am i alone in thinking that CC is not a good thing?

[lucyellensmum]

I know it works, well appears to judging by how many people use it. But to leave your child to cry themselves to sleep? I don't get it. There has to be a kinder way.

am going to consider the method laid down by rantum, will talk to dp about it tonight as i feel that i wont be able to stick to it if we haven't discussed it, even though i'm in charge of settling to sleep, i just think that if i have said, Right, this is how it will be, i might have the tenacity to see it through. But hands up anyone who thinks i should wait til dd is in own room?

rantum,you give sound advice re dog rearing too, lucyellensmum says sycophantically (spelling!). i want a puppy (just thought id share that!)

How long will it be before she is in her own room? If it's only a matter of a few weeks then maybe you should wait. I found that dd was quite insecure when she first went into her own room and told me she didn't like it. After a few nights she was fine and after a week we started the sleep training.

Good luck!

you are not alone, i dont think it is a good thing for my children, but thats not to say it is not good for other peoples children.
i am not strong enough to do it.

No you are not alone

I think that in principle this type of sleep routine should work wherever your dd is sleeping. In fact, if you have a clear routine in place, moving dd to another room may be easier when you come to do it (you just continue the exact same method in a new room) It means less upsetting changes for your dd. Good luck with whatever you choose to do!

Thanks lucy - and in case anyone is worried, the dog method and the child method are not the same .

hmmm, i'm not so sure rantum, i mean, in dogs, we reward good behaviour and ignore bad - don't we, sound familiar

lol