Sigh more bump notices

[Babieseverywhere]

6.5 yo DS is very clumsy. Never looks where he is going, stands on anything on the floor.

About to buy his fifth pair of school shoes since Sept 2014, as he rips the front off them (tough shoes recommendations always welcome ).

So we get a fair few bump notices from school and alongside the offical notices there are other bruises abd bumps with no notices....unless it is witnessed by a staff member, DS would just gets up and carry on. He doesn't seem to feel pain very well.

But yesterday really upset me...two bump notes both written blaming him for the injuries. Both blaming young DS for messing about and ignoring instructions.

Ironically he was meant to be getting daily OT at school to help with the clumsyness but when the OT lady went to school to sort this out...the school and her decided he didn't need any help waste of time and money...fair enough.

Yet he keeps gets hurt...trapped in a door frame and fell off a chair yesterday and there is nothing I can do to make it safer

DS felt the teachers were angry at him for hurting himself but this might not be accurate...he isn't very good at accurately figuring out emotions in other people.

He had "the worst day ever" abd had a massive meltdown as he thought DH and I would be upset with him

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Sorry what's the question? Sorry your DS is having a hard time.

Guess I wonder how I can help DS have less accidents whilst at school ?

When you say he rips the front off his shoes, is that because of his gait/way of walking?

Poor DS, I'm no expert but has he been assessed for dyspraxia?

What kind of assessment did the OT carry out at school?

Your poor DS :(

Assessed by OT, who after clinical assessment said he needed daily OT but after visiting him at school changed her mind and said no OT needs...Yet he still keeps on falling over.

Not sure you can. The internet is no place for an armchair diagnosis but sounds like dyspraxia levels of clumsiness. Not being very good at reading people too? Does he have any SEN? You might want to speak to the school about the sheer number of bumb notices and ask again about OT or maybe just cutting him some slack when it does happen as its causing anxiety and upset and impacting on his mood and behaviour at home. Poor lad!

No sen just poor parenting according to Comm paed who discharged DS as school said how well behaved with no problems DS is for them.

Would feel more convinced if he didn't get negative behaviour points and bump notices at the same time :(

Just frustrated, as there is nothing further to do but accept nothing will change and poor DS will continue to rack up both bad behaviour points and bump notices

My DS has dyspraxia and that does sound familiar.

I don't know if it would be relevant to you but one of the first things the SENCO recommended for us on the diagnosis pathway was to go to an optician and get his depth perception checked, just to rule it out. If the OT discharged him it might be worth looking into?

Is he messing about, and then falling over as a result, or is the falling over not connected to the messing about? Are you convinced he is messing about in class?

Shoe recommendations-Geox Savage.

'Geox' great will Google and try that one next.

No idea....teacher says he is fine but we get negative behaviour points most weeks. No point thinking about it, I am upsetting myself when I can't do anything about this.

Off to Google school shoes.

I have a dsypraxic son - sounds very similar. He grew out of a lot of it (and grew into other things!), but we discovered Skecher Go Walks for him - he wears the very muted colours (black for school and blue for the weekends) he has to wear the ladies ones as his feet are small but they were the first set of school shoes that lasted over 6 months for him - they are not overly smart but worked a treat for him and I think they work becuase they are so lightwear and easy to wear.
Hope you get him something that works for him!

Argh! Has the paediatrician never heard of masking? Its not that uncommon to hold it together at school and let rip at home where you feel safe.

Both the school Senco and the Comm Paed do not believe in masking. They both said if there was something different about DS then school would see it.

They just see a clumsy over-affectionate naughty distracted child who is badly parented.

I particularly liked the teacher written note to me in his school diary asking me to sort out DS failure to hand in/take in/pick up and take home stuff...juxtaposition against telling the Comm paed how good DS was in school with no organisational problems :(

I have an eye twitch on your behalf Babieseverywhere.

As one of the posters above said, I can understand bad behaviour points for mucking about (and maybe getting hurt in the process), but to punish a child for being clumsy and hurting themselves is plain silly.

I don't think he is bring punished when he hurts himself. But DS perception is that the people who come to him aid when he hurts himself are angry at him. But DD does not read face or body language well and has asked his father at home, if daddy was angry at a time DH was smiling and showing no sign of anger.

They punish him for other behaviour like shouting out answers, moving around and ignoring instructions, flexing small board to see how springy it was and it accidently snapped (very cheap boards which children are frequently given to write on with felt tip pens)

Is he quite 'bull in a China shop' way too hyper and bouncy before he has his bumps, or does he literally tend to just trip over his own feet? I can see why the first path to falling over a lot would be very exasperating for the staff. The second, I'd expect them to be more sympathetic.

Very very bouncy and hyper. Apparently he is well behaved in school but at home he moves all the time, rocking, spinning, jumping etc unless he is on a screen...then he is more centered but monologuing.

Any history of reflux, eczema, food intolerances or allergies? My dss best friend sounds like your son and his behaviour is like that because his mum has yet to find the last food he can't tolerate. Poor lad is riddled with eczema and has the attention span of a fruit fly but not a bad bone in his body, yet is always in trouble. My dd had issues with soooo many food groups, still can't eat dairy or soya, but the most startling was potato, she's an impulsive unruly insomniac speed freak on spuds. Hyperactivity is the lowest level by which food intolerances manifest.

Ask for him to be reassessed? My DS is 7 and exactly the same. He had OT assessment last month and she's observing in school on Monday. He has NF1 and therefore a propensity to dyspraxia, but I don't need a diagnosis, I need strategies. It is hard to keep my temper when he's arsing about and then falling over, but I do realise he can't help it. I think you need to speak to the school though.

polter No, physio is probably the only expert we have not seen over the last couple if years.

queen All our kids have eczema, DS quite a lot....part if the reason to limit baths and hair washing....plus he just screams through it like I am killing him (Ditto DD3)

He won't eat wet food or mixed up food or potato (except fried chips or processed waffles) So we are limited food wise. The more processed the better and plain fruit. Any hung with sugar or colourings sends him even more hyper.