I would like lots of people to come on this thread and tell me it's FINE that my 5yo isn't anywhere close to being dry at night

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It is fine isn't it?

I seem to be surrounded by 2 and 3 yr olds who are dry at night.

I don't see what on earth I can do to usher him in the right direction - if we leave the nappy off he wees by 11.00pm and doesn't wake up. If we change him.then he wees again before morning and sleeps so heavily he hasn't a clue.

I remember loads of girls at school still wetting at 8/9/10 (though some of that may have been to do with being away from home) and see my nephew still not being dry at night at nearly 9, whilst his brother has been fine since he was 4ish. It's something that takes longer for some children than others. My sister was well into her teens before it stopped being a problem for her.

It's fine. My Dd2 hadn't ever had a dry night til she was 5.9, then suddenly one day she woke up dry and that was it - she's 7 now and has never had a single accident. Don't worry.

Friend's DS was approaching 9 and still not dry when the GP finally considered it a medical issue.

He was given tablets and dry in 6 months.

You really don't need to be worrying at 5

This is Australian, but it has a nice chart showing that bed wetting is much more common than you'd [http://www.rch.org.au/kidsinfo/fact_sheets/Bedwetting/ think]

My ds now 5 was dry overnight by aged 3 his best friend same age has never been dry overnight. Either is fine, children just do different things at different stages.

try again

My DD is 5 and I still have to lift her nightly. She won't give up her last cup of milk at bedtime...if I could get that gone, she'd go through I think.

I won't put nappies on her though. She'd be devestated! I go in once at about 10pm and carry her to the loo and she stays asleep but does a wee.

perfectly OK and not uncommon.

Just some advice I was told - I was trying to get DS to have a drink up to a certain time and then not after that - however the advice is its best for them to have a drink before they go to bed - not hot choc or tea though.

DS is nearly 7 and not dry at night. He just can't do it, almost nothing wakes him.

It does bother him sometimes, and he hates the fact that his schoolfriends and similar-age cousins are dry, but day-to-day at home it's not an issue. I will mention it to the doc again when he is 7 though.

Fine. Absolutely.

My two were dry at night at 5y 9mo and 5y 6mo respectively. Youngest wanted to try of his own accord when he was nearly 4 and again when about 4 and a half, but he just slept through wetting the bed. Becoming dry happened very quickly when they were really ready, with v few accidents - as indeed it did when they became dry in the day (age 3 and a half for both of them).

I am firmly convinced it is physiological.

I posted in the potty training section about this a couple of weeks ago, as I had the same problem with my Dd, age 7. My GP recommended trying to give her loads of fluids during the day to try and stretch her bladder and we had AMAZING results with this. I mean literally within a week or so she was completely dry through the night and has been ever since (about a month now or so)
It might not work for everyone but it was absolutely brilliant for us. Have a look for my post, or message me and I'll inbox you the details. I wish we had tried this years ago!

Good luck :)

It's fine. DS got dry at night last Summer, just before he was 6 in October. He was also a deep sleeper, but a lot of it was habit actually of weeing in his pull up. Took only 3 days to get dry, although maybe a month to get no accidents altogether.

DD is 4.5 and not dry yet, but again I think it's habit for her. We are going to have a go with her this Summer re take the pull ups away.

At 7 they give you an alarm so they wake up when wet (helps deep sleepers). And then I think they can test for the hormone thing and if necessary supply it. It's true that some kids are not ready until 7 to go dry, but some are like my kids and have got into a habit (and have lazy parents like me who won't lift them or go to the toilet in the night with them- at least when they are older they are happy to do this if they need to!).

My DD has just turned 6 and she's nowhere near being dry at night. Damn expensive pyjama pants!!!!

It is totally fine!

My son wasn't dry until about 7 1/2, my daughter was about 6 and my other son is almost eight and still not. He had a run of dry nights but just the other day wet the bed through his pull up. Can't train them so just letting their boy do what it needs to do.

If it wasn't common, there wouldn't be the market for the pyjama pants and bed mats.

My DD2 was dry at night from the second she was dry in the day. About 2 and a half.

My DD1 was most upset by this as she was still frequently wet, and was right up to starting high school. She's 12 now and MUCH better, but still not completely reliably dry.

We were told to go away (politely, with a little advice) by the GP when she was 7 and she was finally referred to the enuresis clinic when she was 9. They gave lots more advice, but the only thing that really worked was waiting til nature took its course.

dd1 did not have even one single dry night nappy until 4.11
then was consistently dry by 5 - just like a switch had been flicked.

Try using cloth pull-ups. They feel more uncomfortable and obviously wet. I'm sure the very absorbent nappies and pull-ups hinder some children from becoming dry.

DS is 6 and we've tried and tried, but he's just not ready yet.

DS1 is 6.6 and DS2 is 4.7 - neither are dry at night yet.

We stopped night time nappies with DS2 at 6.5. Lifted twice, no drinks after 5.30pm, still wet regularly (once or twice a week). Just before 7 we had a big talk about stopping lifting and a reward system. He went five nights dry. Still the occasional wet the other side of 7 but we're just about there now.

At 5 there wasn't the slightest possibility of starting to think about trying for dry nights with him - he had sodden nappies every night.

I know two other boys of same age/ class that the parents pushed for dry nights harder at 7. I also know of people who say their DC were completely dry at 2.

My neighbours ran out of nappies when their DD was not yet two. Within a day she was using the toilet and went straight to dry nights. In a fit of envy I decided that my just 2 year old DD (third child) could master this easily too. Two days going through the majority of her wardrobe, we ran out of kitchen roll, she became distressed and I reminded myself their all imdividuals.

Their = they're!

My DS has been dry at night since just before he turned 3. He has just got up (now 5) and weed all over the stairs though. Even when they are dry early, it doesn't mean the end of clearing up wee! Friends DD was about 7 before she was dry at night, it's not a race, they generally get there in the end!

It is fine.

DS1 dry day and night aged 2.5, took his nappy off the first night and never looked back, didn't have to lift him in the night, nothing.

DS2 however... he potty trained himself at 18 months, wouldn't wear nappies, wanted to be like his big brother and during the day he was fine, but night times... sheesh did I wash a lot of sheets and this went on till he was about 9 years old. He went into such a deep sleep he would just constantly wee the bed even after being lifted at around 11pm and drinks being stopped after 6pm.

Please don't worry.

its fine

There seem to be a vast majority of boys here. anyone know why that might be?