omg dd just simulated bj on a banana - she is 6

[pecka]

DD is eating a banana. She just said to me mam this feels like im sucking a willy. I turned round and lo and behold she is doing a very BJ like action on this banana.

WTF?

Do I worry?

How does she know that willies get sucked?

[pecka]

It is my ex's brothers child.

ex is not a brilliant dad at the best of times and i just feel this is just a failing too far

i know im sounding over the top but finding it so hard that my angel is sleeping upstairs with a head full of filth

[LadyTophamHatt]

Blimey Pecka....I would hit the roof if I was in your shoes.

You must tell the parent and DD dad too....

[Cod]

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[HappyMumof2]

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[Cod]

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[FrannyandZooey]

I agree with cod

Really, I do

I would be hopping mad, and think you should make sure nothing like this ever happens again, but this is not going to traumatise your dd or affect her long term or anything awful. She may well have a giggle about it when she is older: "Oh do you remember that awful cousin X, she showed me some terrible porn thing on her mobile when I was about 6"

[gothicmama]

you need to talk to her parents or to her to find out wher she got the image from - it may just be friends for a laugh but equally it could be more sinister I would also be wary of letting dd spend time with her on her own I don't wantto sound too alarmist here

[NotAnOtter]

i would talk to girl and her mum but with your dd leave well alone. If she questioned you or brought it up i would brush it off 'what a silly thing for xxxxx to say '.Otherwise never mention again!
Continue feeding bananas though!

[NotQuiteCockney]

I'd be annoyed, but really really, your DD will be fine. Kids get ahold of all sorts of inappropriate materials, and ok, yeah, best avoided, but not the end of the world.

[hunkermunker]

That's because it is yucky, Pecka.

But Cod is right.

It will pass.

What a shock though.

[schnapps]

There's a porn video clip doing the rounds at the moment with Lea from big brother. It's sounds like what your cousin might have had on her phone. Just thinking that maybe the clip has been sent to the girl's phone because it's Lea from BB, rather than because of the content. Obviously it doesn't make it any better that your dd saw it, but it might explain why your cousin has somehting on her phone that she probably isn't really into. It was sent to me by email and it really isn't my thing at all but I couldn't help but have a look just because of who was in it iyswim

[pecka]

schnapps - would you care to describe it, if it is that just so i know what kind of actual detail she has seen

[pecka]

that probably sounds a bit dodgy and probably not best to be explicit but for example was it just "willy sucking" or further stuff

[schnapps]

Well, man sucks boob, man performs cunnilingus, waman sucks willie, woman sticks tongue out and man finishes self off on to tongue

[schnapps]

sorry for the details everyone!!

[pecka]

said cousin has denied everything and is very upset. My DD is now being doubted but she saw it from somewhere. A 6 yr old CANT make that up.

Im now worried it has come from somewhere else

[RudiRedNose]

Oh pecka, what a dreadful evening. You have done really well to keep your head on your shoulders and not zoomed off into orbit. Your dd is not spoiled in any way, she is a lovely little girl who is lucky to have such a caring mum.
How about suggesting that the girl's parents confiscate her phone for a while (or you do not allow her to have or use it in your house) and if she really needs one and shows that she is responsible enough to use it properly then perhaps she should be made to have a crappy old mobile that can't recieve pictures?

[maisiemoosmum]

sounds to me as though the cousin is telling porkies. if your DD was honest and open enough to tell you in first place, she wouldn't then lie about who had showed her. so i wouldn't worry on that score. and you totally don't sound over the top at all pecka. i would be seriously bloody livid! i do find it a little disturbing the cousin would show the 6yo in 1st place though. she must have been aware that wasn't right. little children see far too much, too young these days. even the 13yo's of this world. why can't kids just be innocent uncorrupted kids anymore instead of mini adults. who peddles this filth anyway. grrrrr!

[RudiRedNose]

Anoher thought. Teenagers, in my experience, do not get really upset if there is nothing to hide. Lying girls tend to get more hysterical than anyone else. Shhhh...they don't know we're on to them!

[wannaBe1974]

another good argument for why young teens shouldn't be allowed to have mobile phones imo.

[Tortington]

i would call the police - indeed i have in the past.

a 10 year old girl and my 6 yr old twins.

in my garden - she asked them to do something inapropriate. i called the police.

of course there wasn't a prosecution of anything but i think the seriousness of the situation hit home far more than the parents - telling child off - or not as the case may be.


yes i woudl call the police. a child innocence should not be wantonly disregarded with such distain. and a 13 yr old would know this.

[SleepyJess]

Crikey, the police? I am not playing down the seriously of the situation.. either this phone issue.. or the children-in-the-garden scenario but IMHO both sound like situations that - as they stand - could be strictly dealt with by parents/adults of children concerned. Altho obv I don't know what the 10 y/old said/did.

[ggglimpopo]

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