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2nd dry night for ds 7.4. Is this it?!

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Whereisegg · 26/04/2014 10:48

Ds has had very few dry nights in his life, and even fewer of these have been in a row.

At 5 he had his HUGE (surgeon said biggest he'd seen) tonsils and adenoids removed due to sleep apnea.
Dr had mentioned that his brain was so concerned about keeping him breathing, it didn't care if he wee'd but that this would likely resolve itself after surgery.
It did, for 3 nights.

Fast forward a couple of years solid of brick-heavy pants every morning (and occasional wet beds too despite pants), we are on our second morning in a row of bone dry pants.

I don't want to be too outwardly excited at home in front of ds as he can't control it, so I want to be excited here please!

Could this be it, or just a lucky streak?

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Lemonsole · 28/04/2014 22:03

Still, this was your lovely "we're on the up" thread!

Fingers crossed for dry nights or dainty sprinkles all round. Hugs to everyone's DCs who are still addressing this. One day their capacity to sleep deeply will be a blessing and no longer a source of soggy duvets Wink

Whereisegg · 28/04/2014 22:07

Reeeeeeally fighting the urge to lift him when I head up to bed shortly.

It won't help him, it won't help him, it won't help him...

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Whereisegg · 28/04/2014 22:08

And may all our days be sunny to get those sheets dry Grin

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Lemonsole · 28/04/2014 22:12

Yes, step away from the lift! The key is in their getting the hang of waking when their bladder is full. DS's first dry one was such an anticlimax, as he assumed that his alarm had gone off, that we had prodded him off to the loo, changed his pants, and put him back to bed, as we had been doing every night for three weeks. He was amazed when I told him that no alarm had gone off and that nobody had been in. He never has any recollection of any of it.

Never have I been so proud of a puddle of wee on the bathroom floor Smile

Lemonsole · 28/04/2014 22:15

... And may the days of the "thunk" of pull-ups of gallons of wee be numbered. Grin Night! Off to bed now - though I know that I'll be listening like a hawk for him, whether it's the alarm or feet padding down the landing.

Whereisegg · 28/04/2014 22:15

I'm quite pleased it's no help to lift tbh, he's hardly portable anymore!

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Lemonsole · 28/04/2014 22:17

Yes - and a seven year old can wee out more than a blimmin horse, it seems at times. Yum.

Whereisegg · 28/04/2014 22:17

See you in the morning I guess, fingers crossed for us all Smile

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Whereisegg · 28/04/2014 22:17

That 'see you in the morning' seems creepier typed out Grin

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Whereisegg · 29/04/2014 07:33

Another morning of wet, but light pamts here Smile

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Lemonsole · 29/04/2014 09:50

Dry here. Shock That makes five. Still can't really believe it.

Good to hear another light one, Egg: onwards and upwards!

Whereisegg · 29/04/2014 09:53

Five is a whole hand, he's a whole hand dry! Grin

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Lemonsole · 29/04/2014 14:41

He's got his eye on the magic week. Keep trying to stress that we're totally proud, even if the run doesn't last. Do difficult to get the balance right between expectation management and pride, when waking or not waking is totally beyond their control.

He's keen to go commando ASAP. Gulp. Think we'll aim for ten consec dry nights first. But the idea of not paying bloody Dry Nites (did a product ever have a less appropriate name?) 50 p a night is a lovely one.

Lemonsole · 29/04/2014 21:57

Alarm already gone off; DH took ages to wake him. Rats. He'll be gutted. Hmm

Whereisegg · 30/04/2014 07:45

Oh no Sad

Lightest pants that aren't dry yet here.

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Whereisegg · 01/05/2014 07:14

I hope your ds wasn't too disheartened lemon?
It is so hard to grt them to reeeally believe it's not their fault.

We have dry pants here this morning Smile , I hope that you do too!

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feetheart · 01/05/2014 07:25

Might be worth going commando with a bed mat thing instead of a pull-up. The ones that stick on are great. A bit like not using pull-ups when potty training.
My tactic is to ask if DS needs a shower each morning - yes=wet, no=dry.
He is 8.5 and is almost there so there is hope :)

Whereisegg · 01/05/2014 07:33

I can't get my head around no pants Grin

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thegreylady · 01/05/2014 08:23

My dgs is 7.7 and still has many wet beds. They are waiting for a referral to an enuresis clinic. If he is lifted by his dad he is usually dry but they have been told to stop this as his brain has to learn to wake him up. If they are away he is always dry!

thegreylady · 01/05/2014 08:24

He stopped wearing pullups at 5 and has the pads.

Whereisegg · 01/05/2014 08:26

Yes it is so tempting to lift them as it often helps them to still be dry in the morning, but I certainly agree it doesn't actually help them learn to be dry!

Have they checked out the eric website for advice?

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Whereisegg · 01/05/2014 08:28

We have tried without pants sporadically, but it just meant everyone was tired from being up in the night and stressful in winter trying to dry bedding every day.
Ds chose to go back in pants.

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feetheart · 01/05/2014 09:44

If he chose to use pants then go with it.

I have tried to let DS have as much control as possible. Last June/July (at 7.7) it was starting to be bother him so I talked it over with the school nurse and shared her information with DS. He really took the advice onboard (he started a diary, he chose to ditch the pants and he is far more likely to remember not to drink blackcurrant/fizzy stuff 2 hours before bedtime than I am!) and, although it has been slow progress, we are nearly there - the smaller wees are all part of it :)
DS has been on at least 3 Beavers sleepovers and has dealt with his pull-ups on his own (inspite of DH being there as assistant Beaver leader) - a carrier bag and a big wash bag worked well. He wasn't the only Beaver doing it and I know of at least two in the Cubs pack he has just moved up to.

Apparently 10% of 10 year old boys are not dry at night. That's a huge number but no-one ever talks about it so you think yours must be the only one.

Sleepwhenidie · 01/05/2014 09:55

So glad to read this, ds1 is 8 and still not dry at night, it's starting to really upset him, his younger brother and sister have been dry since age 2 and 3 which adds insult to injury. Ds1 has frequent dry nights but not managed more than a week of consecutive nights and I can see no pattern Confused. Was considering alarm but he is a very, very heavy sleeper so now I wonder if it's worth it....DH is getting very stressed about it all too now Sad.

feetheart · 01/05/2014 10:01

Sleepwhenidie - find out who is responsible in your area - I rang and asked the health visitors who put me on to school nurse. Most areas run enuresis clinics I think, ours certainly does. They will have lots of advice and can refer if necessary.

Good luck