Anyones 9/10 year old daughters suddenly become very attitudee and stroppy

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My just turned 9yr old dd has become increasingly stroppy and full of attitude in past few months. I dont think its bad in itself as naturally she's more easy going and compliant in some ways and she's learning to stand up for herself more. She also felt picked on by some girls in her class but is standing up to them more and walks away to play with other friends if they start to be mean. However there's a lot of back chat to us, sighing& moaning at the smallest things she's asked to do and gets quite emotional. I heard girls can be like this the year before they start their periods? We are a very open family and we spend individual time with all our 3 dd's and my eldest is the most expressive and chatty of all of them and tells us alot of things so I wouldn't be worried that there's something wrong whe's not telling us but I would like her to be more respectful and be a better example to her younger dd's. Any thoughts appreciated

my 10 yr old has been like it for about a year, she has also lost her ability to tidy up unless nagged, which she used to love doing

she really shocked my oh the other day when he was here, when she said she wished i was dead, you could see the horror in his face

she comes and says sorry but it only gets worse before it gets better

you mean they get worse ?

clutches moody, stroppy, defiant, bad tempered DD (aged 6) to chest

watching my almost 15 yr old dd, yes

I've just ordered the talking to tweenies book. I really need to get my relationship with dd sorted before she gets too old. She is only 7, but we are having a really tough time with her stroppy behaviour and screaming and shouting at the mo. I think part of it is that she is a year younger than most of her class and she is battling with being more grown up when she is emotionally much younger. Poor little thing, I really do feel for her sometimes, I know I need to change my attitude and be less of a control freak but I find that so hard too.....most days I just don't know what to do