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5 month old is pretty much silent. No coos or noise. Advice? Please x

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Cluhol · 21/04/2020 18:41

Hi all,

Wondering if anyone can give any scope on this?

My daughter is 5 months on the 28th of this month.
She was starting to coo etc but had just stopped and hasn't cooed for about 3 or 4 weeks now. She has done a few odd ones to add but nothing noticeable or significant. But from what I see and gather, babies this age generally shout out and coo and chat away?
My baby is silent, if she isn't crying or whinging on the cusp of crying.

She 2 days ago started making noise again, sort of like a gugrle in the back of her throat, kinda shhhhughhh like, as if we were to imitate a low rumbling noise I guess? But this has not happened again.

She can roll front to back (a recent milestone) and has done this 5 times, but generally just cries during tummy time instead.

I spoke to HV about this who appeared to be concerned and said to mention it to GP when I speak to them about her skin (which I couldn't do as when I spoke to GP he was difficult and condescending!) and to pediatrician after referral for skin.

For info, she has cmpa and bad eczema which dietician thinks is a reaction to something else (dust, pollen, etc?) and has requested a pediatrician referral for investigation. I guess this is Gonna take months though esp in current climate.
She is an itchy wee soul and spends a a lot of her time itching and uncomfortable.

I do the usual sit and chat, sing, read, play, immitate a lot.

Could her allergies be delaying her development? Or do some babies just stop making noise and are totally fine?

Or could being cooped up and not at baby play classes contribute?

She's my rainbow baby and I worry about alot, especially since cmpa took ages to diagnose due to GP dismissing us for weeks and still trying to figure out how to help her skin and itching.

Thank you for reading this anxious mothers long rambley post. I hope someone can reassure me?

Thank you x

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 21/04/2020 20:30

No idea on the babbling sorry but was just wondering about the CMPA ad she still has eczema.

If you are BFing, have you tried cutting out soya as well? Half of people with CMPA also have an allergy to Soy.

If she's. FF, is she on a completely DF formula?

Cluhol · 22/04/2020 10:46

Hi, she's on Neocate so completely free. Advised to avoid soya, egg and peanuts when we start weaning too x

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Cluhol · 22/04/2020 20:37

Bump?, x

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crazydiamond222 · 24/04/2020 07:31

I am no expert but from what I have read I think 5 months is quite early for babbling but some cooing of the vowel sounds are more common.
I also found with my two that they would go through periods when they were quieter, usually when they were working on something else e.g motor skills instead.

I don't think being at home will affect anything. It sounds like you are doing plenty with her.

Do you think her hearing is ok? Does she turn to see where a sound is coming from? With my first he had cows milk protein intolereance which caused ear infections which affected his hearing.

Try not to worry too much, she is still very little.

Cluhol · 24/04/2020 11:15

Thank you :)
It's very hard not to compare, I have a few friends with babies and mine is a few weeks older and they're all chatting away daily and my baby is practically a mute!
Her hearing appears fine as she will turn to look at me if I make a funny sound or squeak a toy etc xx

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BBS20 · 15/12/2020 14:42

@Cluhol how is your baby doing now?
My nearly 4 month old is not really babbling either. Around 2.5 months he was cooing and engaging. Now he's making a high pitched noise like screaming when I try to talk to him but on the whole is generally very quiet. He's my 3rd baby and I never had this with my other 2. Even when he needs a feed he hardly ever cries it's more just a whimper. I am starting to really worry x

Cluhol · 15/12/2020 18:10

Hey! Much better now, she says mama and nanna and Baba but not in context, she's just turned one years old.
She is behind socially but not too concerning really as she's getting there.

She is generally a quiet baby in temperament but her motor skills are good and she is walking x

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BBS20 · 15/12/2020 18:34

@Cluhol Aww. I am so happy to hear she is saying words and doing well. I hope she continues to progress and meet all of her other milestones too. Hopefully my little one will pick up the babbling again and start engaging with us.
Thank you for responding x

Cluhol · 15/12/2020 19:56

If I can say one thing it's to try and relax and take it as it comes. I've wasted a lot of time worrying and for what? I have come to terms with the fact she will get there and if she needs extra help then she does, she's still my baby and her personality is unique to her and that's what makes her who she is.
Lockdown and covid parenting is hard and lonely and gives one an unimaginable amount of time to overthink and worry!! Along with Google diagnosing every "my baby doesn't XYZ" with some sort of additional need. Believe me, I've probably been on every single blooming Google page and I regret it because it just made me worry.
I've actually removed all apps on my phone that are related to parenting forums or developmental milestones etc and it's helped a lot as it's removed the old temptation to compare my baby to others.
Another thing I've learned is often on forums people post the good stuff and advanced stuff their baby IS doing but not what they aren't. It's absolutely not a true reflection of the majority of babies compared to yours!
Anyway, sorry for going on and on, I just wish I took the advice to relax and stop worrying on board sooner.

I got an email saying that you'd wrote on here and I only felt it fair to respond to help you out as I've always found it helpful and reassuring when people update threads! X

Sounds like your little one is actually doing great and you're a great mum too.

Lots of love!!! Xxxx

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BBS20 · 17/12/2020 17:00

@Cluhol Thank you so much for the reassurance and responding. I agree I have been going crazy searching for 'why my baby isn't doing xyz' Pretty much from 6 weeks onwards when he wasn't smiling. Then he started to smile and I moved on to why he wasn't looking and cooing. Then he started to coo and now has stopped. I never did this with my other 2 and Covid definitely has had a part to play. I guess it's the not being able to see many people and he hasn't really spent much time with anyone else. Plus with the other 2 at school I have so much more time to worry. Lol.

Wishing you all the best with your little one. Hopefully this Covid stuff will be over soon and the babies won't be too affected by it. I definitely feel depressed from it all.

Possum1986 · 29/09/2021 10:51

Hey how is your baby now? I am going through exactly the same thing. She is 5 months next week and is pretty much mute other than some cooing. She smiles at us and looks at us. No giggling.

Starting to worry :(

amankaura · 01/12/2021 16:02

@Possum1986 how is ur baby now ? my baby also mute still

amankaura · 01/12/2021 16:10

my 5 months old is quite always , no cooing ,no other noise ... he used to make noise when he was 2.5 old like aaa-goo,aaa-wooo but now he is totally silent.. m worried . any parents have same experience ?

Cluhol · 28/10/2022 10:51

Hello, it's been a while. I used to look back on old threads and wish there was an update.
UPDATE :
NO, I wasn't going crazy. YES my daughter has additional needs and is almost at the end of her autism assessment. That being said, she is so funny, so interactive now, definitely knows her name and has even started saying some words.

My advice to you, mama, who means well, wants the best and uses that blooming baby milestone app - DELETE IT.
That app is not helpful, and it stole the first year of motherhood from me. I was obsessed, and sad and worried.
Now I have accepted my baby girl has additional needs, but, I wouldn't change her. She is the light of my life and makes everyone around her smile. Her path is different to most of her age, but that's okay, it is what makes her, her.

Please try not to worry. It's easier said than done, but take it from me, you're probably not going crazy, trust your Instinct, but enjoy your baby no matter what.

Xxx

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ponny · 29/10/2022 02:31

@Cluhol what was her behaviour at 1 year old? is she copied u or pointed at things?

Cluhol · 29/10/2022 08:38

No, no pointing or copying then xx

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Alicet31 · 15/12/2022 02:25

How was her eye contact when she was younger? My 5 month old has never cooed or made any noise apart from crying. She hardly smiles and I'm so worried

ponny · 17/12/2022 20:21

@Alicet31 donot worry dear.. i was in same boat.. my baby never cooed or any noise untill 7 months.. he cried very less , just only for feeding, no ahh, ohhs, no baby talking. i was worried sick.at 7 months he started suddnly noise like papa, baba but very less... very rarely he make any noise . but i was better than his silence. now he is 1.5 years nd he is saying 8 clear word. he is very cleaver n trouble creative boy. at 5 months he rarely makes eye contact. so dont wory. i also wasted my lot of time in worring.

Yas1362 · 02/07/2025 16:43

Hi @amankaura how is your baby now?

Yas1362 · 02/07/2025 16:48

Hi @ponny any update please?

Yas1362 · 02/07/2025 16:48

@Alicet31 any update?

Yas1362 · 02/07/2025 17:00

@BBS20
how is your baby now?

Alicet31 · 02/07/2025 17:33

@Yas1362 She's nearly 3 and I have no concerns. She talks in full sentences, is a very happy and clever girl.

I remember being so worried when she was little as she was so quiet and serious but you wouldn't know it now as she is such a chatterbox.

Try not to worry! All babies are different

Yas1362 · 03/07/2025 15:26

@Alicet31 thank you very much for your response. It’s so reassuring to know that your little girl is doing so well.
my nearly four month old son is also kind of quite baby. Just some coo here and there.

when did your girl start babbling if I may ask?

Yas1362 · 03/08/2025 13:27

@BBS20 Hi. My baby is like yours. May I ask how did it turn out for your baby? Did he have any delay in language development?