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"ooh hes just like you"

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Codandchips · 23/02/2004 18:58

Ds1 5.5 has lots of habits like me. Short attention span, flitty, spontaneous(thats putting it nicely) rushes in a little(!) and so on.

I know these are my worst traits, but the thing is that they are the things that annoy me the most about him! ( I love him dearly Obv)

Do you find that your child irrritates you like you irritate everyone else?!!

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Moomin · 23/02/2004 19:01

Dd is the first to be seated at the buffet table at a party and the last to leave. Now who could that be like....?

squirmyworm · 23/02/2004 19:03

my ds is still tiny but he is as distractable (maddeningly) as I am and has the attention span of a gnat. When I try to discreetly feed him he whips his face around every few seconds to see if anything more interesting has appeared, exposing my nipple for all to see. Yesterday he did this about 73 times in the public bar (a tent) at Fontwell race course. I can't complain since I am as fidgety as a flea and drive everyone mad too.

grrr

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Codandchips · 23/02/2004 19:04

but does that annoy you? ds1 is a real twitcher and fiddles with everyting - ruches to do something wothout taking care...drives me nuts! and... its just like me.

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kiwisbird · 23/02/2004 19:06

My son is just like his Dad -his dad whom I left when pregnant 10.75 yrs ago because he was scatty, handsome, caring, slghtly mad and eccentric, totally disorganised, always late, no money, and just not relaiable enough to depend on when a child was born
Fortunately DS seems very careful with money, but the mess, the memory and the eccentric handsome genius, he may look like me to 110% of himself but by god he is like his Daddy - we split and I am married with a new baby, but I do love his Dad as you would a family member but to see so much of that man within a child I brought up solely on my won for 4 yrs before he really got involved is just ...
pesky!

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Codandchips · 23/02/2004 19:10

thats weird isnt it?

My Mil has said for the first tme ever that one of our boys looks like her firtt husband (dhs real dad divorced 30 plus years ago) we always wonderes if she would mention it

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Posey · 23/02/2004 21:11

Can't think off the top of my head about the children's habits. But hate to admit I find myself doing some of the things that my mum does that annoy me intensely. Dh just says to me "Mother!" which stops me in my tracks. Dh does the same as his dad.
Maybe its because they are so irritating that we notice them so much.

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Codandchips · 24/02/2004 08:39

dh pronounces certain words like his mUm which get my goat. also only he can slag her off when he chooses

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oliveoil · 24/02/2004 09:23

dd has the most amazing strops if you move her to change a nappy or whatever if she wants to do something else. Has been mentionned that I am a bit er, stroppy occasionally. She has a frown that is exactly like dh as well which is worrying, had it from birth as well, v funny photo of her glaring at about 6 weeks old.

motherinferior · 24/02/2004 09:32

DD1 talks. And talks. And talks. Er...

Twinkie · 24/02/2004 09:34

DD - obbsessively tidy and clean, annoyingly right all of the time, does not listen to anyone else, sooo logical - ha ha that me most certainly (only joking girls!! )

No DD is like her father a lot - she looks exactley like me though - as everyone tells me all of the time - and we get constant - oooohhhh she's nothing like her father but the image of you - THATS BECAUSE HE IS NOT HER FATHER!!!!!!

wilbur · 24/02/2004 09:50

Ds still very much his own person - no really obvious things from either of us (except a love of jigsaw puzzles which must come from my fil!). But dd already has a very similar temper to mine in that she's fine almost all of the time, genuinely good-natured, but when she does get cross, OMG, 0-60 in less than a second and much harder to calm down than ds ever was. It doesn't irritate me, but I do worry that she's going to do some of the putting-foot-in-it-while-cross things that I have done.

marialuisa · 24/02/2004 09:58

DD seems (for the moment) to have the better parts of both of us. She has inherited DH's easy-going, socially confident side but my love of order. She looks most like me (thank God) but unfortuantely has my stumpy legs/long body combination. Overall she's definitely nicer than either me or DH but I guess that will change as she gets older. Sadly she also has inherited the argumentative gene from both of us and an unshakeable belief in the correctness of her own views.

aloha · 24/02/2004 10:06

Ds is laidback like dh, totally unathletic like me, loves his home, like both of us, loves to eat (ditto) and loves books (me mostly) and sitting about (definitely me!).

Evita · 24/02/2004 11:01

Dd is an enigma. She's nothing like either me or her father. To look at, she's got his colouring and my eyelashes (look, it's my only claim to fame and I'm sticking to it). But she's much more outgoing than we are and doesn't sit still like we do. My mom says she's quite like me in temperament when I was small except that I never smiled much and dd's a real grinner and giggler. I guess she is like me in that she's v. careful with things, quite delicate in her movements, has a reasonably small frame (dp is 6,5!). But truly when people meet her we always get a 'hmmm ... she's not really like either of you is she?'

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Codandchips · 24/02/2004 11:10

but my point is that do the traits most like you annoy you?

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spacemonkey · 24/02/2004 11:15

In answer to that question - yes!

I think it's perfectly normal to find people (including one's own kids) who are too like oneself irritating. It's not always nice to be confronted with one's own worst habits. IME I find I have quite extreme relationships with people who are very like me in personality - when we get on well, we get on REALLY well, but when we don't, we REALLY don't!

Fortunately neither of my children are very like me, but I know exactly what you mean coddy

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Codandchips · 24/02/2004 11:16

I find myself saying things to him that my mum saud to me (ie read the question, slow down,take care) and they make no difference as they didnt to me!

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Galaxy · 24/02/2004 11:17

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zebra · 24/02/2004 11:18

When I said "Independent Little Cuss!" of DD, all my family giggled inanely while my mother chimed in "You deserve it!"

zebra · 24/02/2004 11:19

Alas, she looks a heck of a lot like me, too.

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Codandchips · 24/02/2004 11:21

Its the stripes that give the game away.!

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handlemecarefully · 24/02/2004 11:40

dd (19 months) is obsessive if she spills something on the floor - gets quite distressed and tries to wipe it up with her sleeve. I'm quite compulsively tidy.

She also has a look that kills which she brings out on special occasions for people she is wary of - a sort of grim faced frown. Dh says she gets that from me.

I'm hoping that son to be (due April) will be more like his dad, since dh, although having MANY faults, is more laid back than me. And I quite fancy a laid back baby!

handlemecarefully · 24/02/2004 11:43

Oh and answering your specific question cod and chips - do her traits which are similar to mine cause me irritation? Tbh - no they don't, I find them endearing (which I suppose makes me a smug person who loves myself - oh dear! )

jenie · 24/02/2004 11:45

Dd is very like me in heaps of ways and these little things drive me nuts! She's never wrong and can argue her point in several different ways including refrasing what she's said, she never backs down to other peoples views because she's always right!

She likes to go off and just be by herself sometimes - usually when I want to do something with her! Then ofcourse she's too busy.

She likes to be incharge and to boss people around but hates being bossed around and can't see that she does it.

If she can't do something it's never because of her lack of practise it's because something's broken or I haven't shown her how to do it properly.

Yesterday she walked infront of the trolley at the supermarket and got a bit run into by me and it was all my fault for pushing the trolley and not hers for not looking where she was going.

throckenholt · 24/02/2004 12:07

my DS1 seems to be developing the traits of his father that annoy me most ! He seems to have inherited the specially sharpened elbows which seem to have the sole purpose of digging in to me !

We have 2 other younger sons - I hope to god they don't follow the same route - I think I might emigrate and not tell anyone

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