Sigh more bump notices

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6.5 yo DS is very clumsy. Never looks where he is going, stands on anything on the floor.

About to buy his fifth pair of school shoes since Sept 2014, as he rips the front off them (tough shoes recommendations always welcome ).

So we get a fair few bump notices from school and alongside the offical notices there are other bruises abd bumps with no notices....unless it is witnessed by a staff member, DS would just gets up and carry on. He doesn't seem to feel pain very well.

But yesterday really upset me...two bump notes both written blaming him for the injuries. Both blaming young DS for messing about and ignoring instructions.

Ironically he was meant to be getting daily OT at school to help with the clumsyness but when the OT lady went to school to sort this out...the school and her decided he didn't need any help waste of time and money...fair enough.

Yet he keeps gets hurt...trapped in a door frame and fell off a chair yesterday and there is nothing I can do to make it safer

weebarra Even if l had the strength to start again, the school blocked every attempt at getting help for DS l. Telling me they did not believe me abd any visiting expert that there is no issues.

If I tried again, they would do the same....cheaper that way :(

Sadly denying issues doesn't get rid of them, so I have the same lovely quirky child and no help.

So I need to help DS at home. School put another video with a clip of DS on it.

Last video showed non rocking DS (according to school) rocking.

This video shows non upset DS (according to school) crying, hugging and being comforted by a fellow pupil and because he has an attention span of a gnat...flapping excitedly for a second or two. Just kn the back ground but clear as day.

The school are not deliberately ignoring what he does but just too busy with 30 kids including a couple if additional need kids who are violent and need a lot of attention, quiet upset DS is just not on their radar. Plus I suspect they don't realise he is usually hug clamped to me in the school down hours and think DS'S jump hug attacks are due to lack of hugs at home ! As if, we hug nearly every minute of the day unless he is on the PC.

As you can tell sleep is a minor miracle in this house...better try and get a few more minutes.

Ahh! I have a child who suffered from "poor parenting". A teacher actually asked me if I had thought of disciplining him at home as it might help him behave in school . He is now 19 and was diagnosed with ADHD when he was 7.

I would keep a diary. Note every negative comment from the school. Keep every bump note. Note every time he forgets something and ask for him to be reassessed presenting the evidence.

Would you consider a change of schools if they won't support you?

Have you heard of sensory integration difficulties? Try googling sensory processing difficulties and a sensory diet for things to try at home.
I agree with Eva50 - If the school are as obstructive as you say then I would be looking at moving him to a more supportive environment.

DS wouldn't cope with a change of school. He finds new things hard to cope with...plus the kids are kind to him and accept his quirks in the main part.

Plus our school is a good one, if they actually saw any issues they would address them but they don't so they can't. Also his two sisters are happy at the school abd I suspect DS would be anxious at ANY school...so overall...staying put is the right thing for the family.