Hi,
Unsure if this is the right place for my thread.
I have a problem with my in laws.
I have dd6 from previous marriage who my DP has taken on as his own, she calls him daddy and sadly (or not ?) she has no contact with father ( his choice).
So DP took on daughter and made this decision and his family mum, nan, grandad, siblings done the same which was wonderful. However, since a blood grand daughter has been born and my daughters relationship too them has completely changed, she used to be baby sat, paid attention too, treated like their own, but now they never offer to have her, rules that apply to my daughter don't to the blood granddaughter ( for example no dessert if hasn't finished meal for dd however it's fine for the blood grand child.)
Sadly I feel my daughter has started to notice these differences now and it's sad 
Her Christmas and birthdays have been and gone and there was no thought in presents just have cash and said they didn't know what she would like or they were too busy, however the blood grandchild ( obviously had way more spent on her as always) and thoughtful gifts. We are trying for a baby and my biggest worry is that they treat the new one as their own and not my DD, which means I would need to address it as for me I would rather that did not happen.
My problem is the DP grandma once said to me I don't know why families address issues as when they do the relationships are strained ( so don't want to put anymore strain on it than I feel now!)
Any advice please? X