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i dont like my neice

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TonyJames · 08/07/2006 22:07

she is horrid spoilt child. an only child, and she just drives me mad. its not her fault, her parents pander to her. if she has a tantrum they ignore for a while then give in. she screams if she is left alone with me and my children. she screams if she doesnt get her own way. i dread her coming round to play as she just tantrums the whole time. she is the same age as one of my children, and my child juststands and stares then asks why she has stropped.

does this make me a bad aunt?

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TonyJames · 08/07/2006 23:42

he actually took a toy off one of my children when she was playing with it quietly and nicely because his PFB wanted it.

in fact this isnt a rant about my neice, its arant about their parenting and how they treat other chidlren when neice is about!

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TonyJames · 08/07/2006 23:45

he actually wrestled something out mf my middle childs hand the other week and a just gaped and said 'we dont do that here' and said to give it back to my child, then ask my child to give it to him, dont just take it off her.

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anotherTonyJames · 08/07/2006 23:46

mysonsmummy · 08/07/2006 23:49

then tell them what you are saying on here about them.

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TonyJames · 08/07/2006 23:50

i have.

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southeastastra · 09/07/2006 00:00

who are you tonyjames?

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TonyJames · 09/07/2006 00:01

i cant say. just in case.

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jinglybits · 09/07/2006 00:03

...tell your mum! go to a higher authority!

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TonyJames · 09/07/2006 00:04

my mum has told them to sort it out as she is turning into a horrible child.

my mum is pretty blunt.

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Miaou · 09/07/2006 00:06

Ah well at least you have support from her too, it's not just you and anotherTJ looking like you are ganging up on her!

jinglybits · 09/07/2006 00:07

then i say stand firm and don't allow the bad behaviour on your teritory. tell them all off, niece and her parents, chastise them by making them sit in the corner

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TonyJames · 09/07/2006 00:08

oooooooo i'd love to do that. sending her dasd to the naughty corner wud be fan-bloody-tastic. seruiously. he needs a parenting manual.

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jinglybits · 09/07/2006 00:10

...my brother was a ...for want of better word...'rotter' when we were young, my other brother and i got sick of his terrible behaviour towards us and my parents lack of intrvrntion. not a good precident to have your kids see her get away with behaviours you don't allow them, e.g taking toys. tell your nieces parents very firmly that your rules apply under your roof

jinglybits · 09/07/2006 00:12

you're like me, you put up with things for a peaceful life and rage underneath!

jinglybits · 09/07/2006 00:12

who r u related to if u don't mind me asking, her mum or dad? am thinking, the mum?

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TonyJames · 09/07/2006 00:14

yes, the mum.

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jinglybits · 09/07/2006 00:16

so this is about your niece and your brother in law!

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TonyJames · 09/07/2006 00:17

the mum too isnt fantastic either, its usually mum and neice at my place.

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jinglybits · 09/07/2006 00:18

next time he takes a toy off your child, take something of his ...wallet/keys from coat pocket and just give it to your child, saying 'ooh you can have that back later on'...

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TonyJames · 09/07/2006 00:19

hahaha, his mobile would be a good place to start.

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jinglybits · 09/07/2006 00:20

so she's your sister, just tell her man! just say 'do u want some help with 'nieces' playing up, we could tackle it together'

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TonyJames · 09/07/2006 00:20

oh no, i couldnt cope, i'd end up snapping and putting all of them in time out in different corners. then icould sit with a cuppa and put my feet up...........

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jinglybits · 09/07/2006 00:21

mayb she's exhausted with fighting her strong willed child and would be grateful for your help?

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TonyJames · 09/07/2006 00:22

but i dont have time to help. we have a lot going on in our own lives. i think i may have to out myself totally and get this deleted.

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jinglybits · 09/07/2006 00:23

i think if u put your foot down with your niece even if her mother won't back u up she'll ultimately respect u for it and submit...or she'll come to dislike u and not want her mother to bring her round anymore...either way u'll end up peacefully!

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