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So whenever I ask dd what happened at nursery today, she tells me....

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Kathyis6incheshigh · 04/09/2007 10:18

...who she hit that day and what with!

Eg me: Did you have a nice day at nursery today, dd?
DD: yes. I did hit Susie with the hammer

or dd:'I was on time out.'
me: Why were you on time out dd?
her: Because I did hit Oscar with the bat.

So I got dh to investigate.... and nursery staff deny all knowledge of her hitting habit. Apparently she was on time out one day but that was for not staying still during storytime.

So what do you reckon? Is she hitting people and getting away with it? Or do they just talk rubbish at that age (26 months)?
She does occasionally hit her baby brother at home. But she rarely talks total nonsense when we discuss what we've been doing at home - sometimes gets confused about when things happened, but doesn't usually say things happened that didn't.

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Othersideofthechannel · 04/09/2007 10:23

DD is 2.8 and still gets confused about when she did what in the past. She told me yesterday that the day before she had played Daddy's drums. She did it once several months ago.

She is probably just mixing up events that have made an impression on her.

Charlee · 04/09/2007 10:29

Ds 3 - said the same thing to me for months hen he went to playschool it was always.

'i've been on the naughty mat for smacking'

It wasn't untill i actually went in and asked his teacher that i found out they didn't do a naughty mat for children his age and he has never smacked anyone while there.

So i guess maybe she has seen some other kids doing it and been put in time out so is repeating what she has seen? Thats what i assumed with ds!

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Kathyis6incheshigh · 04/09/2007 10:29

I hope so Othersideofthechannel.
They do have an amazingly crap conception of time at that age don't they?

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Kathyis6incheshigh · 04/09/2007 10:30

Charlee, that is very interesting. Thanks.

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berolina · 04/09/2007 10:50

They do talk rubbish, 'stream of consciousness' type - they're only just getting used to verbalising. ds (2.3) comes out with the oddest things. He woke up tonight saying 'banana' and later on, 'another shower' . He also claims he went to various places 'yesterday' when it was several weeks ago. He also uses 'you' when he means 'I' sometimes.

blueshoes · 04/09/2007 10:57

My dd blames a certain boy at nursery for hitting her, almost daily for months. I started to get suspicious when she blamed him for her BCG scar as well!

BettySpaghetti · 04/09/2007 10:57

DS tends to deny doing anything at nursery

me: What toys did you play with today?
DS: Nothing
me Who did you play with then? Nathaniel? Lauren?
DS: No body

His best yet though is that "The lady at nursery gave me cat food for lunch"

(further investigation showed he does play with toys and friends and is not fed cat food )

Don't believe everything theys say

MerlinsBeard · 04/09/2007 10:59

DS1 told me that he did nothing at nursery and never played with anyone. i didn't believe him and came to pick him up early one day to find him having the time of his life playing outside surrounded by girls and a huge pile of paintings etc that he should have taken home months ago!

meowmix · 04/09/2007 11:01

we had the toddler code of omerta

"what did you do at nursery today"

DS: silence, hard stare

"come on you can tell me"

DS no. you weren't there.

"oh"

SleeplessInTheStaceym11House · 04/09/2007 11:01

i wouldnt hold much weight to what s/hes saying (sorry forgotten gender) about this age my dad asked dd what we'd done that day (a few weeks after ds was born) and she said 'we went tesco's......and left the baby at home!'

we hadnt even been to tesco's let alone left ds at home!

they do get things confused at this age, especially time scales! i wouldnt worry too much!

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Kathyis6incheshigh · 04/09/2007 11:10

ROFL at these, especially the BCG scar and the toddler code of omerta.
She does normally make sense, this is the first time she's ever said anything really odd (bizarre timescales apart, obviously) but this is all very reassuring.

Actually come to think of it she did bring home a painting once that she claimed to have done but we were a bit about it as it was rather good and she can scarcely hold a paintbrush unless to suck off the paint. We assumed she'd had help, though.

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Vikkin · 04/09/2007 11:15

My dd signed up to omerta all her reception year. 'Nuffink' and 'just played' were the extent of her sharing.
I ended up parking opposite the school at breaktimes to watch unobserved to make sure she had friends!
I stopped when I saw her dragging a child across the playground in a toybox.

Sidge · 04/09/2007 11:27

Sounds pretty normal to me. Even my eldest (nearly 9) doesn't tell me what she does at school. According to her they do nothing, all day every day... LOL

Have to admit I am surprised the nursery would put a 26 mth old in time out for not sitting still during storytime. Don't know many toddlers that can sit still for long, and if they don't I would expect gentle encouragement to stay still, not time out.

TooTicky · 04/09/2007 11:30

If you let her go off sailing and camping on islands she wouldn't crave the excitement and adventure

sputnik · 04/09/2007 11:46

I'm regularly informed by my DD (3) that she ate crocodile for lunch at the nursery. when I ask what she played with it's usually crocodile. It's her standard answer to stupid questions she can't be bothered to answer I've never seen a crocodile there.

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Kathyis6incheshigh · 04/09/2007 11:52

Sidge, I was surprised about that too, to be honest. And I don't entirely approve. She had just moved up from the baby unit, where she was extremely happy, to the toddler unit, so it's a lot of new behaviour to learn as she is now being expected to do the same thing as children up to the age of nearly five. She loves the excitement of playing with the big children but she was quite disruptive and stroppy for the first month or so. We were warned to expect this, but I couldn't help thinking that if they cut her some more slack maybe it would have been easier for her.

Tooticky - good point. She is always demanding to go camping and sailing . When we go somewhere with yachts she always points and goes 'Daddy, I need a boat!' but her mean daddy never ever lets her have one

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Kathyis6incheshigh · 04/09/2007 11:54

LOL at the crocodile Sputnik.
When my dd can't be bothered to answer something her way is to say yes to everything, so we do the elephant test - 'Did you have elephant for lunch?'
'Yes' and then we know she's not listening.

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milkymill · 04/09/2007 14:26

We have exactly the same thing with dd (2.9). When she's in a stroppy non-comunicative mood she tells me she had caterpillars foe lunch! As for the op, i think they tend to pick up on certain 'one off' events and repeat the same 'tale' over and over sometimes.

UniSarah · 04/09/2007 21:27

firends 2.6 yr old ds is i similar to Ops child, when he been to play with boy him mum has made enquires about " did he really hity boy...." oftens its been that my boy hit hers not other way round or that their rough and tumble got a bit to rough and one of them cried. Apparently he does this a lot, its what sticks in his mind but hes a bit vauge about who did it to whom.

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Kathyis6incheshigh · 05/09/2007 08:46

Gosh UniSarah, that's very similar, then.
Thanks.

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themildmanneredjanitor · 05/09/2007 08:52

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flightattendant · 05/09/2007 09:09

What is Omerta, please? We are missing something!

meowmix · 05/09/2007 09:14

omerta is the mafia code/oath of silence or secrecy. Personally I suspect the teachers line em up on day one and make them swear it.

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flightattendant · 05/09/2007 09:52

Thanks!

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