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Help! My 5 month old insists on being carried all day! He's a whinger!

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Georgiaplus1 · 20/09/2006 20:11

I'm really upset and don't know what the right thing to do: my son is 5 months is a massive WHINGER! He turns it on whenever he's not in my arms. He won't lay down and enjoy his toys and play unless he's being held. He controlls me with his voice. Should I invest time to break this habit of wanting to be held to avoid him being an unhappy child (which will mean him SCREAMING) or shall I just do what he wants and hold him all day long???????

What do you think?

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colditz · 20/09/2006 20:46

By the time he is one, he will not want to come anywhere near you for the majority of the day, he will be far too busy.

Have you tried putting a mirror on the floor and letting him sit opposite it? could he be bored? Ds2, also 5 months, insists on being carried about when he is bored.

morningpaper · 20/09/2006 20:46

All the other babies aren't like that Georgia - it isn't NORMAL for a baby to lie on the floor and not want to be held

Perhaps these babies you are referring to are used to having their needs unmet whatever they do and will grow up to be disassociated psychopaths

misdee · 20/09/2006 20:46

i have this one i was using it today asw dd3 who is now 18months old, is ill, and wanted to be held all day.

FillyjonktheBananaEater · 20/09/2006 20:47

Am a bjorn fan

it will hurt to carry a 5 m o though, its not desgned for a baby that big.

I can't use the others, tbh. any of them. i have a cupboard full. you name it...

except...

the ergo, and the maya wrap, for short periods.

ergo is basically the same as the bjorn in terms of the weight distribtion.

Oh and you have to give it time. build up gradually.

misdee · 20/09/2006 20:47

and my current wrap sling is this one which is fabulous.

FillyjonktheBananaEater · 20/09/2006 20:49

oooh i like that one misdee...

now if i just had a baby to put onj it...

FrannyandZooey · 20/09/2006 20:51

You are welcome Georgia - I like the huggababy and have carried my 3 year old in it across London - the baby bjorn is dreadfully hard to carry any long distance - all the weight is on your shoulders, very painful.

Please just forget what other people are doing and just try to meet your baby's needs - it is soooo much easier and you will have a more contented and relaxed baby at the end of it.

misdee · 20/09/2006 20:51

which one? the calin bleu? i used that during the heatwave on the london undergroud.

FillyjonktheBananaEater · 20/09/2006 20:51

but you cant go wrong with an Ergo

FillyjonktheBananaEater · 20/09/2006 20:52

calin bleu. is it in essence two tubes? i am working on making on a tricotti style sling like that.

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Georgiaplus1 · 20/09/2006 20:54

You're all so lovely. I'm new to this site and I really really appreciate hearing from you all. I'm now looking forward to giving him a cuddle when he wakes up at 3am for a feed. No doubt this feeling will pass at 3.05am!

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FrannyandZooey · 20/09/2006 20:56

Ah, well welcome to the site and enjoy your 3 am cuddle

misdee · 20/09/2006 20:56

the calin is one big long wrap sling. its so lovely and cool to use. i dont sweat too much using it.

Twatcod · 20/09/2006 20:57

god no i hate slings and i hate carrying babies all day long
but ia m wicked real life mum nto earthy type.

its a phase

Twatcod · 20/09/2006 20:57

oh god yes REALLY annoying

Jimjams2 · 20/09/2006 20:58

I've had a wilkinet, hugababy and ergo. Ergo is completely fab, the other 2 are good (huggababy good for older ones).

Twatcod · 20/09/2006 20:59

btui they are so annoying
you think you are going to drop them alld aya nd ythey are so hot
no no no

Jimjams2 · 20/09/2006 20:59

PMSL cod- must admit I did only carry for short periods, never all day- and who are these people who hoover with baby on back- I kept knocking ds3 into the door frame, or wash up- tried that with ds1 and dropped grease on his head.

Twatcod · 20/09/2006 20:59

lol and men (always say theyyll use em
and never do

Jimjams2 · 20/09/2006 21:00

yes agree about hot and sweaty. Ergo was good for bringing ds1 in from school with ds3, knew he would sleep so would strap him in about 3.15 then wait for ds1's bus (about 3.30) meant I could walk ds1 up and down the street 100 times in peace.

SoupDragon · 20/09/2006 21:00

DD is a whinger. Or rather a screamer! She's 7 months old, 20lllbs+ and I carry her in a Kimmer from here. I loveit. The added bonus of these kind of slings is that you can put the baby down on the floor/bed and kind of wriggle out of it without waking them!

DD improved no end once she could sit up unaided by the way.

FillyjonktheBananaEater · 20/09/2006 21:00

Jimjams2 · 20/09/2006 21:02

Also found hugababy good when collecting older child from nuersery and needed something to shove baby in between car and building, without having to fiddle with straps. (Remember I have insane ds1, and need to wrestle with him).

wilkinet was good for tiny baby + dartmoor.

FillyjonktheBananaEater · 20/09/2006 21:02

misdee-5 m of cotton tubing? Is that all there is to it? Seriously?

Am off to the cotton tubing shop if so...

aitch71 · 20/09/2006 21:08

eeerm, georgiaplus1...
(deep breath)

WHILE i totally agree with everything the women here have said (particularly Franny, i am contractually obliged to agree with Franny, we have an understanding) and i would heartily recommend the purchase of a ring sling of some description, i'd also think about taking your wee boy to see a cranio-sacral therapist.

Not because i think there's anything unusual about him (who wouldn't want a 24-hour cuddle if they could shout to get it?) but because i took my dd (we were having breastfeeding problems, i would have tried anything) and the therapist did a wee adjustment on her neck and she immediately became a great deal happier about being put down, particularly on her tummy. She had previously yelled the house down any time i'd dared put her on her front.

The chiropractor woman explained that a lot of babies get a bit yanked about during birth, or even just a bit squashed in utero, and said that she can often help to re-align things.

Who knows? But it will cost you about £40 and it's unlikely to do you or the baby any harm. In the meantime, I like the Tricotti sling myself but the Calin Bleu looks very nice I must say.

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