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DD has come home from nursery for the second time soaking wet.

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longwaytogo · 21/09/2006 15:42

DD is very shy and won't speak unless spoken to and even then it is one word answers with people she doesn't know or in a group situation.

Yesterday she came out of nursery head down, not saying a word and quite subdued, when I lifted her to put her in the car she was wet, said she did it whils watching telly. So I think ok one accident fine.

Today she was there all day and have just picked her up again to put in car and she is soaking, skirt, socks, polo shirt, cardigan. She said she had two wees, one whilst washing her spoon and one while playing fishing game. I've not a clue whether that would have been this morning or afternoon but whichever way she has been like it since at least lunch time if she was washing her spoon. Poor little thing.

How can I encourage her to ask even if they are supposed to be sitting listening etc.

Really concerned about her shyness, think its going to hold her back sooo much.

She is happy, lively, talkative at home but the minute she is in group situation she clams up and just looks at you as if you don't exist.

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divastrop · 22/09/2006 11:31

when i refered to my son's 'nursery',it is a pre-school also,with a playgroup attached that he goes to 2 afternoons a week

longwaytogo · 22/09/2006 20:54

ok today she came home with 3 stickers, one for each time she went to the toilet. She didn't tell them she needed to go, they asked her, she went, then came and told them in a quiet voice that she had been so got a sticker. So improvment there. even though they said wehn I told them this morning that she will have to tell us when she wants to go whole point she won't talk when in a group situation. Have they never had a shy child in this nursery?

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mysonsmummy · 22/09/2006 21:13

when ds was in pre-school last year the children just went by themselves - unless they needed help of course.

MrsDoolittle · 22/09/2006 21:17

longwaytogo - this could have been me posting a couple of months ago. It broke my heart to see her come home wet - I just couldn't understand how she would always tell me at home but seemed so quiet at nursery.
I was so upset I had to go into the nursery. I tried desperately not to come across too heavy handed, but I was really upset about it. Thankfully we are over it now

Elibean · 22/09/2006 22:22

I'm so glad today was better, LWTG.

And I agree with you, they should be more sensitive to new or shy children - sounds like they're expecting an awful lot, bit unrealistic.

At dd's preschool, they ask the kids at set times if they want to go - or if they see signs of them wanting to. (Unfortunately for me, dd usually says 'no thank you' then wees in their pretend washing up bowl, convinced its a potty. I've asked them to TAKE her to the toilet, not ask her, she's 2.9 and only just out of nappies!).

Hope things get even better for your dd next week...

longwaytogo · 23/09/2006 19:40

thanks for all your support guys, hoping next week will be better

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