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3 month old crying every evening..words of wisdom please?

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TillyBeany · 23/05/2007 20:52

My 14 week old is a happy sunny baby until an hour before her evening bottle and sleep (about 7.30). She cries unconsolably (if that's a word!) for up to an hour and then conks out for the night. She doesn't seem to have any issues with bringing wind up in the day so just seems weird if that was the cause..I know colic would probably be the obvious answer but I thought they grew out of that by 14 weeks? Just wondering if anyone had had a similar experience, any advice would be welcomed!

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deestingsduznotappen · 23/05/2007 20:55

Could LO be overtired? Would an extra hour sleep in the day help?

ScottishThistle · 23/05/2007 20:56

Does she have a bath in the evening before her bedtime bottle?

bramblina · 23/05/2007 20:57

Colic can go on for months- even years in extreme cases. It may be worth considering this and looking in to treating it if it is that. Reflux and colic are often worse in the evenings.
I would also wonder if she is very tired, could you try putting her to bed as soon as she gets unhappy? I was surprised when I had my ds how many friends' los go to bed around 6.30pm.

LoveMyGirls · 23/05/2007 20:58

All babies have a crying time, my dd1 always used to cry about 6.30 for an hour, dd2 always used to cry about 4ish.

Sometimers theres nothing wrong they just have a crying time.

oldwomanwholivedinashoe · 23/05/2007 20:59

Over tired? My dd was liket his until she had late afternoon nap before bath - I used to think this would 'spoil' bedtime - but it helped

LoveMyGirls · 23/05/2007 21:00

Thin kabout it, they dont really do much and have lots of naps they need something to wear them out so they sleep all night. When she's crying just try to think of it as her way of saying IM tired i wanna go to sleep and if dh is there take turns, 10 mins each.

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TillyBeany · 23/05/2007 21:10

Have started with a bath in the evening which does seem to relax her but the crying starts after..haven't really got into a routine when it comes to sleeps during the day so could be overtiredness. Will try her with some infacol again I think, but will just try and accept that she may just need a 'crying time' as LoveMyGirls said. Is hard cos it always seems to be around dd1's bedtime, which makes it all the more chaotic in the house!

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LoveMyGirls · 23/05/2007 21:15

What time do you bath her?

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TillyBeany · 23/05/2007 21:22

Usually about half 6..though from the general advice on the thread think it may be worth considering doing it half an hour earlier..

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ScottishThistle · 23/05/2007 21:24

Yes, move bath time half an hour & I'm sure you'll see a difference!

LoveMyGirls · 23/05/2007 21:24

I've always bathed mine at 6pm then bottle then bed by 7pm.

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TillyBeany · 23/05/2007 21:26

Shall give it a go..am v grateful for the advice cos watching such a bundle of smiles suddenly cry so much and not be able to do anything for her can be so sad!

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SingingBear · 23/05/2007 21:28

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Pinkveto · 23/05/2007 21:29

My 15 weeker has a lovely time in the bath at about 6pm, but goes completely mental during drying, clean nappy and dressing.

I wonder if its because its the only bit of routine she has, and after getting dressed she gets a stonking feed - I think I trigger her to feel hungry. Or she loves the bath and doesnt want to get out? Or shes mad that her thrillingly exiting day has ended?

No idea. But it is wearing isnt it, when you know whats coming. Sympathy. Im hoping it can only get better as she gets bigger

Desiderata · 23/05/2007 21:32

It seems a long time ago now, but when babies/toddlers start crying inconsolably, it's usually because they're tired.

Try 6.30.

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TillyBeany · 23/05/2007 21:34

Am sending you sympathy back Pinkveto..tis reassuring to know I'm not alone though! Out of interest SingingBear mentioned the Baby Whisperer, would you recommend it in general?

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chocolatemummy · 23/05/2007 21:35

if this doesn't stop or improve follwing some of the other ideas in this thread thrn try a cranial osteopath I did when my dd was creaming most evenings an it seemed to start earlier and earlier each day, it worked miracles!

SingingBear · 23/05/2007 21:42

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Pinkveto · 23/05/2007 21:42

I have the book in a cupboard somewhere, but havent had time to read it yet...

SingingBear · 23/05/2007 21:46

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TillyBeany · 23/05/2007 21:47

Hmm ta for that may have a perusal sounds like there are some interesting tips..think only problem with the gap in ages between dd1 and dd2 is that any knowledge I had about babies and their needs has apparently completly disappeared into the ether! Thankfully my sinister lurking habit on mumsnet has paid off and you good people have helped enormously!

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Pinkveto · 23/05/2007 21:48

Thanks for that! There is hope. We bath every night because she really does love it when shes in, but the earsplitting howls after are a trial...

Desiderata · 23/05/2007 22:42

Pink, lots of people go for routine, and that's fine. But bathing a baby every night can lead for trouble later on. I mean by that, that they don't need to be bathed every night ... and if they expect it? Well, just a thought for later.

whomovedmychocolate · 23/05/2007 22:45

Ditto the cranial osteopathy, but I'm afraid babies do just cry - my DD cried in the evening for weeks at 3 months old and then it just stopped - nothing we did, no idea why.

Remember she's only trying to communicate, not torture you and she's not in pain she's just crying.

I used to find singing very loud drowned out the noise and DD would stop crying to listen.

emsiewill · 26/05/2007 18:08

Aha! TillyBeany! Lurker no more!!!!!

I see you have been sucked in...I knew it would happen eventually.

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