a two year old terror..so embarrassed and need advise..is his behavoiur normal!!

[NessaWH123]

I am writing this post after yet another embarrassing morning out with my 2 year old son. I am at my wits end as to do what else to do..he is probably just a boisterous and very stubborn toddler but I do worry there is more to it... Today he has spent all day saying no, arguing back about everything..from what he wants to eat, to toys to play with, not wanting to go out, then wanting to go out, then we go to a funday and he hits the peppa pig character thinking he is funny, getting over excited so the lady asks us to move on, he screams at the top of his lungs because I sat on a chair he wanted and everyone looked, he threw his food down because he didn't want the choice and then created because he wanted something else..i am soo embarrassed. He has always been a very strong willed character but some weeks he is a little more chilled and then he will have a month or so of being the devil child! Everytime I get him out of the car he starts to scream v loudly and fight because he wants to play on the front seat..yet some days I need to get in the house. I do all the usual with distraction, firm voice, finger on lips to ask him not to shout and TRY and stay calm but it is so wearing and I feel a crap mother. He doesn't concentrate for any length of time and we went to speech and language as he has glue ear and she commented on his very poor concentration. I am a primary school teacher and am fine at my job but cant seem to control one little boy! This is the start of the 7 weeks holidays and I should be looking forward to them but they are filling me with poor dread in my stomach. any help please..thanks

Yes Nessa, good advice about food sensitivity. My lil guy has a milk allergy and gets worse if he has something that he is allergic too.

And yes- def a case of founding it embarassing to go out/soft play/parties etc was a nightmare. I always felt that I had the worst child and that I was a terrible mum. It was exhausting and heartbreaking.

I remember ones in the park this upperty kirstie allsop type mum yelled "please can you control your child" and I cried.
My son is very sensitive to alot of things like noisy environments, being thirsty, tired, hungry etc so I am abit of a control freak when it comes to these things. Hang in there x

thanks lndnmummy its good to know im not alone with this. my son is also sensitive to tired, hunger etc so ive learnt to control things the best I can in the hope to reduce the meltdowns....lol I know what you mean about the kirsty allsop types...they certainly don't help. I will try to look into food sensitivitites ..any idea how to have these checked?

Any help today with regards t discipline. He is slapping us in the face and point I g and shouting aggressively a lot of the time and then letting g out very loud pitched screams! When he is told no and we remove him or put him on the step he has started laughing or blowing raspberries! What do we do as he doesn't seem t care! We r consistent and try and explain what he has done but he isn't bothered any advise? Thanks again

My 3-year-old daughter has always had and still has tantrum episodes every single day. It’s humiliating. Bedtime is so stressful EVERY DAY! And this is not the only time she is out of control. I have tried it all; routine, stories, positive reinforcement, games, etc., still, nothing works. We can't figure it out...we would appreciate your input... I'm all ears!!! Thanks!!!

My baby is already 6 years old, but I can remember tantrum horror like it was yesterday. I had some advice from my mother; my favorite was time-outs... sparingly. Depending on the child, using a time-out occasionally, beginning at about the age of 18 months especially intense and other techniques aren't working. Placing your child in a quiet, or –better yet– boring spot for a brief period (about one minute per year of his age) can be a good lesson in self-soothing. Also, there are lessons online on how to talk with your toddler correctly. Most of them are rubbish, but few are gold. I found this one bit.ly/2OIEFxM helpful.