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This is awful - I am going out of my mind here!! Please help me!!!

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cruisemum1 · 27/12/2006 20:12

I am trying to get my ds (16 weeks) to go to sleep without having to be attached to my breast as I have a dd age 9 who cannot be neglected at night while I am upstairs settling lo. He has now been screaming for 45 minutes while either myself of dh sit with him. He is not backig down and it is breaking my heart and his. It is so stressful that I cannot handle it but I cannot go on having no time with my dd every evening. Please someone tell me that it gets better. I feel so sorry for lo as it is not his fault that he needs me

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cruisemum1 · 28/12/2006 19:34

thank you to all of you who have posted. You have actually made me feel like I am not doing things wrong. I hated leaving him screaming (it was 45 mins total and either myself of dh were in his room either holding him or resting our hand on his tummy)but it was awful and made me feel sick to the stomach. I will wait until he is older for all this. It is a pain sometimes and I do get stressed about it but, like you say, it will not be like this forever and my boob won't be an option in a couple of months so I guess I can cross this bridge then. I'll be back at that time for more support! thanks again

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kittyschristmascrackers · 28/12/2006 20:14

Is it not possible to do stuff with your dd whilst your baby is feeding?That way you can spend time with your older child and not have to be tortured by the crying, that way all of you should be happier

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cruisemum1 · 28/12/2006 21:21

kitty- I think you have got the wrong end of the stick - I do feed lo his last feed of the day downstairs with dd. He falls asleep, I put him in his cot and then he invariably wakes, takes an age to settle and will only be settled by bf (which means it HAS to be me). I don't bring him downstairs after he has gone up to bed which is when dd is left alone. She, of course, can join me in the bedroom with TV on low and lights off but she doesn't want to do this night after night. Plus, she needs some mummy time too.
The only reason I left him crying was on recommedation of so many people about the Baby Whisperer method of settling babies. It obviously did not work in this household with this baby so I am giving up until he is older and hoping he will grow out of it . But thanks

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cruisemum1 · 28/12/2006 21:23

krimbo - thanks for your input. I did that tonight and he has been wonderful! i have spent the entire evening with dd watching Nanny McPhee! I will get there I know. It just gets on top of me sometimes

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