When did you stop wiping your child's bottom for them?!

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Ds1 is 5.5yrs and still insists, most of the time, that myself of dh wipes his bottom. If I'm really busy he will do it begrudgingly. It's always fine when he does it (I check its clean and give him praise).

He's just being lazy and taking the piss, isn't he?!

I once exasperatedly asked DS when he would wipe himself. He replied when he is 12

He started doing it himself consistently by 6, but with toddler wipes.

We are lovely and kind and helpful.
I'm allowed to think that children should have been encouraged to be independent and to notice the difference between children who have parents who do allow them to try and fail and try again and those who have the majority of things done for them and are passive.
Whilst smiling and wiping and cutting up fruit and getting them dressed and undressed...

Bloody hell, DD was only just 4 when she went to school and managed ok! SN is different of course, but I really think a 4 year old at school should be able to manage this?!

Yes ex Doomer still battling along in a SW fashion
DS1 will 'go' at any opportunity (with alarming speed - no newspaper for him!) but DS2 remains a steadfast home poo-er.
I live in hope he'll sort it out in the not too distant future without causing GI issues in the process

By the time children go to school they should be able to wipe their own bottoms
Its an essential life skill after all

I'm surprised more parents don't actively teach this skill

I agree wholeheartedly, he has received extensive instruction and is able.
Just prefers to shout "finished" at home and steadfastly holds it in anywhere but home or GP's house

Dd age 4 was a definite home pooer and wanted help with wiping, started reception and managed to not poo at school for around 6m so we didn't intervene, but then she ran into problems with soiling because she really didn't want to poo at school. We played hard ball and insisted she wipe at home. We didn't even check it was clean, as no one would at school so we had to show her we were confident in her ability. Plenty of praise for a "job well done" at school too

I'm with you Lake - my ds is perfectly capable of wiping his bottom, and has been taught since he was about 3. He just doesn't like to We have cracked down on him this past week and refused to help, so he has got on with it after ten mins of shouting and moaning from the loo seat. We check if he wants us to.

I can't ever imagine a time when he'd poo anywhere but home He withholds for a good five days on hols before we end up bribing him with sweets or a magazine!

Teachers at school don't wipe his arse for him.

my daughter still sometimes needed help at 11 and 12. but she was able to do it herself at 4.