DD not found her "thing"

[puppykidsX3]

My daughter is 10 and hasn't yet found her thing. What I mean by that is she hasn't found something that she either really enjoys or excells at. She has tried music lessons, dancing in different forms, sports , brownies etc. None of these have really excited her or gripped her. Some she has continued with purely as we have continued to take her others she has asked to stop.
She isn't in the top levels at school for any subject but she doesn't know that (or doesn't seem too bothered if she does) and I always try and boost her confidence with work and results etc.
She does go to ballet and seems to like it but isn't mad keen . She has started netball but is very aware that she is not as good as some of the others.
She has a lot of friends and has never had the usual girl issues or rows. She is popular and friendly. She is kind hearted and very well behaved . She tries really hard at school and with her homework .
I tell her all the time what a lovely girl she is and how well she is doing .

I am wondering if I should keep trying her with new things or accept that she will never have a "thing ".
I didn't I guess and I turned out ok ! I was never on a team for anything and an average student. Maybe that's why I'm thinking these things about her ?

Anyway waffle over ! Thanks for your thoughts .

Like others have mentioned it takes practice and persistence to find your thing. Most people enjoy things they are good at but you don't become good overnight.

As she is good at drawing why not enrol her on workshops, when she realizes she can draw well she will probably do it more often.

I'm not sure she would be brave enough to go on a drawing workshop . I will look into it and ask her .

Thank you

Maybe her 'thing' is being a great person. She really does sound lovely.

Otherwise, if she likes drawing and arty stuff, I wonder if she'd be interested in designing her own bedroom - choosing colours, looking at decor blogs, wallpaper etc. She could even do a mural on one of the walls that she could keep painting over and re-doing as she gets older if you let her. Trying to think outside the box here - a passion doesn't need to take the form of a class or club.

Just following on from what Pagwatch said about sometimes learning to love something taking time and work. My dd started playing a musical instrument and then got frustrated and gave it up. About 18 months later she decided to go back to it and now loves it. So if you have the instrument keep it in a cupboard somewhere just in case.

On art courses my local museum runs quite a lot of free / minimal donation courses. They are a lot more informal than an art club. My 2 are going "to use the art collection to write a graphic novel storyboard" in a couple of weeks.

Moving on to secondary school, she will have more chances to try new things - maybe she'll enjoy woodwork! Anecdotally, a couple of people I know that enjoyed art at school also enjoyed woodwork. Or perhaps more technical drawing.

My dd doesn't have really have a "thing".

She was lucky enough to get onto a school team which were quite good - although she didn't get anywhere near the ball for the first year the team constantly won because they had some great players. DD loves this sport and had given it everything she's got. She's now actually not bad, just through several years of practice. She thinks it her 'thing' and believes she will be a professional. Which, realistically will never happen, but I'm not about to burst a 9yos bubble.

What I'm trying to say us your dd doesn't have to be good at something for it to be her thing. She just has to enjoy it, and do it.

By "thing" do you mean something she excels in or something that she really loves to do?

Because they can be the same thing, but which is more important to you/her?

If it's the excelling, then there are things that there are fewer girls and easier to excel in. Eg chess-dh said often the girls prize could be for just "turning up" as they were the only one. They would play in with the boys but often there would be a top girl prize as well as the others.
Or tennis. I played in the boys teams growing up as there weren't enough gilrs to make up a team. Wasn't uncommon to turn up for a tournament and find 3 girls, one of whom was a complete beginner (but often had delusions of adequacy) so an easy route to a final; but there could easily be 20+ boys.

Something she loves to do depends ime upon the other people. Dd2 recently gave up something because there's a bully in her group. Dd1 is continuing with it, not because she's good at it, but because she has a great social group. Dd2 is starting something similar with a different group in which her two best friends are already and is immensely enthusiastic, and has made lots of new friends.

The clubs that my dc feel they can't miss a week are definitely the ones that they have good friends in, not the ones they star in.

She sounds lovely. I reckon the person upstream who said that her 'thing' was good social skills is right. Put it this way, who would you rather marry/be friends with/employ - the person who gets on with everyone and treats people well, or the one who is really good at [x]?