I feel so sorry for my nearly 4 year old dd2

[Enid]

as she is the friendliest child in the world - in fact a bit TOO friendly. She is obsessed with having friends and is so chatty and in your face that I think she gets on people's nerves - her constant chatting certainly irritates me at times.

She only has to meet a little girl once and thats it, they are her best friend, she draws them pictures and smuggles toys out to give to them.

Yesterday a little girl in the reception class at dd1's school refused to play with her (there is a small park next to dd1's school where all the kids go) and she was so devasted I have never heard her cry like it.

I don't know why I have bothered to post this really as I haven't really got ot the bottom of why it is such a big deal.

She told dh that it was all OK as another girl had said 'dd2, I will be your friend, come and play with me' (this wasn't true though )

We've had a few problems with nursery as it is attached to a private prep and the majority of children go there after the nursery and the mothers don't seem to include dd2 in playdates presumably as she is going to the state primary.

This is all so different to dd1 who isn't in the least bothered about friends and is so passive and of course this has made her massively popular.

poor dd2 - def unique to girls, ds is happy as long as he is in the crew

do you know anyone who is going to state primary (perhaps sisters of dd1 who'll be in the same year as her)? maybe a few playdates with them might be in order

girls can be so nasty

Enid my dd is the same. Her "best friends" at nursery have gone to school this year, not the school she will be going to and their mothers don't seem bothered about keeping in touch as they will have a new social circle. She is deperate to have friends home to play.

I have just moved her to a pre-school for this year attached to the school she will go to and it's been great so far - am heartened by how many friends she has made already. Have had to change my hours a lot to be able to pick up and drop off.

I have been ridiculously worried about her birthday party this weekend (ie having noone to invite!) but she decided she wanted some of her new friends to come and all have said yes!

We went out for dinner with the children the other day. I take a few colouring books with us and they get busy with them if they want to. But we are still socialising with each other and chatting as a family.

Kid at the next table was plugged into a portable dvd player oblivious to everything around her.

i had a wierd stalker kid at tesco and i must sau i find it odd
he was 4 he freaked out ds3

"hello im harvey" yadda ydadd
a nd i was trying t oconcnetrate on my braeburns
i DO think theres a half way house

alexmum, i've seen older boys react this way to dd too, it really scares me as i do feel that if she wasn't so little they'd go for her.... just don't understand that mentality

How about some activities besides nursery, like dance or music or such, so that she meets more normal people?

Sorry, but 4-year-olds w/portable DVD players are not normal.

we let kids play nintendos at restaruatns on hol

godi am not a fool
10 mins of conversationt hen they annoy me
we dont go out often
its hard balrdy work

oooh enid glad it made you laugh
made me cry when it happened .poor little chap didn't have a clue what he'd done wrong he was only just 2. i shouted at the kid and gave him evils for the rest of the koliday

sobernow we should meet up again

except they'd prob hate each other

Yes I msut try and find out about the new intake

there was a little girl at the school yesterdy who seemed promising - very chatty and friendly with dd2 and her brother has just started in reception. Typically dd2 went home and drew a picture for her.

do you not think that the kdis needs to learn thoguh that you cant g o up to adults and yak on
all the time?
kids fair anough

i agree pink tu;ips -now ds is 6 there is NO WAY he would ever behave that way to a little one.or anyone actually. he know sto be gentle with small children.it's bizzarre.

I think she'll improve once she starts in reception, she is ready to go now tbh.

Cod dd2 IS that annoying child

she latches on to people in soft play centres too, follows them around etc

tis very hard to stop

hmm
whjat do you do to her?

I think I would question the ethos of a nursery that allowed DVD players. My 3 year old quite likes her leapster, but I'mnot planning to send it to nursery with her next week (next week is her first week).

dd adopts ds's friends as hers. big lumpen seven year old boys are regularly recruited to play polly pocket with her.

wonder if she is very clever
so is very curious abotu everythign all the time
jave you thoguh of starting to teach her to read>

no it wasnt at the nursery sorry

it was in the park next to dd1s primary school (all the younger kids play there till chucking out time)

lol at polly pockey
my ds loves playing wiht littleies ( nto so sure abotu playing dolls htough)

maybe when they're a bit older cod, but whats the harm in a little girl running up and saying hi? it has never bothered me when other peoples kids do it

i find it annoying if htey go ononononononononon though.

we all have Things To Do

lol puddle

she plays polly pocket for England

Cod it was heartbreaking having to wave her down off the equipment and saying 'now dd2, leave that mummy and daddy alone because they want to talk to their little girl by themselves'

so sad but obv necessary as the other parents were looking totally fed up

adn i have my own kdis
i a gree wiht rhubarb just cos you haev your own kids doenst mean you are liek a memebr of hte NEw Seekers or somthign

was clearly a PFB

you did right ENid

i think she is clever though