

She has had the whole afternoon with her dad, he said shes been wonderful, not a single tantrum but as soon as I got back all hell broke loose and she ran away from me.

Its really draining me. I know that I shouldn't take it personally, I really do but I can't help I've done something wrong. I think it's related to dad being her all thr time and now is suddenly not here but it's so upsetting me.

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ZooKeeper19 · 03/07/2020 19:00

Oh @DaisyDoo1919 I am really really sorry :( It is absolutely not your fault and she loves you. She is just all emotion right now and it's so hard for you to bear all of that for her. I would try to give her as much time as you can. Just be there, but let her make the choices (within reason of course).

I really do not know what else to say, just keep your emotions flowing, you are important and you need to acknowledge how you feel about this. Really hope it does get better for you.

DaisyDoo1919 · 03/07/2020 20:28

@Zookeeper19 thank you. Your words are really kind and was just lovely to read.

I didn't really know what mumsnet would be like, I've heard good and bad! But I'm really glad I joined. This has really kept me sane(ish!)

Managed to get a smile out of her, so at this stage I will take that small win where I can get it and try to keep my chin up Smile

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