6 month old hates me

[joanna1985]

Im a first time mum and My 6 month old is teething and crys with me like he crys with no one else. When its just us two in the house unless i entertain him all of the time he gets irritable then he wont let me put him down. Wants to be held all the time and screams when i put him down. It's making me think i don't give him enough good attention but sometimes i just want to have a minute to read a paper or make a cup of tea. Does that make me a crap mummy? Honestly? Then when i bring him to my mums hes all smiles and laughs and she says i dont know how lucky i am to have a good baby. Today he screamed cos i put him in the pram and walked for 20 mons. I couldnt lift him out cos it was snowing and he got in such a state and was sobbing, my mum was so shocked said dont let him cry like that. Its making me think he must just hate me :(

So my mum took him last night and he was out and about all day today and hes loads better and i feel better to. Think i needed a wee break tbh. Being cooped up in the house together this week with the snow has probably bothered him as much as me! Thanks for all your replies. much appreciated :)

There's a surprise Yellow maybe they were using reverse physicology tactics on newborns or summat.

Glad you're feeling better OP. you really need to get out of the house when you've got a baby!!!! Otherwise you go md.

Nothing like a bit of open mindedness. I pointed you in the direction. If you are not interested, just say so. Don't try to put the blame on me. I'm sure you are capable or research. :) oh mn is full of enlightenment.

I am open minded, would happily read more, as you have stated there is loads of research surely you could just share it?

Or you could just Google? Its not a new fangled thing. Been around for a while and like I said its evidence based and therefore used widely by professionals.

But presumably you mean the articles that inform your psychological work?

Yes. But you have to be a member to access them. Here is a free resource. Dont shoot the messenger. Its accepted knowledge. synapse.org.au/get-the-facts/abc-approach-to-behaviour-fact-sheet.aspx

I read the article but I still do not understand how it is relevant to a 6mo baby with toothache.

Agree Yellow. Not sure why you wouldn't give a 6 month old baby a cuddle on the premise that they're manipulating you into doing so.

When do babies get a sense of "self"? I thought that came at 9 months +?

Los 1st two teeth have appeared think that must have been making him worse! He seems in much better form

Glad he's feeling happier!

That's such good news. The discomfort must have affected his behaviour, perhaps a lesson learned for next time? [busmile]

Know ow you feel. My dd (5mo) is teething and has become clingy for me, as well as grumpy, but smiley for others- makes me feel exactly like you described. X