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So whenever I ask dd what happened at nursery today, she tells me....

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Kathyis6incheshigh · 04/09/2007 10:18

...who she hit that day and what with!

Eg me: Did you have a nice day at nursery today, dd?
DD: yes. I did hit Susie with the hammer

or dd:'I was on time out.'
me: Why were you on time out dd?
her: Because I did hit Oscar with the bat.

So I got dh to investigate.... and nursery staff deny all knowledge of her hitting habit. Apparently she was on time out one day but that was for not staying still during storytime.

So what do you reckon? Is she hitting people and getting away with it? Or do they just talk rubbish at that age (26 months)?
She does occasionally hit her baby brother at home. But she rarely talks total nonsense when we discuss what we've been doing at home - sometimes gets confused about when things happened, but doesn't usually say things happened that didn't.

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SixKindsofCrisis · 05/09/2007 10:01

When he was at nursery my ds1 always used to report that he had played all day with Adam, a Big Boy who was Nearly Four. We took all this at face value until, at some sort of open day, we observed Adam and realised that he barely acknowledged ds's existence. Ds had been hero worshipping him from afar and fantasising about close friendship.

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Kathyis6incheshigh · 05/09/2007 10:02

Oh Sixkindsofcrisis, bless, that is so sweet!

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Aefondkiss · 05/09/2007 10:03

my ds doesn't talk like that, so I can't help, he can talk but not as well as his peers, if you have peers when you are 3.4...

your dd sounds a bit like my dd, she would either tell me nothing or about who was naughty

the thing is if your dd was beating other children with random toys, if they were hurt they would be quick to let the nursery workers know through their screams...

SixKindsofCrisis · 05/09/2007 10:12

Yes, Kathy6, it really tugged on my heartstrings: his first introduction to all the uncertainties and angst of 'making friends'
Since we bothe have a 'six' in our names, do you think we might be distantly related?

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Kathyis6incheshigh · 05/09/2007 10:19

Aefondkiss - yes, you're right - if she is bashing people she can't be doing it very hard. She's probably a bit too young to be sneaky about only doing it when no-one is looking - two year olds are not known for their cunning, are they?

6Kinds - yes, I expect we are distantly related. I am from the shorter branch of the family and you must be from the side that lives in the state [bad pun] of Crisis.

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kbaby · 05/09/2007 12:03

DD used to tell me all about her friend at nursery called Casey and how they play, dolls, houses chasing etc
it wasnt until I asked nursery to pass on a birthday invite they told me they have never had a child there called casey.

haychee · 05/09/2007 12:13

I was once told not to ask and to wait until they want to tell you. If you pressure them for information and they have forgotten, they probobly will make it up. Which i have found is the case. So i sit back and wait, eventually they want to share something or other that happened but its not always from that particular day its often from a few days or even the week before.

karlou · 05/09/2007 12:14

When dd1 was at preschool she started telling me stories about what she was going to be doing with her "gran". Not her nanny who she saw almost daily but a gran who initially appeared at the time the Queen Mother died. Originally she started telling people that her gran had died and was buried at Windsor but this obviously didn't provide enough scope for her imagination so "gran" miraculously came to life again so they could do all sorts of things togther. She talked about her so often that I mentioned it to the pre-school teachers just so that they knew that stories about "gran" weren't actually true. It turned out that she never mentioned her at pre-school anyway!!
Mind you I was a bit confused when after her first day at pre-school she told me she'd been playing with Flip'n'Death - turned out it was Philip and Seth!!

meowmix · 05/09/2007 13:25

actually I found out last night that the omerta code can be broken for a grandparent

TellusMater · 05/09/2007 13:30

DD was telling a friend all about her ballet lessons. They are a long way away. We have to go in the car. Her teacher's name is Emma. Her ballet shoes are pink but her tap shoes are red.

She is 3.6 and has never has a dancing lesson in her life.

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Kathyis6incheshigh · 05/09/2007 14:17

Oh, this is fascinating!
She was talking about wanting to play with Oscar and Binney the other week. I assumed they were children at nursery and then as we were watching a Teletubbies video it turned out there were two little boys in that called Oscar and Binney.

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daisyandbabybootoo · 05/09/2007 14:25

My DS had school dinners all last year and he would never divulge what he'd had to eat. His stock response was "you guess mummy? or he'd tell me that he only had carrots and gravy cos it was all he ordered.....I'm pretty sure that the school would not let a five year old just eat carrots and gravy....eevery day for a whole term!

This year we're doing packed lunches!

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Kathyis6incheshigh · 05/09/2007 14:28

Oh Daisy, my friend's ds claimed to have regularly eaten chips and ice cream for school dinners. She didn't believe him because she assumed no school would let a 5 year old eat just chips and ice cream FGS and then that Jamie Oliver programme appeared on the telly and guess what....

So if your ds was just eating carrots and gravy he was probably getting more nutrition than most of the class

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daisyandbabybootoo · 05/09/2007 18:20

LO Kathy.....you're probably right.

at least with packed lunches i'm seeing what he's eating...or not if today's return offering is anything to by!

DontCallMeBaby · 05/09/2007 18:30

I keep asking DD what she's done at nursery ... I never learn, the answer is always 'nothing' or 'I can't remember'. Not only should I learn, I should know better in the first place - I once got into trouble at school for not working, but rather writing notes on what I was supposed to be doing, so I could tell my parents who WOULD keep asking what I did at school!

marthamoo · 05/09/2007 18:48

Ds1's stock answer to "what have you done today?" was always, "I can't berember." He's 10 now and the only thing that's changed is that he can now say "remember" properly

pollywollydoodle · 05/09/2007 21:25

"Speaking rubbish" (earlier post) or just wishful thinking....we went to tescos and left the baby behind!... and great imagination!...love the crocs and peas and gravy story

My DD told me tonight she had asked a lad to go on a trip with her....he said yes so they went on the climbing frame (ok so far) then jumped on the preschool roof and climbed back in thru the lightbulbs then ate all the ice cream !

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