Does anyone else have an extremely irritating 3 year old??

[quietmouse]

My dd is 3yrs 4mths. Atm I find I am constantly irritated by her

All she seems to do is whinge and moan all day and she needs constant attention.

She talks non stop

but everything is a moan with her.

She also will not let my ds help her with anything and tends to fly of the handle easily if he tries to (like putting her shoes on etc) everything has to be me.

She also tends to attack him quite a lot (although he sometimes winds her up)

She can be a really lovely little girl. She is funny and bright but oh, so annoying atm!!

Just looking for some reassurance really that other children this age are like this? I don't really remember what ds was like

I am a bit paranoid about her atm as she had a head injury 3 months ago and I worry that her change in behaviour is related to that and permanent although people try to remind me that she was a bit annoying before too!

She is also at the annoying stage of not being able to walk very far and I end up carrying her everywhere. If I don't we have a major tantrum and she normally ends up falling over and doing herself yet another injury!

Anyone else in the same boat, please?

My dd1 (now 13) was like that at that age. In fact, we went on holiday and on a rare night out without the kids, some bloke actually came up to me and said "I know you, you're the mother of that really really whingey child!" I was tres embarrassed, but couldn't correct him, as it was true.

She has grown out of it, although still has the ability to irritate the hell out of me, just in a different way.

Don't have any advice on how to deal with it, I just used to ring my mum up a lot and say "do you know what she's done now" - actually, I still do that.

I have to say my ds3 is a pita 2 days out of every three. he's 3.3.

I feel bad saying that because of course he can be as cuddly, affectionate, bright and enthusiastic as any other 3yo, but I'm being honest when I say I can;'t wait for him to grow up a bit...

Sounds like my dd

She's 3.1 and winges and moans all day, she has only been like this for a few months.

One minute she is a little angel and the next she turns into a evil anoying little brat.

We have just started her at nursery to try and help her with shairing with others, she has step brothers and sister which she bosses around and she wont let them help her do anything.
She wont walk anywhere, which is hard when i have a 1yo dd to lug around too.

Im finding her very hard work ATM, Lets hope it does'nt last for ever.

dd2 and me clash A LOT, see various threads passim.

It does make me sometimes that I don't enjoy her more, even though of course I love her to bits.

yes its normal and yes its bloody irritating

Thank you

I wonder if it's to do with being bright then? Not meaning to sound smug but she is and always has been, I've just never really noticed her to be quite this moany and it seems like a sudden change

Might be that I'm reading too much in to it with regard to the head injury though. I don't dare see my HV as they will think I am completely paranoid!

Yes, I know where you're all coming from too - DS is 3.3, and can be lovely and chatty and fun, but more and more of the time seems to be whingy and whiny, and gets enormously upset about the tiniest of things. No real solutions, just hoping it will pass (like you, quietmouse, I have an older DC, but can't remember what she was like at this stage either).

Another one in the same boat, quietmouse.

ds is 3.1 and is sooo different to dd at this age. I think that's why I'm finding it a struggle atm.

the not walking is doing me in actually - I am going to have to start using the buggy again and really don't want to!

she insists on doing everything herself too. She has to pour her own milk in her cup and if I do it we have a major meltdown.

Another is helping me "because I love you" to make my ds's sandwiches in the morning when I'm in such a rush
it's not even just helping - it's actually doing it all herself with me just standing by hopelessly giving in for an easy life.....

Quietmouse one of the things ds3 does, when heknows he's pushed too many of my buttons at a particular time, is to say passionately "Mummy I love you"...in the hope I'll let him carry on overfilling the bathroom sink/throwing food/toys/climbing on unsuitably high furniture

lol

(not funny at the time though, I know!)

Oh yes, we get a lot of interrupting when I'm trying to talk to DD:

DS: 'Mummy' (over our conversation)
Me: 'Hang on, I'm just talking to DD'
DS: 'Mummy'
DS: 'Mummy'
DS: 'MUMMY'
Me: 'What, DS?'
DS: 'I love you, Mummy'.

Grrrr.

the only reason I'm sitting here laughing about it now is because dd is at nursery!

will be pulling my hair out again this afternoon when she's home!

I love MN!

Ds2 is 3.8 but has achieved levels of whingeyness which I would never have thought possible. I'm waiting desparately for him to grow out of it, and spending most of the day looking forward to bedtime!

AAaaaaaaaaggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhh!

Thank you.

lol at 'levels of whingeyness'

I've actually said to dd 'your new name is whingebag'
She gets really angry and says 'I'm not whingebag, I'm x'

lol

it's nice to know others are going through the same thing, isn't it?

(but not in a horrible way!)

My ds 2.8 has nearly stopped saying EVERTHING in a moany whiney voice. In the end I just said 'Oh I can't understand what you say when you speak like that@ very draining but seems to be working, after 4 months of it.

It would be funny to put all our little horrors in a room together wouldn't it ?

Actually quietmouse I'm particularly dreading playgroup pickup today. I've invited a friend of ds3 - they're just beginning the dreaded playdate syndrome - and yesterday while confirming with friend's mum, she casually said the following: "Now he can be a bit rough and gets noisy. Don't forget to make him go to the loo because he won't ask and it will dribble down his leg".

Cheers

Sounds like fun, wanderinstar.

Yep, I'm just off to take a precautionary nurofen. Grrr

Thats funny about people reminding you that she was annoying before!

My dts are 3.3 and also moan alot and insist on being independant and doing everything themselves.

When they started to walk instead of going in the buggy, I decided I would not carry them anywhere (mainly because its impossible to carry 2) dt2 would have major tantrums and cause scenes, but I stuck with my decision and she soon gave up asking.

Gosh I nearly started a thread about this the other day. Was going to do a poll about what bugged the hell out of you most about your 3/4 year old.

Feel free to add options, mine so far are;

Whingeing/moaning
Wanting to do things themselves that they can't quite do and then going mad when you try to help.
Dawdling/taking ages to do anything.
Messy eating (when are we going to move on from this one?).
Wanting to wear temperature inappropriate clothes.
Talking nonstop all day.
The why question (particularly when it is a two syllable 'wahhi' )

My mantra is 'they all do it, it's just a phase'. Said this to my sister the other day and she said in a gloomy voice, 'yes, next stage is worse though'. I hate to think!!

pmsl

I am so glad I am not alone!

I think it must be dd's age rather than her blow to the head, if this thread is anything to go by!

Another thing is my dd is scared of everything atm. She will do a fake kind of laugh and say 'look at that coat/bag/hat/wall it has eyes' and then completely freak out if I don't move it/cover it up