HURTING THE DOG PLEASE HELP

[MySonIsMyWorld]

My ds is 2 in May, he is always hurting out poor old little yorkie i mean really hurting him, punching, smacking him on the head with things, pulling his ears, poking his eyes etc etc is his VILE to him and i blame my ex (he used to be vile to our poor little dog too) everytime i tell ds off for doing it he laughs at me, i push him down and ignore him, he does it again and again and agian. My dog is 16 yesterday he had another stroke, he is in his last weeks of life and i am sick of ds treating him like this, any advice?

I have a stair gate and our dog has a little cushion on the sofa to lie on, ive been trying to teach ds to leave him alone and he does sometimes but then all of a sudden i turn around and he is sat on him or something, sometimes he is just sat next to him stroking him but other times he hurts him, i cant work it out....
He doesnt treat any other animal like that, just the dog which is strange because he is nice to my aunties dog and his grans dog

Well, ignoring any thoughts on how it has got to this, as - don't know, this is what I would do.
If it was another child, I would be making a huge fuss of the injured child, paying it lots of attention and lots of comments like how horrid being hit (not though, 'horrid x') and taking ds somewhere to time out. I would also buy a playpen or cage so that the dog had a safe haven which was banned to ds. Lots of chatting during the day about poor dog, not feeling well, let's all remember to be so kind to him, and getting ds involved in nice things - feeding it, etc.

OP you sound like a total loon. No wonder your son sounds like he is turning into a horrible little git, sounds like he is taking after you.

Your poor poor little dog. it makes me so sad that the little dog can not enjoy his senior years in peace, with someone that loves him and protects him.

Keep them separate then

Put the dog to sleep if you can't sort this issue out, its not fair - poor thing. I'm sorry if that seems harsh but where is your dogs quality of life? He is probably terrified, and people are right your DS is going to think he can do this to all dogs and if he did it to mine.........

Well, goodness me.

It's no mystery how you managed to raise a little shit.

2 year olds are not reasonable creatures, but have natural cunning: your DS will know fine that the old dog cannot really hurt him and that his mother has so far been rather ineffective in stopping him from hurting the dog.

You are the adult here, responsible for your dog and your son. Your dog has every right to expect his remaining time to be peaceful, or at the very least not painful. Your DS has even more right to expect you to teach him that it is never ok to pick on somebody smaller/weaker/less status-y than yourself.

2 year olds often behave, IMVHE, like psychopaths: unpredictable, charming and lethal, often with only a split second between the two. You MUST keep your DS and your poor dog apart. By whichever mean practical.

I know the dog is getting on...is it possible to ask the aunt or gran to look after the dog? Maybe if your son was only visiting the dog he wouldnt see it as 'his' and might treat it with the same respect he shows the other dogs?

Look, it's relatively normal for young children (he's only 22 months after all) to be sometimes a bit unkind to animals - it's part of the learning process that a lot of children go through and they are not often being deliberately cruel. It's usually based around curiosity 'what will happen if I do this?'. I suppose what complicates this is the fact he might have seen the OP's ex deliberately hurt the dog. OP your duty now is to instill real kindness into your ds and show him and tell him that the dog is a living creature who can feel pain and fear. And even after your little dog is gone, go on showing/telling your ds that animals should be treated kindly. He'll learn.

And try not to tell people who are trying to help you to fuck off as well.

Wow people theres absolutely no need to return the personal attacks

And other posters calling a 20 month old child a little shit is just lovely too isn't it

Have you got an old travel cot/play pen you can put your DS into (with no toys so it's not fun) every time he tries to hurt the dog?

Just give the dog away

And other posters calling a 20 month old child a little shit is just lovely too isn't it

Precisely what I was thinking.
My ds used to try and hurt the cat when he was that age.
I was beside myself and did everything I could to stop it.

He is now a lovely 22 yr old chef with a gorgeous cat of his own who he adores.
Some little children do this as they also wallop other dc in the soft play.
It doesn't mean they are psychopaths on the making.

I like how she says she pushes her child and you all run to the defense of the dog? I mean I understand poor animal and that, but why are you pushing your son down?

Yes, I thought that too. Ineffectual disciplining just teaches him that he can go it again.

I think we all feel protective of the dog as he is old and sick.
Of course the wee one will learn, but it's still not fair on the dog to have to put up with it.

Korma btw

Ok sorry I have upset you OP and sounded so harsh. Children and dogs are emotive issues. However i do stand by my advice that you should keep them separate. And from your original post saying your ex and now child are vile to dog it does sound like he has had a rough time anyway u hope you get things sorted and are not put off getting/asking for help.

You sound like your son is at fault here.

No this is learned behaviour and it's your job to put it right.

Your son gets a reaction from you. As soon as he goes for the dog, move son, tell him to be gentle and move him away immediately. Don't react more than that - no cross voice, nothing, just move him. Also show him how to touch the dog and reward him for doing well.

Creameggkr - was your cat 16 and just had a stroke? OP please do the decent thing and put the poor fucking dog to sleep and don't ever get another one!

Discipline your child. If you won't then have the poor little sod (dog) put down. Then rethink your parenting.

Sadly those kind of ads are in our local paper more than you'd like to think... relating to dogs mainly