DD drawn to naughty children

[MrsWhirling]

I would really appreciate some advice how to deal with my DD7. She is clever, confident and an extrovert. This school year we have been plagued by issues which centre around her friendship with a child at school. This child is disruptive and I have been told known for being badly behaved. I have just had a progress meeting with teachers at a dance school DD attends during which they spoke about DD's friendship with a child there who is disruptive. It seems my DD is not very good at picking friends. How can I help her with this ? Thanks x

DS1 was a becoming a very naughty boy at Primary school. In desperation I asked our very experienced SENCO (secondary school) for his advice. He said that my 'clever and confident' DS was probably bored. He was spot on. I think this could be similar to your DD. Maybe she is looking for friends who appear to be different and have more 'fun'. Or possibly she is fed up of being the 'extrovert' and wants some else to do that job. Conversely DS2 ended up trying to befriend 'the naughty boys' at primary school so that he wouldn't be picked on by them. He has now realised that this is not a good idea, and avoids them like the plague at secondary school.

OP - haven't RTWT but we had the same problem, like a moth to a flame. Anyone seen to be remotely larking about was a draw. It has changed with maturity, nothing useful to say but I don't think it is enduring. Grit your teeth, it will pass.

When I say maturity I mean 9! .

Clever, confident and an extrovert - in other words, a naughty precocious child who can do no wrong in their parents' eyes. I'd start by looking a bit closer to home, OP.