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Nuddy Pictures???

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stoppinattwo · 29/10/2006 08:24

DD (age4) has just drawn a v lifelike picture of a man with no clothes on. I asked her to tell me about the picture and she got really angry/embarrassed and told me not to show it to daddy, then she scruched it up and put it in the bin.

(DP and i have always treated nudity in a casual manner although as DD is getting older DP does tend to cover up more.)

I dont want her to be angry about it, can understand the embarrassed, but i also dont want her drawing stuff like that in school . Anyone any ideas??

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southeastastra · 29/10/2006 13:07

it's completely normal a girl at my club made some things out of model magic, when we asked what they were she said 'mummy's boobies' they all do that sort of thing now and again! (before they realise what they're doing and get embarassed)

zippitippitoes · 29/10/2006 13:08

what do you do if yopu take them swimming ..it's different ot lounging round watching tv in the nude, mind I have sunbathed nude on holiday in the past

do none of you go to art galleries? show her some paintings and she will feel less embarrassed and you put it in a context

lulumama · 29/10/2006 13:09

because i am not a naturist

there are appropriate times to be naked

if i slammed the door shut in my children's; faces if i was getting undressed ......what message does that give to them about nudity & bodies...

that it is so unsavoury , it must be permanently hidden from view

MaloryTowersBigHeadBigNorks · 29/10/2006 13:09

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TinyGang · 29/10/2006 13:11

Hmm, well 5 of us in a smallish house means bums get sighted in this house. All my children troop in and out of the bathroom despite me yelling that I'd LIKE SOME PEACE and to be LEFT ALONE. They're more fascinated about me lying in the bath with a mud pack on tbh than the fact that I am starkers.

No brass bands here though unfortunately

I try to convey the idea that being naked is no big deal indoors for getting dressed/washed etc but that outside home and in front of visitors we have sense of modesty and decorum about ourselves.

That means, in the general scrum of rushing out in the morning we have all remembered to put our pants on. (I check now after dd's mortification once when she was getting changed for pe at school)

Now where did I put that bathing machine??

zippitippitoes · 29/10/2006 13:14

cheers malory

the unspoken fear is that she draws something anatomically correct in school and the social services investigate for child abuse

which is ridiculous

DumbledoresGirl · 29/10/2006 13:32

I am sorry but I completely fail to understand what Schokect is saying. I don't parade around as such with no clothes on, eg I am not someone who is naked all day around the house. But, my bathroom is downstairs and I tend to be a bit of a drifter in general so when I come out of the bathroom, having showered, I might not go straight up to my room to dress. I would probably have a towel round me, but it might slip. Once upstairs, i often get distracted and might walk about from room to room, seeing to something other than my own dressing. At all of these times, if my children see me naked, or if they walk in on me naked, i dont make an effort to cover myself. I don't see why I should. These are my children, I have seen them naked, they have seen me naked. I am not doing anything inappropriate in my view.

What are you saying Shrok? That I should guard my privacy more?

Schokofruhstucksflockenhasseri · 29/10/2006 13:35

DG, Im just making the point, that it isnt wierd not to go nude in front of your children, and it doesnt involve a lot of frenzied hiding your body, shame, fears or prudery.

Having heard MN on the subject before though, I am aware that most of you dont agree.

lulumama · 29/10/2006 13:44

if not shameful or prudish..why not let them see you if it is an appropriate moment........

not being provocative..am genuinely interested in why not?

MaloryTowersBigHeadBigNorks · 29/10/2006 13:46

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TheDaVinciCod · 29/10/2006 13:46

"nuddy"[eyerolling]

TheDaVinciCod · 29/10/2006 13:47

the OP is obv 2

MaloryTowersBigHeadBigNorks · 29/10/2006 13:47

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DrFrankenZooey · 29/10/2006 13:49

What an extraordinary thread.

Stoppin, I wouldn't personally worry about such drawings and it sounds fairly unlikely that your dd would draw naked people at school, because she already sounds embarrassed about it.

I don't see what the problem is if she did draw naked people at school, btw, and nor would any sensible teacher.

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stoppinattwo · 29/10/2006 14:00

I would hope there wouldnt be a problem if she did draw stuff like that at school, was just a bit surprised at the likeness on this little sketch thats all, shes still at the stick man stage iyswim and this was no stick man

Schokofruhstucksflockenhasseri (you need a shorter name) If you werent directing your first post at me, then ok thats cool, but i still dont get you point.

My point is that i dont wish my daughter to be drawing mens bits attached to mens bodies in school as i wasnt quite sure what the school would make of it and was wondring the best way to approach the subject without upsetting DD, it turns out however that i think she is embarrassed enough, (i did actually do the "oh thats a nice piccy") so i dont think i will be seeing any natural poses again for some time......... i hope

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stoppinattwo · 29/10/2006 14:01

not that it would be a good thing to draw mens bits unnattached either BTW just think i may be able to pass it off as something else (maybe a snail or something!!)

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stoppinattwo · 29/10/2006 14:27

Whats obv2 BTW cod???

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TheDaVinciCod · 29/10/2006 14:28

obviously 2 ;)

MamaMaiasaura · 29/10/2006 14:39

stoppin - sounds perfectly 'normal' from reading other posts. Ds is 6 and is interested in the differences and I keep it simple, girls and boys differ so that when all grown up and in love maybe they could make a baby. I answer questions he has as simply as possible.

Reading some posts tho am wonderin wether I am wrong to let ds share a bath with me still. I know of friends who have baths with their kids too. It saves a lot of time and wet clothes when it is hair washing time. I dont bath with him all the time. When I do shower etc I odnt lock the bathroom door either. I never though of it as wrong before.

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stoppinattwo · 29/10/2006 14:54

obviously 2 what?? sorry still not getting it??

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stoppinattwo · 29/10/2006 14:55

awen DD still gets in my bath, along with the whole barbie clan

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MamaMaiasaura · 29/10/2006 14:58

A one armed actionman and a headless action man get in ours..

MwaHaHaMhamai · 29/10/2006 14:58

Schoko, of course we wouldn't agree we are all lentil weaving, moon cupping, nork wave maidens.

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stoppinattwo · 29/10/2006 15:03

My norks arnt big enough to wave they shrunk after DD

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Schokofruhstucksflockenhasseri · 29/10/2006 16:03

malory, I share a bedroom with my children. I usually have a shower in the morning before they are awake, and go to bed after they are asleep. God, I dont know why I am sharing this info with a bunch of strangers, except to challenge your preconceptions about "prudery"

And yes, I do lock the door when Im having a shower or on the loo. my children just have to learn that Mummy gets 5 minutes peace in the bathroom occasionally. find the notion of letting it all hang out, frankly strange.