I followed contented Gina Ford's Contented Little Baby

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Am I the only one here who found this book useful? Here's why?
If I hadn't read it, I wouldn't have had a clue when to feed (more relevant as dd was eventually formula fed). I wouldn't have known about naps and night sleep. I had no received knowledge as I don't have much family. I did read other books but they seemed waffly and woolly.
Once I was more confident, I found that dd didn't follow GF to the letter, but it was a foundation for me.
I don't understand why people have a problem with writers who give definitive solutions/advice. If they don't like it, they can simply ignore it.

but Haarpsi I think that the only way a book like this is saying that all babies are the same, is that they all need food, sleep, stimulation etc; It isn't saying they need the same amount. As twinkle says it is clearly explained that it's a guide and that crying babies need to be dealt with. It's suggested that babies are started on or moved to other routines for younger or older babies, if they're not slotting into the suggested one for their age group.

It seems many people look at this sort of book in a very superficial way. It's also only for people who want to use it; if it doesn't work, people won't want to use it!

because they wouldn't take a bottle gess so they needed to be "screaming with hunger" to make them, to get them weaned onto the bottle.
don't worry though they were six months already.

Where did that come from Harpsi?

erm- why did they need to take a bottle?

yes
I own the book, because I bought it to read for my university course. I read it very very thoroughly and wrote an essay about it (and its affect on bonding, parenting and breastfeeding) , and I can honestly say it is very prescriptive indeed about timings of feeds and lengths of feeds and sleeps.
I don't want to quote from it because the last time I did I was threatened with legal action.
which was rather tiresome I must say.

so their mum can get some sleep gess.
natch.

oh so who's giving the bottle??? I'm not getting it am I?

You're kidding - really? How come? You probably don't want to go into it I guess.

Seriously though, you're right - it is a worry if people take it too literally. There are many things in there that worry me. In my slightly vulnerable state at the time I did start to believe and try things like not having eye contact at the last feed, but it went so against my better judgement that it lasted all of one day I think. Having naps in a separate room at a young age worries me a lot as well.

Well, it worked for me but I always ready to be wrong (must have an inferiority complex) and I'm certainly not saying everyone should do it! I'd be interested to know what form your research took Haarpsi - was it case study based?

has this thing kicked off yet?

DON'T MAKE ME QUOTE THE BOOK
yes to the eye contact thing.
yes to sleeping separately from day one, contrary to FSIDS advice of course.

I hope it doesn't kick off Suzywong. It's just a pretty interesting discussion at the moment.

really, honestly, I am not getting into it
cos I promised dh I wouldn't again.

hey Suzy
night Suzy

OK, I'll stop asking questions. I promised my DH a similar thing a while ago concerning the breastfeeding threads.

no best left. night all.

Step away harpsi...you are bigger and better than this

'Tis all a lot of trivia.

SuzyWong - I haven't been on MN for too long, but long enough to notice that

'Has this thing kicked off yet' is a bit of a mantra with you.

blimey, that told me good and proper, sorry Miss.

actually suzy, i would say you were being pedantic rather than didactic

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I actually found it very useful.

But i don;t like babies.