3yr old son wants pink frilly swimsuit! advise please!!

[mum2twins]

Is this a stage - does anyone else's son like girly things.

Yes mine does. He is only 19mths though, but he loves wearing his sisters pink shoes, and is always pinching Dd2's knickers.
Oh and loves dolls and pushchairs.

Yes a stage. Ds when younger insisted on wearing all sorts of very girly things and I really thought it would never end but it does thank god!

My son loved girly things around that age. He had a pram at 2 and dolls (much to dh's disgust!!!!).
Now at 6.5 he gets really embarrased if I remind him, he hates pink now!!!!

I'm sure it's a stage. MY ds (also 3) has taken to dressing up in his girl friends fairy dresses, princess dresses, carrying handbags etc.
Personally, I'd humour him.

My DS (2) also enjoys dressing up in DD's clothes. Infact, she loves helping him dress up. He can also be found walking around the house in her pink shoes with a handbag under his arm!
I think it is a phase they go through and I'm certainly not worried about it. I don't actually encourage him to wear them outside the house, but I do take pictures to embarrass him when he is older!

I'd let him have it too, my ds loved glittery nailvarnish at that age but wouldn't be seen dead in it now (nearly 7)!

DS (just 3)spent all w/e with a pink 'scrunchie' making a stick-up pony tail on the top of his head, and adores sparkly nail varnish on his toes.

My ds has just been given pink barbie skates for his 3rd birthday - he's in heaven.
He also dresses up in dd's clothing which is difficult as she is only 9 months.

Ds's favourite colour is pink. He went into absolute raptures last week when I gave him one of those Nivea lipgloss/lipstick things - pink of course! - and loves putting it on himself, dd, me, anyone who will let him. Dd doesn't criticise me in front of ds, but I can see the frown that he's trying to hide .

IMO it's probably better to let the little boys enjoy themselves without worrying about gender-stuff...they'll get all tribal and masculinised as they get older.

Ds(3.10) loves to wear my bright red nail varnish on his toes - at first to be like Mummy as I had put some on, but now I think because he likes it. He comes to me as it wears off asking for more.

DS is getting a pink tea set for his second birthday, as well as a Buzz Lightyear. He asked for both of them. He also loves my lip gloss and playing in my make-up. Just one of those things and probably quite healthy. I wouldn't worry about it.

My ds is also 3 and his favourite colour is pink - has a pink duvet cover and pillowcase set, insisted on buying pink sparkly jelly shoes for his holiday and loves wearing pink nail varnish..! I think it's great he can do this now before it's not 'cool' to like pink - probably in a couple of years time...

on his first day of nursery, my youngest ds made a beeline for the pink frilly princess dress and wore it proudly all day. It took just a few weeks for him to realise it was more a girls thing. Sigh.

Not all phases that little boys go through are as nice IMO. Make the most of the pink phase, is my advice. That innocence will never return.

oh I love this thread as DS (nearly 3) has been asking for "a pink skirt like Mia's" for weeks. He also wants dancing lessons, red hair slides and insists on watching the Sound of Music over and over again...

I agree that the innocence is gorgeous.

My ds loved pink, one day he was in his pink pyjamas, with his pink fluffy sleepsuit on and wearing all my 'old' bead necklaces and a tinsle 'halo' left over from the playgroup nativity......He was looking so sweet and lovely! The HV called, absolutety horrified, I ignored her words of "Do you think those beads are safe dear?", "yes" I replied, they were individually knotted, (a bit like her knickers). He was 3 and yes I am sure it was a phase, but I have the photos to embarasse him with, but I never shall!. The story ends with me discovering that the HV wrote in her notes, "Both children content, age appropriate play observed. Possibility mother not acknowledging that she may have wanted a girl instead of boy.". This from a woman who had NEVER had children, but was qualified to make a statement like that!.
Enjoy this stage, he will discover that a pink frilly cossie is a girlie thing, in his own time. In the meantime, keep the HV well away and snap away with your camera, he will hate you for it in years to come and will do almost anything I am sure to prevent you showing them....you will have him over a barrel when you want him to , say, clean his muddy football boots!

bunglie - How RUDE! what a cheek that HV had

definitely let him have it, why should girls have the monopoly on pink and frilly. doesn't mean he's going to grow up to be gay, and frankly so what if he is: as my dh said the other day (in a very stereotyping way so forgive us) it'll mean he's better looking, better dressed and has a shot at being able to dance!!!!

more seriously, jenny murray is very good on this in her book 'that's my boy' (recommended reading for anyone with a ds), she does a great story about her 5 year old son telling the stuffy clarks shoe sales man that he is sexist when he objects to selling him the pink fairy princess shoes that he wants...

what is it that you're worried about, and although he probably will, why would you want him to grow out of it?

I'm aghast at Bunglie's social worker.

And if he is gay he'll never threaten you with a DAUGHTER IN LAW...

and you'll never be faced with the 16 year old he's got pregnant, aged 16!!!!

We've got some gorgeous photos of my brother, when he was about 3, dressed up in my grandma's net curtains with plastic roses in his hair He looks so cute!

Bunglie - am gobsmacked!

My ds is 2.5 (today!). One of his favourite things at the moment is to wrap himself in a towel/blanket & say very seriously "I being princess now Mummy." Love it!

Bunglie, PMSL at your hv, surely she knows all children like to dress up, for goodness sake! My ds went through a stage of loving everything pink but progressed to green when he was 4. Thankfully I didnt bow to his demands to paint his room pink.

thank you all for your replies I have just been reading them out to dh and we have both been in hysterics. We have always let them both (boy/girl twins) play with anything and dd has got cars as much as ds has dolly's so they have never been genderised in anyway. It was only because all the other boys we know are so boyish and ds is so gentle and sweet and doesn't like nursery much as it's "too noisy". I know alot of the other mums think he is a bit of a 'flower' and so letting him out in public in a pink flowered cossy might add fuel to the fire. Nevertheless you will all be pleased to hear he has been mincing around to his hearts content today in the item in question, but in the privicy of our garden. I am sure he is just a lovely boy but does make me worry about future problems, such as sticking up for himself etc, anyway enough rambling and 'power to boys in pink!

sophable, I really liked the Jenny Murray book too.

Aw, am giggling thinking of your lovely little ds enjoying prancing up and down the garden in his pink frilly swimsuit! Bless.