biting

[Twinsmum]

I have twin boys aged 22 months who are absolutely lovely but who are both quite aggressive. They fight with each other a lot which I find very upsetting (lots of hair pulling, pushing, hitting etc). One of them has recently taken this one stage further and now seem to attack any child who gets in his way. This even includes biting. He takes absolutely no notice of anything we try to stop this. (Ignoring (very difficult), shouting, tapping his hand, time out etc etc etc.) They both go to nursery twice a week where they advocate time out. Any advice gratefully recieved. He's a wonderful little boy but he really is a handful.

Our son, age 2, is currently attending nursery.
Recently hes been coming home with bit marks on his arms. They have been leaving bruises and marks.

Can anyone advise on what we can do, as the nursery says they have children with special needs and therefore this will happen.

Thanks

HOw long has it been going on for? Ask them whether it is one particular child singling out your son- if it is then you can ask that they are separated.

My son is autistic and attended a mainstream nursery. He did go through a period of about 2 weeks where he pinched and scratched children- in many cases leaving big scratch marks on their faces, or bruises on their arms. Luckily at school he was only pinching adults. We (as in school, nursery and home) set up a strategy which luckily got rid of the behaviour (at least directed towards children- adults still get it occasionally but we're not as worried about that) very quickly. None of us thought it was acceptable that he did it, but on the other hand it is harder to stop in children with SN (which doesn't mean that you accept it though).

At the time he was attacking children in nursery he had full time 1:1 help- but he still managed to scratch 6 children, so its not always easy to prevent (and not many children are funded with 1:1 at a nursery level- which will make it even harder to prevent).

Al you can do if you are concerned really is talk to the nursery again.